I hate people who donot look into the eyes and talk

@anshnav (479)
India
February 22, 2008 7:22am CST
Yes its true i really hate them. i have seen people talk to me without looking into my eyes usually my friends friend. They say that a person who does not look into the eyes and talk is not a trustful person. It is also said that if a person has a scar on his face then it is said that the person is violent and does not think before he takes action but ofcourse if it was in a accident then it does not matter. What are your opinions about this? Do you believe in all such things? if not why?
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15 responses
• India
22 Feb 08
It depends on situation .. a person not looking in the eye can be lying, but it also has to be considered if he is distracted by someone or somthing, if he is shy, if he is too stressed about something or is suffering from lack of sleep .. all these things and some other as well contribute. So does shyness, emotional state etc. Apart from that the scar of face is not really true .. the eye thing comes under a science called body language .. butthe scar thing is just an assumption.
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@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
I don't hate people who does not look to me in the eye when talking to me. I cannot read their thoughts and i will be judgmental if I say that he cannot be trusted. They might have a good reason not to look me in the eye. there are times when we need to find out the reason. A good and wonderful day to you at mylot.com
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
23 Feb 08
I think it is a good practice to look into someone's eyes (maintain eye contact, not stare at the person) when one is talking to another person. If the person looks elsewhere, some people will deem this as being rude or impolite. I think by maintaining eye contact, one keeps the other person engaged. It also shows that the person is attentive and interested in the conversation.
• Kenya
23 Feb 08
Please understand that people are so different, and just because they aren't according to your standards you shouldn't condemn them. Some people will not look you straight to the eyes because they are shy. This shouldn't make you pass a judgment on them, get to know them and i can assure you that you'll come to like them and understand them. Personally I'm a shy man but without blowing my own trumpet, I'll go to great length not to offend anyone. I nowadays force myself to look people straight to the eyes but I'll still blush abit.
@paid2write (5201)
22 Feb 08
It could be shyness that prevents a person looking into your eyes, not necessarily being distrustful. I always make an effort to look into a person's eyes when I am having a conversation. I think it is good manners to do so, but it is not always easy to maintain eye contact. I would never judge a person by a scar on the face, they could just be the victim of a violent person.
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@flowerhorn (1008)
• Malaysia
12 May 08
People that dun look into your eye when talking can be not confident or scare,especially during an interview.Some are just arrogant,they think they are above u. Dun judge a book by its cover.People who have scar on the face might get it from accident.If u are a gentle person and accidentally get deep cut on your face,does that make u a violent person?Definitely not,right?
• United States
22 Feb 08
Sometimes it does get annoying when they don't make eye contact. But, even if they connect for just a second, you feel that they are on the same page.
@catjane (1036)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Ashnay, don't hate sweety, there is enough of that going on on this planet, it's not necessary. U sually people who won't look in to your eyes are neverous or have trust issues, it's not really their fault and maybe once they get to know you, they will look in to your eyes, but don't hate them hon...feel bad for them and try to help them. Remember, we are all related in Gods eyes.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I think that that is a very harsh reaction for such a thing. To HATE and REALLY hate is a vicious thing, in my opinion - when the person did no harm to you especially. why not dislike THAT people do not look you in the eyes, rather than hate the people themselves? with all the cries for peace in the world, let that peace start within ourselves. as a modest woman I find that it is good to not look a man into the eyes - a virtuous man should also avert his eyes when speaking to certain women... so please do not be so quick to judge the motives and intents of the actions of others, especially when those actions do no harm.
• United Arab Emirates
22 Feb 08
I think some people are too shy to look into the eyes of persons whom they are talking. It is not a good idea to completely say that one hates them. True, I too do not like such people but don't hate them for being that way. Such people may be introvert or is not social. May be they have some inferiority complex, the reasons can be many. This is also true that in normal case we believe that such people are not trustworthy.
@sleblanc (114)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
i think these are both outrageous statements! i generally try to look people in the eye when i'm talking to them, especially when saying meaningful things (ie. when i tell my girlfriend i love her), however i do not like to look people in the eye for long. i don't know why, but i'll look at people when they're talking to me, but usually when i start to reply, i'll look elsewhere. i don't believe this makes me untrustworthy though, i believe i'm a very trustworthy person and have been told so by others. furthermore, i have a scar or two (small) on my face and i am not at all a violent person. i, for the most part, think before i take action, even though i may have a scar or two! that's just my opinion, but i don't believe those statements to be true. not for everyone at least!
• United States
22 Feb 08
I do not believe in either one. For one, I have 2 scars on my face and I am far from a violent person. And also I have trouble looking someone directly in the eye, esp if I do not know the person. Im very shy. And I also am far from a non trustful person. I guess it depends on the person and the situtation.
@cmofi123 (344)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I personally rarely look at people in the eye. My reason: my step mom made me do this whenever she talked to me, I couldn't looked at her face according to her it was disrespectful. Or may be it made her feel superior. Now, I'm working on it because I had problems with people that get mad because I don't look at them.
• United States
23 Feb 08
As a person who suffers from social anxiety it is sometimes hard for me to look a person in the eye when speaking to them. I do try, but a lot of times I do not keep eye contact. It actually makes me feel uncomfortable to keep eye contact for too long. I have scars on my face from previous acne does that make me a violent person? I think not. I believe body language is a good indicator of whether or not someone is being truthful or not.
@ellie333 (21016)
22 Feb 08
I usually like people to look me in the eye if I am talking to them but fine if glance away etc. I can usually tell if someone lying or cannot be trusted by looking into their eyes, but also appreciate some people are very shy. My daughter scatched herself at birth on the face so has a scar and she is the least violent person I know so I definately don't agree with that one. Ellie :D