Is it a good idea to get a Room mate or is it a going to be difficult?
By scorpionsoul
@scorpionsoul (185)
India
February 20, 2008 3:36am CST
I cannot make my mind up on sharing my house with a roomate, or just to have the place to myself. Won't it be beneficial to ask a gal to move in and share the costs as it is becoming exceedingly costly to just take up one's cost while working and studying at the same time..
And then again the mind goes to the other side where it may actually become privacy invasion to share one's house to a total stranger..even if we do become friends it won't be the same as staying with someone u grew up with or have known them personally for a long time....
Urrrrggggghhhh i am so confused... also my friends won't be happy with it for i will have to take permission from my room mate every time i wanna throw a party in my own house?
1 person likes this
7 responses
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
21 Feb 08
I prefer to have my own room, because sometimes i cant get roommate, who is nice or polite person. I also like to listening music and make higher the volume of my "great" speaker... ahahah. I prefer to be alone in my room without being disturb with other person.
@scorpionsoul (185)
• India
22 Feb 08
i agree that living alone without any disturbances in perfect and peaceful, but then again living alone at nights is what scares me cos the place i am going to move into is very quiet and deserted and i would like to see someone in the house around me at night..
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I do know that it is hard....very hard to live on your own. I really can't imagine being a student and making ends meet. That has to be really tough. I am a single mom of 4 and have been on my own for years....since i was 18. I have tried to live with others and it is difficult to be sure. Everyone has their own ways and little quirks. My cousin actually found that having a gay guy as her room mate was perfect. She did not have to worry about him hitting on her and they were very good friends and had deep respect for each other. I don't know. I think with the right person it could work but it will be alot of give and take from both sides.
@scorpionsoul (185)
• India
22 Feb 08
ya that is true... is is difficult to live alone and specifically come to a empty house or worse an unlit house.. but then i can also get a maid to come and clean up the place as maids in india are a common thing and affordable..
@subha12 (18441)
• India
20 Feb 08
I always support the idea about room mate. i always had room mates when i was away from home for my jobs. its then good to share the costs. you get one friend also. But you must be careful in choosing the room mate. I think by havinf=g aroom mate we also learn to adjust with people.
@scorpionsoul (185)
• India
20 Feb 08
Yes your right.. i should be very careful in choosing my room mate cos these days it is very important that the person who lives with you has a clear record and no illness too..
Also i would'nt want a girl who would bring strangers into my house while i am away from home at work..
I have to decide more carefully..
@amplified27 (492)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
Well if you're used to having people around it would be fine for as long as you know how to adapt to different personalities. Remember that not all people are the same and humans tend to possess the feeling of privacy, therefore some are most likely to have the room by themselves rather than sharing it with other people.
If your reason why you wanted to have a roommate was about the rent, then ask the person first if he could shoulder half of the expenses. Usually, if you begged the person to come share a room with you, more or less the expense would be 1/4 shouldered by him and the 3/4 will be shouldered by you since you were the first one to invite him to move over.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
21 Feb 08
Well we have a housemate at home and it takes us so many housemates before we find the genuine ones. They only lasted for a few weeks or just a month because we have to boot them out of the house. Because the number one rule in this house is to look after themselves we are teaching our housemates to be responsible enough to look after themselves.
You need someone that is trustworthy because you just know when will they ever strike. So you have to careful that they will respect your things.Dont trust too much.
@jonatechme (104)
• Kenya
22 Feb 08
If you are to get a roommate, compatibility is the key. So you must interview the people who are willing to come live with you so that you can know if you can get along.
@kuting (885)
• Philippines
21 Feb 08
if you'll think about the finacial practicability of it, yes its agood idea. you need someone to share the cost of place and because that person will also be paying she also has some of the rights and obligations to the place. a good friend will do just fine. its hard to have some stranger share your place with coz you'll never know if she/he is actually a thief or a criminal for that matter. you and your friend if she agrees to share the place with you should discuss the consequences, your duties and the house rules. you should make that clear to each other especially privacy issues and such.
