Who gets the spoils?

I have searched around for thrift stores, where you can buy clothing for a few dollars! I have done this in California, and a little in Philadelphia. I do not know how it is in Canada. Here some thrift stores are very cheap and have a good supply of nice clothes, while other stores price everything higher and do not have a good selection. I have seen good children's clothes for fifty cents! Is there a Toys R Us anywhere? Maybe she needs donations? My kids were always heavy on the clothes wear, like wearing holes in their shoes in an incredibly short time. freecycle.org has given many people the opportunity to save money and gift items that have been gently used to others!

I really take issue with people such as the lady that you described. But, I guess as long as she was 'providing for their welfare' and the kids were not 'starving', then it was legal. When we have extra money, who gets benefit of the money is decided by various things such as who got something special the last time, is there someone in the fmaily that needs something that we haven't been able to get, or is there something that we can do with the money that will benefit the entire family? It certainly doesn't always go to me or my hubby! In fact 99% of the time it goes to one of the children!

This is a issue that really bother me as well. We see it all to often! Parents not going without anything but their children are the ones who are suffering. This would never be my case. My main job in this world (and have thought that even at 18yrs old when I had my daughter) is to provide for my children first!!! They get everything they need, not to mention stuff they really dont. If any money left after that...and the children dont need a thing....then my hubby and I may splurge and get something for ourselves. But not until the kids are taken care of. I always thought that this was just a regular job when you were a mother....but apparently some people have other ideas...unfortunatley!

its like the story madame Bovary. I have also seen few people who indulge in too much expensive things for themselves. they never had money for children. its a pity i guess.Yesterday while going back home i watched a similar lady. she was dressed in nice clothes. it was cold. her son, barely 2 yr old had no warm clothes.

Eversince i found out i was pregnant and when my baby was born... 90% of everything is for her... the money left after paying off the bills and rent were use to buy all her needs... and the little extra... if there are... i use for my luxury...like internet and movies... Some women dedicate their whole lives to their children... but some refuse to live that kind of life... but as long as their children are healthy and they have education... i have nothing against them...

I am the opposite. I dress in thrift shop buys and hand-me-downs. I very rarely splurge on my own needs which really aren't "needs" i guess as I never feel as if I am going without. My girls have always been dressed fine and in fashion and good taste. that is important to me and actually what my life has been about...raising them to be fine young ladies. I did have a friend tho that dressed unbelieveable extravagant. She was also a single mom and I used to question her on this. She justified it by saying that she had to "look rich" to attract "rich". she claimed she was doing it for her kids. She wanted a guy with money which would make their lives easier. I must say it worked. She did end up marrying a wealthy and much older man. Happy?? who knows. Personally i don;t feel that money can buy happiness but then ...that's just me.

My kids come first. Being a parent means that your kids are taken care of first before yourself. It doesn't mean that my kids needs to walk around in 50 dollar jeans and 20 dollar blouses. They can look good in clothes at a lot cheaper price. I like Old Navy, because I can get really good clothes on the sales rack. This lady in your neighborhood, isn't a good mother in my opinion because she just thinks of herself. I feel bad for those kids of her's. Maybe people in the neighborhood needs to give her kids some good clothes, maybe then she will see what she's doing is wrong.

I do the best I can with the money we have. We make sure the bills are paid first and food is on the table. I always make sure my husband and my daughter have things. I never put myself first ever. complain sometimes because I would like to have things also but I just do unto others and just hope some day it will come back to me.

I have always been and I guess always will be the type of person who makes sure that others have things before me. I always made sure my kids had the necessary things whether or not we could afford it at the time. My kids are grown now and I have grandchildren and I am the same way with them too. To this day I don't like to buy things for myself but I will go out of my way to buy for my husband, children, grandchildren and others. When I do buy some new clothes or something like that I feel guilty, I guess I will never change my ways.

Like most women, I usually put myself last. Of course there are lots of variables to consider, but if it was a basic need rather than a want, others always come first. I would never have let my kids look dirty or ragged. You can still be neat and clean without a lot of money. (Of course when my boys were old enough to do their own thing and wore their pants halfway down their butt that was another story, LOL)

I'm one of those moms, who puts my son first 4 everything, I dont eat unless he has eaten first.. i dot get my hair or nails done any more so i can get my baby stuff..as for that mom u metioned above shame on her!!!!!!