Kids

Oh my. That wouldn't work out too wlll because it is hard for a bunch of family members to all live together because it takes away from each others privacy.

I would welcome them home. I have always told mine that the door is always open. That's your child! Haven't we all been in that boat at some point in our lives?

In my country, there is no such a thing as keeping away a son away from his home. Once a boy is born-there is nothing like asking him to leave his father's home once he is 18-all he does is build his house within the compound of the father-even when he marries, the food his wife cooks must have a share of the father and mother! As for the case daughters, once they marry, they literally cease to be part of her parents direct family-she more or less starts belonging to the clan of her husband! So to answer you directly,if that kid is boy, he is obviously welcome back home to his father or mother with his entire family becuse that really is where he belongs-however, he must come and not only look after his family, but also to look after the very parents he has come back to. As for the girl, if she wishes to comeback to her parents home with her husband and children, she must realize that this would be a very temporary refuge because my home belongs to me and to my sons and their sons. My daughter already belongs to another clan and surely is not welcome with a stranger she calls her husband back to my home-that is my response to your post as a typical Luo man of Northern Uganda! Looks wierd to the girls But who are my to change traditions?

it would totally depend upon the situation, if they needed to to get back on their feet I would agree, but they would have to find a place eventually, but then who am I to talk, my son still lives with me and he is 31, we need each other to pay the rent

Hmmm difficult one! I moved back in with my Grandparents with my son when my marriage split up and I don't know what I would have done without them at that time! I guess I wouldn't want to see my kids struggling and in hardship but I would think too that they had to get a handle on life at some point! I think letting them move back in the short term and letting them know that it was just until they got on their feet would be the route I would take , I guess though it is something I wouldn't know until I was in that situation. xxx

I would welcome them with open arms but would insist from the beginning that they still pay their way, allow me my privacy as I have now got used to living alone and that I would not be a built in baby sitting service for their children. Of course I would do the Grandma bits but not be used, if that makes sense. I haven't got married children so this answer is hypothectical. It maybe that when my children do marry I can't stand their spouse and that would be a different senario entirely! Ellie :D

Oh my! If it was just temporary so they could get back on their feet, I'd pray hard and learn to meditate. If it was for more than a few months, I don't know if I would let them. Sometimes it tough love is the best kind. Now I would never NOT let them move back in if they seriously had no money, but there is also a lot of help available for those who are in need. I know since I've become let's say, without money, I've discovered new ways of helping myself and also discovered all the ways other people will willingly help. I feel better struggling, but knowing I'm doing my best and retaining my independence. However, I have no children so perhaps no one should listen to me either. : )

yikes! I know its hard, but two people should be able to manage. And having kids makes government help easier to get? I donno. I know I couldn't move back home no matter what really, and it's just me and my cat. It motivates me to scrape by, at the very least