Who Would Take Care of You...

Thank goodness your mom is taking care of your grandmother. I think that one of my 4 children would take care of me. Probably my daughter, but my boys always tell me that they wouldn't put me in a nursing home if it came to that. My sister has no children, and I would hope that if something happened to her, if I wasnt' able to care for her, either one of my children would step up, or one of her other neices and nephews. It is a scary though, getting older and nursing homes.

Well, if it happened right this minute, my parents would do it. They wouldn't have the money, but they would make due. I just know they wouldn't be able to stand putting me in a nursing home if my mind was aware of what was going on, even if my body was helpless. I have no husband or children, and even though my sister loves me, I don't think she would do it. She is married, but even if she didn't ever have kids, I don't think she would.

I would not want to burden my son and daughter in law with this dilemma. We have talked about it and I have told them I would use up all my assets to pay for a good nursing home if I was bedridden. They do not expect an inheritance from me but would wish me to be comfortable. Some nursing homes are hell, others are really nice. My mom is 95 years old, she is not bedridden as yet, thank the lord, but she needs a lot of help. She is fortunate to have an adequate income for all the services she needs. Someone comes in to clean her place, someone comes in to help her with a bath, someone comes in to cut her finger and toenails, someone comes in every six weeks to cut her hair. She also is provided with one hot meal a day. She still gets her own breakfast and supper. She absolutely dreads the idea of a nursing home. So if she became bedridden more services would have to be paid for. Our family would be willing to chip in to cover the extra cost. Needless to say she gets daily visits from the family. I realize this solution is not open to everyone.

I have a feeling that eventually there will be a point when I no longer feel useful. At that point I'll probably try to find some way to end it. I'd hate to be a burdon to my family.

I guess my husband and my daighter would try their best to take care of me if I become ill. I really do not have anyone else who would be willing to do so or able. I really wouldn't want to live that way, but it is better than a nursing home. I try to stay healthy also because I do not want to be a burden to my husband or my daighter but sometimes our health is inevitable. I would still try to do alot for myself so they wouldn't have to do it.

I believe my wife and my children will take care of me once I'm old or bedridden. Right now I'm taking care of my mother after my dad passed away many years ago. as christian, we must respect the eldest and it should go be practice. Therefore, I don't worry about being old or bedridden.

yes it’s a big problem with modern living. Even if we do have children, they are way too busy with their personal lives to stay at home and take care of aged parents. And to be fair to them, we give them the best in life in the hope that they will have a good career for themselves and when they do, we cant expect them to give it up all for old parents. This is my personal though. I have an only child and I would never expect him to give up his life and take care of me. I have no siblings and I wouldn’t even want my hubby to nurse me. Fact is, I would hate to be nursed with a sponge and a bed-pan (by anybody). I hope to leave the stage on my own two feet.

my family strongly believes in taking care of their ill or incapacitated members - no nursing homes - sur ewish I was able to have a lto more children! I suppose if my husband was not able to tend to my needs and my mother was not either, if long term it would fall to one of my children...or they would take turns with me :)

It is not only strokes that can affect you at a relatively young age twoey - I have chronic back and leg problems and I am very limited in what I can do for myself let alone my children! I have very supportive friends but I have no idea what I would do without the help and support of my partner and children, even though they are only 6 and 14 they do a lot to help me! What would happen if it were not for them I cannot even bear to think about! xxx

I think that my daughter or son would take care of me. I would go into to a nursing home if I had to. Becoming a care taker of someone is the most stressful job there is espically if the one in need is mean.

I know how you feels. My mom in law went into the hospital last 2 weeks ago, got a part of her large intestine out. Hospital cost alone goes way up high. Good thing my husband uncles voluntere to shoulder the bill. Yes, it got me thinking,what if I would need this kind of hospitalization. Who would shoulder the bill? My husband is not rich, in facts his earnings is not enough to keep us alive. Being a freelancer , we doesn't have medical insurance and we don't have a good medical insurance company that is trustworthy to put your money into. I have one daughter at this time, hopefully she can take care of me, but I think she has a life of her own by the time comes and I don't want to be a burden for her. Yes, we can be helpless even is we maintain to be strong and healthy. I think if it does happen to me, I'll allow God to take my life without having to spend that much or burden people around me. To me living as a burden to others is not living. I'd rather leave this earth in peace.

Right now my mother would take care of me.Later on my wife would take care of me.Mostly above earthly people I know that God would take care of me.I would not like to live a sick life.because i know the pain that comes along with it

If it happens, it is terrible. I think nobody would like to take this responsibility, even it is my husband. the only way is that welfare will take this, but I think the appointed nurse is not good as i want, I will feel helpless. if at that time, I don't know how to do.

It will do so much if you ask God to guard your health. But as for me, luckily even though I have no kids yet, my husband, for sure, will be more than willing to take care of me and vice versa if that happens to me. I am also blessed with sisters who have the heart to change my clothes, bathe me and to do things for me in the absence of my husband.

Like you I don't have kids and it seems I may not. I know my sister would take care of me. Actually we've already made a pact that if our hubby's both die when we get older then we'll move in together. And I hope that my relationships with her future children and my other nieces and nephews will be strong enough for them to want to help me too :)

It would be the greatest blessing to die with all your faculties in order and when you are totally self reliant.But who knows the ways of God?: Noone, irrespective of whether their children would take care or siblings would do it,would find such a state of affairs palatable. We can only pray for God's grace and try and do whatever is within our means to maintain ourselves. I have seen my father invalid for 18 years but enormously selfreliant.But he was forcibly bedridden for one and a half years, when my mother tookcare of him totally .However, I was also there to give as much support as i could and my husband helped him as much as he could. bUT STILL,I believe that one should be lucky to pass away in dignity.

Well...my sister or my best friend, husband, or children would take care of me. I think they would not send me to nursing home, as I work in one, and would wish for better care for myself. The one I work for is very good, but I would prefer to stay in my home as long as I could. I think with the networking of all of the above, I would recieve the ultimate in care at home...

To be honest, I try my best not to think of things like this. I do not have children right now, but I hope that by the time I get to that stage, if my children are not old enough. My nieces and nephews would step in and hire someone to help take care of me. I believe that they will, because they have grown up with me around and I have been like a second mom to them. The there are 11 of them. The oldest one is 20 and the youngest one will be two next month. Between all of them, somebody ought to love me enough to take care of me.

I hope my sons will take care of me when i get sick or bedridden. This is actually one of my conversations with my 3 year old son. He said he will take care of me. That is so sweet,actually. It makes me teary-eyed. If my sons cannot or will not take care of me, i hope that they will ask a relative to take care of me in the province. I do not want to be placed in a nursing home. It is so important for me to live a healthy lifestyle so i will not get sick or be bedridden.

I know that my children would take care of me if it came to that.My mother and MIL both went to nursing homes. My MIL is still in one. I threw a fit when my mom went but she would ahve it no other way.She started out in an assisted living home because she was losing her sight. When she became Ill they moved her to the nursing home. I tried to get her to come home with me but she wouldn't do it.She said she wanted to go to the nursing home where her friends were now.Since may of them from the assited living home were there now.Even on her last days when she knew she was dieing she told the doctors she wanted to go back to the nursing home and die so she could be by her friends. My mother was in a very good nursing home witch I know is rare. Also the one my MIL is in is also great and its only 10 minutes from us. I think I would rather go in a nursing home then be a burden to my family.