How many kids do you have?

I guess I didn't realize that they were till enforcing that... I can understand their reasoning, but it is still very sad that they can control how many kids you have. It sounds like if you do have another child, you'll lose your job... is there a way you can save up enough money so that if you do lose your job because you have another child, you can still manage? If I truly wanted another child, I think that's what I would try to do. Good luck to you...

What would happen if you had another? Would you ever consider moving to where its okay to have as many children as you want? I have two children and they are a joy. It can be tough. SO cant anything. I think theres things that you should experience in life. One of them is being a sibling. I hated it most of the time because I was the oldest of THree girls. As I began school some of my friends were only children and they always wanted to be at my house. It may be different for your child because everyone is an only child. Dont worry. No matter who you call god, He/she will guide you. Talk to your spouse. Maybe he/she feels the same and would be willing to move or something. Dont Fret over it. You can always come to AMerica! We love children.lol

I had no idea that china had a law like that. I have three children. I can't imagine my life with out them. I hope they change the law soon that you can have another child

I have two beautiful daughters and can not imagine ever being without them, they really are my world. I feel for you but what other way can china control her growing population?

Oh that is the policy in China? I am not aware of that. Though that is propagated here in our country also it is not taking that much momentum. I have two kids, a daughter and a son. I am happy we decided to go for the second. Now they both are enjoying themselves as siblings very much.

more children means more cost. according to the price today in China, you really want an other one? well, maybe you are a rich man

As an only child, I can personally tell you that we aren't a "deprived" bunch. I "adopted" my siblings from among my friends as I was growing up. But I also would have been happy had I had brothers and sisters. But, if I had my life to live over again, I would want to live it as an only child, as that was the life I knew and I was happy with it. Too bad you don't live in the USA. We even have a family here that has about 17 or 18 kids--and might have even added more since I read about them last. Let me go get their website. brb... I'm back & here's their website... http://www.duggarfamily.com/ Fantastic, huh!?!

Hi yannycui, I have only one kid with me. I rather pitied my kid for his loneliness as he didn’t have any sibling to play with during his childhood. For the sake of the child, I think it is better to have at least two children in a family. I understand that, as in your situation, it might be a dilemma for you either to choose a second child or the current job.

Oh wow.... I only have 1 child, my son...and I dunno if I'd want another because I'm so in love with him...but I'm glad I have the freedom to choose... but what happens IF you DO get pregnant again?? How do they really control it?

I am blessed with three children, one little one and two older daughters who are mini adults now really. If you are still living in China you will have to abide by thei Law so if you do desparately want another child that much I would suggest the only solution would be to move country. A big decision and one not to be taken lightly. How does your husband feel, does he want another or is it just you. What about the frineds and family you would leave behind to enable you to have this other child. What if you do not become pregnant again for some other reason after moving your family abroad. Just so many questions and answers to be thought over here. Good luck with your descision. You are blessed with your daughter, some people aren't blessed with any who so desparately want. Ellie :D

Sorry for you, its very unfortunate. I have 2 adorable daughters and a 3rd child is on the way. You can come and live here in Kenya - Africa, we don't have a law to control birthrate and you can have many children as you can give birth to. Ever thought of adoption or how is it in your country?

The law still apply until today? Sad to hear that. Luckily in my country we are free to have as many children as possible. In fact our government imposed the target on reaching 70 million of population by the year 2020, meaning to say an average of 8 children per family. Back to your question, I have 1 pair. In fact I intent to have 4 kids however due to medical reason,my wife depend on one kidney, the doctor advised us not to take the risk or more children. It is fine with me to have a pair and I am lucky to be blessed with 2 beautiful kids.

Well atleast you were blessed with a little girl though but hopefully they will change the law so you can have another child...I don't have any kids but I would love to have a little girl and boy some day whenever I'm ready 2 have them.

I am also a Chinese,yes ,as you say that because we China have a large population but the resouce is limited our government carry out this policy.I think it is according to the reality of our country .But really make those who want more children very confused.

I have two kids and I miss them so much.. I want to add up but Im still thinking if oit would be practical to have two more kids, well life is getting harder and harder but who knows well if i am blessed with another set of girl and boy thats beautiful..