Do you ever wonder if people are who that appear to be?

Trust is a decision, or a choice,just as love is. That is not to say that you do not use the filters of logic and experience. With comments like you reported logic tells you this is not your sister's kind of guy. Experience tells you his kind is a jerk. I am pretty trusting to most of the people I meet online. I choose to trust, and that is just how I live my life.

None of us will ever know for sure that the picture that we se is really them person that we are corresponding with. In some ways it is better not to know, but I suspect that we all have a part of us that would like to see the "real" person, just the once. However, once you start seeing photographs then it is very easy to start to make assumptions about the person that you are seeing. For example, sitting here ion the UK I can se that you live ion a pleasant, rural town in New York state. From your photographs I can s that you love animals, horses and cats in particular and that it is likely that you have a large enough home that you can afford to accommodate these. Your children either live at home or close by. From the photo of yourself I would say that you have worked in public service - teacher, nurse, social worker something along those lines. You are now home based and working for yourself. I would also guess that you have lived in the City at some time or another when you were younger. Now these may be right or right off beam, only the real you knows. I can certify that I am a male, 49 years old, very happily married (sorry sis) and that I live in the UK. My MyLot name tells you a little about one of my hobbies, but for the 9 yards and that photo. That will have to wait.

I've often wondered if the pictures are real... of course, my icon is a cat, so you know that's not me! lol! But in my profile, there is a picture of me in it... The ones I wonder about are the ones who have pictures of beautiful women or handsome men. I have to wonder, is it really them? Or are they trying to attract others? I've often said that I have no desire to be single again! The whole dating scene is just so scary! Especially the computer dating... I've been married 21 years and I can't imagine my life with anyone but my hubby...

Yes, I have asked myself the same question raydene. Your sister is very brave joining that site only to get wierdos contacting her, when all she wants is a nice, normal man. It's hard, but I wouldn't trust any dating site on the internet for a relationship - you never know what you're going to get. Anyone can say anything on the net and post any photo saying it's them. Tell her to be very careful.

Hubby and I had several years of his ex-wife stalking us both online and off and so I'm pretty leery about meeting ppl whether it's online or in person. I keep things private and take most everything with a grain of salt. After all, anyone can be anyone on the internet. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I wonder sometimes, because when you got to read their replies on mylot you will read between those lines that they are nice person you got to like them so you are curious what will be their faces especially those who are not using their own faces as their avatars.I am true to you Raydene, it is me on my avatar. That is how cute I am...im only joking. I got little creepy with the avatar you use but i don't mind because i knew you by heart.

I am very mistrusting on that to I do have genuine Friends on here but I have met People to that are not what they say they are that are nice and then turn nasty so like you I am mistrusting on it all I would never Computer Date or anything like that I have to admit your Sister is very brave lol xxxxx

that is the problem with anywhere on the internet including mylot, people can hide behind any persona they want to. I met my future husband through an internet dating service, we have been partnered now for 8 years.

I am too cynical to believe that people online are what they appear to be so I am leary of anyone who seems to good to be true. This is also how I feel when I meet someone new in real life.

i really do not believe so much in love over internet. i have no clear idea how the person beside the screen mat=y be. how can i prove what is truth and what is not? so it is not possible to trust so much i guess.

None of us will ever know for sure that the picture that we see is really that person. In some ways it is better not to know, but I suspect that we all have a part of us that would like to see the "real" person, just the once. However, once you start seeing photographs then it is very easy to start to make assumptions about the person that you are seeing. For example, sitting here ion the UK I can se that you live ion a pleasant, rural town in New York state. From your photographs I can s that you love animals, horses and cats in particular and that it is likely that you have a large enough home that you can afford to accommodate these. Your children either live at home or close by. From the photo of yourself I would say that you have worked in public service - teacher, nurse, social worker something along those lines. You are now home based and working for yourself. I would also guess that you have lived in the City at some time or another when you were younger. Now these may be right or right off beam, only the real you knows. I can certify that I am a male, 49 years old, very happily married (sorry sis) and that I live in the UK. My MyLot name tells you a little about one of my hobbies, but for the 9 yards and that photo. That will have to wait.

I also am very trusting, and tend to see no reason why people shouldnt be who they say they are, but yet it happens that they are not. I have come across a few people on different sites who make up this whole persona, photo and everything, only to find out that this is not actually who they are. Why people feel the need to do this I have not got a clue. To be honest with you those dating and meeting people web sites are the worse for it and it gets to me how you can go on them and just get bombarded with sleazes, and also you have to be so careful on them, I have heard some real scary stories about people meeting up with folks they meet online, you do need to be careful of who you trust.

No I dont think people are like how they appear. Take myself for example I dress very nicely and by that you might think I'm stuck up or have money. But no I'm a single mom and my mother in law is the one that provides me with all my goods. Some people dress very poorly and then you will find out that they have all kinds of money. Their just isnt any real way to tell. You cant judge a book by its cover.

all the time, there are so many phonies who want to keep up with the Jones

well my photo is shrek and his family. but i am not an ogre. lol. i use to put my pix but i think it is much fun if i put something i like. im tired of looking at my face at the mirror everyday. lol. some people build their own identity in the net. it is up to us to believe it or not as the freindship grows bigger and bigger you will eventually know who are lying and who are telling the truth.