How would you react if...
By CheshireKat
@CheshireKat (564)
United States
February 19, 2008 9:42pm CST
I have a friend in South Carolina that has more or less become more of a pen pal than the confidant that she used to be. (We were really close, but now the reality that she's a few hundred miles away makes it difficult to really keep in touch like I would like to.) Lately we have not been talking much. My busy schedule and hermit-like tendencies have yet again gotten in the way of me being social and pleasant, so when she asked for my address again for the sake of wanting to send me a letter. (I sent her a lengthy one sometime before Christmas that had gone on without response)
She kept asking if I had gotten my letter yet when I'd see her online, and I'd always respond with a somewhat disappointed 'no, not today.' So then today I finally got it and I tore it open, taking a few moments out of my precious study time, to look at two pages of notebook paper. They were filled with writing on both sides, which was a good sign...
Until I started reading it, and realized that it didn't sound much like her, and that it really had nothing to do with anything. I began to realize that the vocabulary and everything really had nothing to do with my friend, and that she was not actually talking about any events, just musing about random things...
It was then that I thought to google a selection of it, to see if it was from something, or just her being bizarre and somewhat insightful.
I found that nearly the entire letter was simply a selection from a Novel by the name of 'The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle', which is actually by Haruki Murakami.
I'm not really sure how to respond. I'm sure tomorrow if I see her on the computer she'll ask yet again 'did you get my letter?' - the bitter part of me that has spent hours over the years writing out letters by hand to her wants to say 'oh yes, I'm so very pleased that you haven't stopped reading. Murakami is a grand author, too bad you've forgotten how to write.' but another part just wants to say yes and thank her for the effort...
Does anyone have any suggestions? If you don't know what I should do, can you at least tell me if my being upset by this is rational? (I mean, it's perfectly logical for someone to want to send someone else a snippet of song or story or whatever, but I would have liked to have been told that it was not hers, and that it came from this book, and perhaps have had some other, alternate content... but I'm still somewhat disrupted by what feels to me like dishonesty.) Has anyone read this book? (If so, the snippet that was snagged was the bit from page 460-461 about rice pudding mix.)
Thanks for reading.
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2 responses
@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
20 Feb 08
Hmmm, this is a tough one. It really depends on your friendship. My initial reaction would be to play a bit of a game and ask her about it. I'd ask things like 'that's really good writing, I didn't know you wrote stuff like that! Can I see some more or your writing?' If she goes along with it and claims the writing as her own, I would probably cut ties with her, as this shows she's dishonest. I haven't read the book so I don't know what was in the actual letter, but I definitely wouldn't keep a friendship with this girl if she's lying to you about things like this. Let us know what happens
@CheshireKat (564)
• United States
20 Feb 08
That sounds like a good plan, though I'm not a huge fan of playing games.
If she mentions it, though, I'll have no problem gushing over it. I was initially rather impressed with the content. At that point I might just have to go with your plot, just for the sake of my sanity.
I'll keep you posted, thanks for your time.
@wildcat180 (169)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Isn't acting like you don't know what the letter is and trying to get her to do it again just as dishonest?
I'd simply ask her about it. Maybe she was trying to get you interested in this book. (Though I have no idea why she'd choose to go about it such a weird way...I basically hope there's an explanation.)
@cokyjazz (429)
• Australia
20 Feb 08
Mmm,well anyone can copy a part of a book and put it onto paper..not very personal is it?I could understand if perhaps it was only a couple of quotes used if she couldn't quite put into words an emotion or event but i would be quite peeved if i received that in the mail.You put 'yourself'onto paper when you write to someone who lives far away so they can get the feel of you being there-if that makes sense.It feels good to get a letter and see that they put effort into writing to 'you'..like a show put on for a single person audience.You did this for her her.If it was me,i would say to her..'Thanks for that.I really enjoyed the read and am going to the library so i can read the rest'.You probably won't do that but at least see if you can find out what made her do that.