Ever Had a Sugar Daddy/Mama?
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
February 19, 2008 4:35pm CST
I was watching one of the judge shows on TV earlier today and it started me wondering how many of you myLotters would be brave enough to admit it if you've ever had a sugar daddy/mama, LOL? I will admit that I once did when I was very young, and sort of between serious relationships. I had moved next door to this nice man who must have been about 35 years older than myself. He just started bringing over things for my kids and I, and I would accept them because I didn't see any reason not to. From the start I leveled with him that our relationship could be nothing but platonic. He said he was fine with that and that he just wanted companionship when I was in the mood. Our relationship lasted for about a year, when I decided to try it again with my baby's father. I don't believe that that was what destroyed the relationship, but the fact that I decided to move because I needed a bigger house. He did not want me to do that, and we ultimately fell out, which resulted in him coming over to the new house a few months after I moved and taking back a German Shepherd puppy he had given me. I really loved that puppy whom I had named Taurus(for my birth sign), and I never forgave the man for being so petty. So, how did your relationship end? On a good or bad note?
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11 responses
@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
21 Feb 08
I have had what is traditionally known as a "sugar daddy" in my life since about 1996. He is now 69 and I am almost 48. We live about 1500 miles apart and we first met online. Later, in person, I met his wife and his son and they have met my children and my ex husband. The deepest nature of our relationship (ya, you know what I mean) is no secret to our families. My present husband is aware of our relationship. He has gifted me with many things including financial help with things but not directly in cash gifts. We have also had many fun social moments as families. We have always remained very close over the years although we were only together in person on two different (vacation) meetings. We still email, chat, and talk on the phone, and consider each other very close friends and we share business, psychological and emotional ties. I will always keep him in my heart as one of the best friends of the opposite gender that I have ever had. It is way beyond money or frivolous fun. If a "sugar daddy" is purely financial or physical or just for fun, then I guess we are beyond that level.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
It's plain to see, kbkbooks, that you have a genuine relationship with this man. I find nothing negative in that. Like you, I find no reason to have someone in your life who you cannot respect and have real feelings for.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Feb 08
I have had a few guy friends that helped me tremendously but I wouldn't call that a sugar daddy and I never slept with them.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I never slept with my sugar daddy, winterose, but he was what he was, and he was happy with that arrangement.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Feb 08
hon, I don't know what you did or didn;t do you asked a question of me and I answered it, this is what I think and what I did.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
It can work both ways, Aurone. It shouldn't matter so long as you're both happy.
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@mummymo (23706)
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20 Feb 08
As long as people are honest and upfront about what they expect or will accept then I don't see the problem - it isn't as though you were being deceitful or manipulative and I do think it was very petty to take back a dog that was given as a gift! I haven't ever had a sugar daddy sweety so i can't tell you any experiences, sometimes i wish i did have one though! lol xxx
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I have always been honest in whatever relationship I had, mummymo, and this man knew that I was not attracted to him physically. He just wanted to be in my life and was willing to buy me nice things to achieve that end. I think he regretted taking the puppy back, but by then I had moved to an apartment and could not take him back.
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@joyce959 (1559)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
No, I don't have any. But what I will tell you is that my father (76 years old) likes being a sugar daddy of young girls who keep on asking him for money by sending private messages on his mobile, then my father would send money thru western union. He asks a helper to do the sending for him. I sometimes felt mad at my father for doing this, coz he has an end stage kidney problem and undergoing dialysis and we are so much in need of money for his medications and treatment amd our finacial resources has drained up. Sometimes he doesn't want to spend his money (pension) for medicines but he has money to send to those girls who are just there to suck money from my him. I sometimes think he is a fool for doing this and felt mad.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I can understand how you feel, joyce, but looking at it from your father's point of view, this is what he wants to do and he has the right to live his life as he sees fit. The man I mentioned was not married, nor did he have any children to complicate things. He was also in good health.
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@foxygirle (376)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
How I wish I have a sugar daddy. To lavish me with gift, money, travel and dinner. I do hope someday someone will be a sugar daddy to me. Right now its all work and earn just to meet the daily and monthly expenses of the household. Never had a sugar daddy even when I was single.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
Well, foxygirle, at least for me it was fun while it lasted. It does feel nice to be catered to at times.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I could understand your sugar daddy taking away a stuffed animal or something that wasn't really important but to take a dog back. That's absurd. I would have been so hurt.
Nope, I never have had a sugar daddy. I was engaged when 20 yrs. old and married at 22. Lived at home with my parents until we married. Been married for atleast 100 yrs. to the same man. Well, it feels like it anyway.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
Hey, there's nothing wrong with being a one-man woman, carolbee! I understand that many people have led sheltered lives. Congrats on your long union.
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@warmweatherwoman (2233)
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
9 Aug 09
Okay worldwise you asked for honesty- here goes...no, unfortunetley I have never had an encounter with a sugar daddy or sugar momma for that matter...lol. BUT-- I'll put it out there right now....In my current financial situation - I wouldn't turn one away...matter of fact.....if there are any takers reading this...contact me ASAP....lol...
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
19 Feb 08
As much as I hate to admit it I did have someone who I used as you call it a sugardaddy. He was an alright type of guy. He was too gullible. I would promise to go to dinner and if I did he would buy whatever I needed. The problem was I was only doing it as a rebound relationship. In the end, the guilt got to me and I confessed. I returned everything he gave me with a big fat apology. He in turn became my best friend to this day. Now I buy him things. I dont even mind. I felt so bad for my actions. Believe it or not the guilt will eat you up. It did me. SO I guess it ended up on a good note. Thankfully.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
21 Feb 08
Ah, dloveli, you're speaking of that ever-present conscience. It will rear it's ugly head sooner or later and tell you that what you're doing just isn't right. You seem to have made amends very well.
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@Deea48 (1166)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Closest I ever came was when I was 1st dating my ex,I was also dating another guy, he was about 10 years older then me. Well things got seriouse rather quickly, with my now ex hubby. So I decided I better let the older guy go. Well when I told him I didn't want to date him anymore, he was like. But I was thinking of marrying you, and if you stay with me you wont have to every want a thing. He was well off and did spoil me, but I never once thought of him as a life partner. So I turned him down. I have often wondered what would of happened if I hadn't, hmmm????
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@Jabsfreelanceworld (191)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I was never in a true sugar daddy relationship, although I have visited sites such as Real Sugar Daddies. I was contemplating this for awhile because even though I am not a model I do know how to please a man.
I have decided against it though because I have enough problems. For one, I have been off and on with an older man (25 years older) for four years that I suspect doesn't love me. So at times it feels like a sugar daddy relationship. It kind of leaves me feeling empty at times and hopeful at others.
I get so sick and tired of feeling like my wants and desires don't matter though. I feel like I am not pretty enough to be a sugar daddy but not ugly enough to have true respect. I feel lost-somewhere in between. I am tired of getting my heart broken.
