Men are wishy washy when it comes to initiating Breakups. Agree?

Really? I never had the need to break up with anyone as my first girlfriend is now my wife. I never really witness a breakup before either. So I never really know if this is the case. The few friends that I know who broke up are usually due to arguments or disagreement of opinion that they went their separate ways. Only to find their significant other very much later. From the way you describe it, I am not the least bit surprise if it is happening. But I wouldn't put a blanket and say that Guys are like that. I am sure that there are a few who would be gallant enough to tell the girl straight that they do not want to be in the relationship no more.

I somehow do agree, so that they can make themselves as a victim and pitiful so that they can use it to help them when they are focusing on getting his next gf.. But not all guys are like that.. MOre than often, i feel that gals will be more wishy washy at times, maybe to give a bit more time for the guy to notice something is wrong.. BUt so far, my past few gfs are the ones who initiated the break up with me.. hehe

I think guys jst do not have any morals when it comes to treating the girl the respectful way and telling her up front that it just isn't working out. Alot of them use girls and want to keep them attached and strung along while they are making their move on to the next girl. I know that from experience. I don't think alot of them even care if they look like the bad guy. They just want their cake and eat it too.

hi...If your opinion is true..then i guess my ex bf is not a man but a gay...huhuhu It was my observation before that man are like that, and that they shouldn make the break-uo for its an insult on them..they started the realtionship and end it....that would be an insult to them...it will make them un-thoughtfull of there words.. but my ex made the decission for the break-up...he didnt even asked my opinion about it...and didnt even tell me its reason why he wannts the break-up...

What you said is so so so untrue. We are trying to be nice over here. We put ourselves in the position of the lady and think what we would feel if we are ditched. No nice right? A real nasty guy will just ditch his girlfriends like nobody's business. It is nice guys who rather not to be the one who say SORRY, YOU ARE DITCHED. Shui tong you know what is face? We want to give the girl face. The girl will feel better when she decides to "ditch" the guy rather than being ditched, no?

Based on my personal experience, I have to admit that it took time before my former boyfriend and I were able to talk about breaking up. It was not a long distance relationship though. When I found out that he was having an affair with someone else, I took the initiative to speak with him about our relationship and the standoff which was happening then. My purpose was to urge him to speak about the truth and his "affair". Naturally, he was very hesitant at first. But he finally gave in when I told him that I already knew of this from a very reliable source. Up to the time that we were talking about it, he never had a plan about our relationship. He couldn't answer me when I asked him, "where are we heading?" And to think that we were almost three years already then, that was a shock for me. He didn't want to end our relationship. As a matter of fact, he requested me to just stay put and wait until he could arrange things over. The woman he was having an affair with is already three to five months pregnant then. Learning that he wasn't ready for anything, I decided to end our relationship and I didn't give him a negative nor a positive answer to his request. It really made me cry. The fact that we worked in the same office, I was able to know the developments regarding my former boyfriend and the other woman. I've learned that even after she gave birth to their daughter, he never had the intention to marry her. Anyway, I guess men are reluctant to be very upfront regarding break-up because they have different reasons regarding the relationship.

i think you are absolutely right in this respect. they will start avoiding the girl. they will give cold shoulder so taht she will eventually initiate the breakup. or it may be they will just avoid the girl.

I agree with you. But some men initiate break-up when they really don't want the relationship anymore or they fall in love with somebody else. They need to initiate break-up in that situation.