What is the perfect age to get married
By Eiregirl2017
@Eiregirl2017 (75)
United States
February 21, 2008 7:28pm CST
I know it's rather silly because I know it's whenever you meet the right guy (or girl), but I always think about it. I don't think a person should get married until he/she has finished college (if he or she chooses to go to college). Personally I think the best age is around 25.
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@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
Personally, the best age to get married is around 25 and above. However, there are certain factors that we need to consider before going to a conclusion of getting married.
Are you financially stable? This is the first thing that we should always consider before involving in a serious and sacred relationship.
Keep in mind that sooner or later you will have little kids or children to take care of.
Are you prepared enough to hold a responsibility of being a father or a mother? If you think you aren’t, then don’t be in a rush to get married.
It is easy to say but hard to actually do it in such situations.
Have a great day! :-)
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@Eiregirl2017 (75)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Great comment!! I totally agree with everything you said, and believe me, I plan to follow it. I'm actually only 19, and I'm definitely not planning to get married anytime soon. I'm not even dating at the moment, but, what can I say, I'm a dreamer...always have been, probably always will be. I was just curious as to everyone's input.
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@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
Thank you so much for appreciating my response. I am so grateful that you like it.
By the way, welcome to myLot. I hope you would enjoy participating here. Take care! :-)
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Sorry, but where the hell is it etched that being means means you are DEFINITELY going to have children? I'm getting married in a few months and I absolutely refuse to EVER have children. Childbearing is a choice, not a requirement.
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@nedco2006 (2)
• Philippines
23 Feb 08
Age 21 is the right age for a girl to get married and have children , for in this period ; between age 21 to 30 we are sure that the offspring will be healthy and fit. That is according to articles I have read, but when finances and other aspects will be considered, I think its you alone can decide whether it the right time for you to get married..
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@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
I think a general rule is about 25 or older. I know many people my age who are now going through nasty divorces because they rushed into marriage at a young age thinking they were prepared for all it entailed and then had it fall apart around them.
Obviously not everyone is the same, but I think the single biggest flaw with people getting married younger is that most don't have finances in place and money is a very tough and personal thing to discuss and talk about, especially when you're younger. It's even worse to fight about it, and most of those fights started with a squabble about finances.
I know there are stronger couples that will overcome all of this and realize that a fight is just a fight and not an indication that you aren't meant to be together.
As a general rule, however, I think most couples should wait until they're mature enough to have a set goal financially and be able to discuss their finances candidly with one another since whether you share a bank account or not, financial decisions made by one half of the couple usually affect the couple as a whole.
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I believe a couple should get married when they are absolutely sure that the person their with is the one they want to be with for the rest of their life, that whatever issues they may have are all settled and I think a couple (young that is) shouldn't rush to be married because it is life changing experience, one that people shouldn't take lightly.
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@floramwaters (1595)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I got married just before my 21st b-day my hubby was 27. I don't fill like I was too young to get married. I know a lot of guys in my age group that had a lot of growing up to do before they should have even thought about it. My hubby and I have been married for 6 years now, I guess that is why we have lasted is because he is older and was more settled down.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
I don't think there is any perfect age to get married. I think it all depends on the people involved. My sister got married at the age of 19, and I got married 10 years after she did, the year I turned twenty-five. We both did what worked for us.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
22 Feb 08
There is no set age. Marriage and commitment are different and mean different things to different people. There is no universal answer, only what is right for you.
There are some people who aren't ready to get married until their 40's, some who are ready at 17 and some who don't believe in marriage and never do it. It's different for everyone.
I got engaged at 19 and I'll be married soon after I'm 21.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I don't think there is any specific age to decide to get married. I do believe that both people need to be ready mind wise. Marriage is a serious step and there are many times marriage takes place just because they are compatable in bed. Marriage is a lot more than that and a lot of responsibilities that both have to think about. There should be discussions between both what they expect out of each other before they even get married. So even a 25 year old may not be ready for marriage. One thing about it there is a very good chance if you wait to finish college or whatever you feel you have to finish before getting married that you may not get married at all. That is not a bad thing either. Not everyone is suited for married life.
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
perfect age to get married would be 25-27. that's for me. don't know about others. yes, it would be perfect if both finished college already and have a stable job. most especially the man. the man would play a major role in keeping the household expenses so it's a must that the man has a stable job already.
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
22 Feb 08
The best age is when you're in love. Never marry unless you're in love and then marry before they go away. I'm 57 years old and would love to be married but I'm not doing it unless I'm truly in love. Love is when it happens and thats when to get married. Just make sure its real love and not just infatuation.
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@socialitehanna (90)
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22 Feb 08
I totally agree with you. My ideal age of marriage is also 25. But one requirement should be--both should be financially stable and emotionally mature, of course.
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