How do you know if your friend's a gay?

You can not know for sure. I was married to a gay man for two years and didn't know until he told me that he was unhappy living a lie and could never love any woman as much as he could love a man. Some are rather effeminant, but some straight guys are as well. But the bottom line, I think, is why does it matter? Unless you want a non platonic relationship with this person, his/her sexuality should not matter to you. BTW, personal pet peeve, don't call him/her "A gay", noun. THey are gay, pronoun which is a description of a part of them. Gay is not what they are, it's a part of who they are. I don't call myself "a straight."

I wouldn't think that it would be extremely hard to tell if someone is gay...especially if it is a guy...but it is kind of hard to tell sometimes if a woman is gay(well certain women anyways)but I always thought that it was easy to tell if a guy was gay...generally they do talk a certain way and dress a certain way or at least thats what they do where i live...i had a friend tell me(she was a girl)that she could spot a gay guy a mile away

Hello hmike_d, I have many friends who are either gay or lesbian but how it can effect friendship?its there personal choice, they only know I am not interested thats enough for me, andthey never disturb me neither do I ever try to intervene in their personal life and I have never seen gays/lesbians publicly shows or talks about their personal lifestyles,yes upto college and university years I might have laughed within me about their way of talking walking body languages but it does not effect me now anyway might be the cause I am grown up little by age and experience of life than I used to be in my college and university days.Thanks

why dont you ask him his preferences and clear your doubt once and for all does he talk to boys only oris seen in the company of boys most of the time has he made any passes to any boys which you have noticedor othershave made a thim.

i am sure with this and only a gay person can tell you if you suspect your friend to be gay or not. well for me, there are some men acts femininely and yet they are men at heart but some act as what a man does and turns out to be the other way around. maybe you can see it through his actions if they were consistent. set friends he hang out with like if he hangs out with more girls rather than guys then you must be a little alarmed. the color he chooses like pink.. okay wearing pink clothes in guys is fine but use pink as your favorite color?? well it is time for you to think about it deeply. walks and talks matters to if you want to know if that person is gay or not. with talks, we have this gay linggo. with the walks, a guy normally doesnt sway his hips. hahah.. but it doesnt really matter if that person is gay or not as long as he/she doesnt harm anybody else. they are also humans who tries to live in this world in a happy way. you know what that is what i wanted to have gay friends because they are so much fun and they have good sense of humor.. they keep their companions smiling and show unconditional love. they tell you things what they like and hate about you.. in short they are frank on things they want to say..

i think Ethanuel is right the best thing to handle is to ask him. if his your friend im sure he'll understand.

if it's obvious, you can sense it with the way they talk, the way they walk, the way the act and think. also their view in life is different with a normal person. but if it's not for me i just know it. i can feel and sense it. to confirm i ask.