Both of you have changed ????????

Its all very normal what you are experiencing. In the beginning couples try extra hard for each other. Once the relationship gets more comfortable and they are confident that the other person is going to be around for a while, it is normal to relax. It is a good thing but also you have to guard against it getting so routine that you stop doing special things for each other to show that you still really care and to keep that spark going. talk about it with him. Every now and then you have to (both of you) do something out of the ordinary to keep it alive. Don't ever ever take your love for granted.

I guess you need to spice up more your relationship, try something else and dedicate a time for just the two of you. That way, you can both settle and talk about the things that you used to do with each other. It helps to listen and speak freely, without even causing misunderstandings with one another. Couple all deal with these types of problem, it depends on the two on how they want to work out their relationship or keep it in that type of situation like the two of you has..

This could very well be true! People change, now if it's for the good or the better, who's to say,? You'll just have to let your heart guide you on this one!

Yes, I think that every relationship comes to that at some point. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, it usually means they've gotten comfortable with the relationship and they don't remember the little things they used to do that meant the world to you. Sometimes you have to remind them, not nag them, but tell them how you are feeling. My husband and I went through that about a year and a half ago and we had to really sit down and reevaluate the way things were going and what we used to do for each other that just seemed to go away. Honestly though, you need to look deep within yourself and focus on you and how you react to things and that sort of thing. When you change and realize that only you can make yourself happy and not expect your spouse to make you happy, then they will notice that and usually change for the good. Do things for him and expect nothing in return. He will see that change and want to do more things like he used to. There is an awesome book that every couple should read. it's called "I promise" and it's by Dr. Smalley. It teaches you to focus on the good and not always the negative and to look at yourself and what you are doing and how that will affect the other person in a positive way. It's all about balance. When you change, they change...because it throws the balance off. If you can get it and read it, you will be so surprised at how much it can make a difference in your relationship and for yourself. good luck and keep us posted. God bless

Time changes people. Life changes people. There is nothing we can do about this. It is just the way things are. I am sure my wife can say similar things about me. I can say that about her too. I guess that is a part of being married. It is hard not to let these things happen. When both people work full-time, it is hard to have the energy to focus on your relationship. Having kids makes it almost impossible. Yet another reason kids do nothing but complicate things, which is why I don't want any of them of my own. I have about 3 years until my step kid either moves out or goes to college. Then maybe my wife and I can get back to our relationship, and live the life we never got to live...the life of a married couple with no kids. I just hope that we can have the love life that goes along with being newlyweds with no kids...hahaha Anyway, it is hard to live life at the pace we live these days, and still give your husband/wife the attention you maybe did when you first got together. It is possible to correct it with some time and effort, as long as the one feeling neglected doesn't expect it to happen overnight or expect too much. Remember this as well...dont take life too seriously...noone gets out alive anyway LOL

It's so funny you should post this tonight. My husband and I just had this same discussion. My husband chased me for along time before I finally agreed to go out with him. He brought me flowers, and cards. He drove me everywhere without complaint, he would hold my hand when we drove somewhere. He would hug me and tell me I was beautiful, now we are heading toward our 4 year wedding anniversary, and he does none of that. It's like men say..ok I have her now I don't have to do any of that nice stuff. To woman all that stuff means love and caring, but I think men feel like we should just KNOW that they love us simply because they are with us. We have two little kids now and it seems all the romance has been sucked out of our marriage. So, believe me I know just how you feel.