Do you get nervous?
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
February 23, 2008 9:26am CST
OK. Both of you and your kids decide to spend the day visiting a show ( furniture show/auto show/home show, doesn't really matter). It's something that you all enjoy and it's a good way to spend time together doing something that pleases each one.
The show is close to your place,it won't take you more than 10 minutes to get there.
You know that it opens at 10am. But there is no specific time, it' open all day until 10pm.
The day comes but all of you wake up a little late.You're the first one waking up and it's already 9:15. You jump off the bed and go take your shower while waking up everyone.
There's only one washroom in the house, so people usually kind of line up to use it.
FOr the purpose of this discussion let's say that you are a man. You take your shower, comb your hair put on your clothes and you're done.
By then there's 3 people taking turns to take a shower and get ready, although you already are. So You decide to go out with the family dog.
You come back at 9:45 expecting everyone to be ready, but they're not.
The other male in the family, a teenager, decided to forget about the shower and is ready as well.
THe two females, well, their hair is still wet- the hair dryer just broke - and they're finishing getting dressed.
It's 10 am. You're still all at home.
You get nervous. It's been almost an hour since you woke up and woke up everyone else as well. Why isn't everybody ready to go?
Someone mumbles that the purpose of this outing is to enjoy the day together as a family, why should there be stress attached to it.
How do you react?
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9 responses
@rashmigs (400)
• Singapore
23 Feb 08
Haha... is this a thing that happened to u yesterday or a couple of days back???
Well, 2 things could happen...
1. Say suppose your kid starts feeling tht stress is attached. He complains, You react to his words. Things turn out bad. Then, out of anger, u decide to cancel the show. You go back to your bedroom and bang the door and feel frustrated about the whole issue. You family also feel dissapointed. Sad Ending :(
Let me explain u another possiblility,
2. Your kid murmers something intending to tell you that you are stressed out and that way, the day cannot be fun filled. You realize that you are stressed. So immeidately u start counting 10 to 1. And u feel much better ;)
Then you take out the car from the garage, and all of u r set to go. Once the show is begun, you guys really start enjoying it and forget the stress and stuff...Happy ending... :)
That is what I would exactly do...
We will have to sometimes learn to control our anger, tears, temptations, pain for the sake of our loved ones...
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
LOL not to me. I am the count to 10 kind - often backwards and in german to give me more time :)
I find that people sometimes get so focused on what they planned that they forget the purpose.
I can understand the stress if we were talking of something that had a specific time to be there. And even in that case I would really think about the purpose and if it was really worth the stress ( had I spent money on tickets already? Was someone there waiting for us? how much more important would be attending than to find an alternative way to spend together?)
ANyway, I really agree with your option number 2. But that's my take. I know that a lot of people would end up with 1 even without thinking.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I can't say I get nervous in situations like this but I do get very annoyed. I'm the morning person in the family so am always up and ready to go long before anyone else - waiting around for other people is very annoying to me and before everyone is ready to go I'm stressed because of being tired of waiting. I'm ready to go everyone else should be too :)
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
IN this case, since there was no time set there was no one actually late. It seems to me that you accessed the situation properly:)
Waiting is something that tends to get people upset in general. Some get more nervous about it then others.
ALso some people have shorter fuses than others.
When waiting is a problem I think that good planning is important so there are no misunderstandings.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
23 Feb 08
My son now gets upset with me because if I have to wait more than a few minutes I'll find something else to do to keep my busy while waiting. Then, when he's ready, I make him wait while I finish what I'm doing :) pay backs can be sweet :)
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
24 Feb 08
Very few families have such busy, timely schedule. Unlike in West, in India, people have plenty of time for things like going out for a cinema show or an exhibition. If in case at a particular time, if the family members are not ready, they then cancel the visit to exhibition, instead go for some other programe which can be completed in short duration. They plan to visit the exhibition someother time. Yes it is irritating to see people do not respond and get ready on time. sometimes, you loose the initiative to go to such programme, if other members do not adhere to the schedule.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
2 Mar 08
I find that a family outing is something to be savored, something that should be remembered as a good thing, not as a rush, a flash of schedules to meet. That we all have during our week days.
Sure if there is a set time everyone should do their best to be on time, but I also think that team work is very positive. Instead of each one for himself maybe everyone can do some things so to help being on time.
It's easy when one just gets dressed and is ready specially if the person gets dressed fast LOL but that's not exactly team work :)
@mdmansoor1987 (386)
• India
24 Feb 08
Ah!!!! Seeing at ur big passage i feel nervous...Juz Kidding :)
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 08
Well I am a Woman and my reaction would be there is no way are going to make it
I have done this once got up to late for work
I went in the Shower fortunatly Kids where of School let my Hair dry Naturally got in the car
Got to the Office went to the Ladies and put my Make on, well I wasn't late lol I was just in the Ladies and on the premises
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
2 Mar 08
LOL I know twin dear. I find that the person that gets finished first tends to get impatient but if they really see what the others are doing and notices that they're not just sitting down waiting for the time to pass I'm sure the the impatience should subside a bit:)
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
24 Feb 08
Geez Arkaf, what's there to be nervous about?
It is really nothing and in fact, this would quite likely be the norm in any big enough family.
That's why the big mama in the family will wake everyone up so that everyone can finish grooming themselves in say... 2 hours.
Yes, 2 hours is quite fast already lol.:P
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I am never nervous. My mother and my brother in the other hand are very nervous without the reason.
I am always in relaxing stage. Family day means family day and everybody needs to be happy.
If I am ready, I can always have cup of coffee while waiting and read good book....
For how many hours do you need to watch the show anyway.
It is hard for me to get ready with my personal washroom.
I can not imagine to use one washroom and have all family members ready on time.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
Yes, I"m like that too, even though I understand that not everyone is.
In my opinion a family outing needs not be spoiled with stress, that's defeating the purpose.
WE're usually quite good with the bathroom thing specially since we tend to wake up at different times, but in situations like this it gets a bit complicated :)
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
24 Feb 08
I would not get uptight if there was no specific time to be there and it was close to home and we had all day. I get that way when we have a deadline or a long way to travel and planned an early start. Let's just say that I'm not a lot of fun to be around when the hold-up is girls doing makeup and hair etc and taking forever. I work nites and on a few occassions I have asked my girls to do some things that will make the morning run so very much smoother. I get a tad bit irate when they don't do thier part which means I get less sleep in order to get it done.
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@schilds (410)
• United States
24 Feb 08
That sounds like my husband!!! I have 2 little kids, so when we go anywhere I have to get myself and both of them ready to go in the time it takes him to get ready and start the truck. If he has to wait more than a minute or 2 he gets really antsy. He starts tapping his feet, then he gets up and starts moving stuff around in my kitchen or desk, then finally he goes outside and chain smokes until we get done. Once in a while he tries to help, but normally the kids wiggle so much that he cant get them dressed, and our daughter absolutely will not let him brush her hair anymore.
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