cheating, consequences

I probably would have done the same thing you have. But it's hard to say we've never cheated at a game at least one in our lives. I use cheats on videogames and stuff. But VERY RARELY do I ever cheat at cards or board games.

I would have called him on it as well. My son has a hard time losing and we have dealt with it before when he was younger. It took awhile, but he finally understood that winning by cheating gives you an empty feeling, no true feeling of accomplishment. As long as you try and do your best it's okay that you lose. Went through it with my daughter as well, she started because she wanted to beat her brother. What a cycle. You might also want to explain the conquences of cheating in an organized tournament. I assume that you would get kicked out, be embrassed, lose face infront of his peers, etc. I do think you were being fair. I would have done it if it was my child or someone elses.

Frankly all these virtues confuse me!! I have come to a point in life when I feel nothing is 'bad' or 'good' in itself. I have no kids, so I dunno what I would have done if I caught my kid cheating. But I will try to explain my point over here. We teach kids not to cheat; yet there is loads of cheating in the world; and the truth is rarely accepted. We live in a world of lies. I was taught not to cheat and I really learnt that lesson well. This is what happened as a result of that: 1. When I was in the 9th grade, the teacher told us to cheat when there were five minutes for the exam to end. I was shocked; well, my parents had taught me not to cheat and in catechism classes they had told me not to cheat and here a teacher was asking us to cheat!! ALL the kids took the opportunity to copy answers and I just sat dumbly. The teacher was offended and made my life miserable till I finished school. 2. When I was teaching college, I had to supervise a test. The squad descended all of a sudden and caught a boy with a lot of notes. He had smuggled it into the exam hall. It upset me a lot, especially when the principal blamed me and hardly scolded the boy. I really hadn't spotted the papers and I couldn't be expected to physically search a boy!! In addition, I observed a lot of students console the boy as if he were the victim!! I realised that cheating is not cheating but 'helping oneself or the other'. It was a way to protect oneself, as your child was doing. Please find out what he was protecting himself against. Not that I am for cheating. Cheating is bad, but most of the world secretly doesn't seem to think so, according to my experience. So be a bit tactful and don't set hard and fast, unbreakable moral rules for your child. He might feel confused later on just as I did. Cheers and wish you all the best.

If possible I would have gotten a picture to prove he was cheating just incase something more developed out of the situation. I would have then called him on it but in a way that I would hope not have embarassed him. I would have ended the game by distracting them with something else. I would share info with his parent and leave it in their hand to discipline him.

I call my kids on cheating ALL the time. My 5 year old does it more than my 6 year old and it is always the same response. Cards thrown, and stomping off to their room whining they go. I just recently called my 11 year old on throwing down a draw 4 in Uno on me when I knew she had a # 2 card in her hand (I knew cause I was cheating by looking at her cards reflecting in her glasses, but thats just me being observant) :) She started to cry and when I asked her why, she said it was because she felt she had to cheat to try to beat me since she couldn't win any other way. A whole lot of lessons were learned that night. I haven't caught her cheating since and while she still can't beat me at Uno he whoops up on me when we play rummy.

You did good. We have to teach our next generation to be polite and honest. Will be hard to teach them, but you´re in the right way.

I think what you have done is right. cheating is a very very bad habit. if it grows from this young age, its more bad as i guess. But always you should be polite and let him understand in good way that it is not right to cheat.

Haha you know, that is the same reaction every child gives for some reason when caught cheating LMAO i think its so funny i wonder though. whats the feeling at that time. embarrasment,anger, or anygry they just got caught with a litlte embarrasment ontop?.lol all kids try the cheating thing. all u can do really is just try and talk and talk and talk and talk till their blue in the face and let them know that this is not a good thing to do and the consequences are bad,,,

You said your stepson is learning disabled...that's a whack to the self esteem right there. He's not up with the other kids and probably feels pretty bad about himself. When he wins, he feels good. He's come out on top for once! I think that you need to have a talk with him, not about the cheating but how he feels about himself. Does he ever wake up in the morning and feel like he can conquer the world? Or is it just another day of failure? Does he think he's stupid? Cos he's not! Your description of his cheating proves he's clever and able to think and plan ahead--those are ALL traits of successful people. Please try to boost his opinion of himself. I think that's why he's cheating. It's the only way he knows to be king of the hill. Hope everything turns out ok!