How do you tell a friend that they are-not good-looking?
By Raymo23
@Raymo23 (463)
Uganda
February 23, 2008 9:59am CST
A friend approached me recently asking me whether he was not good looking. Matter of fact, he isn't that good looking, but he's a good friend, but I could not tell him that, and instead told him that I did not judge people on appearance, and hence could not answer such a question, which was really evasion, and maybe affirmation. I bungled it up, but what would you do if you were in that situation?
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8 responses
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I think anyone who asks a friend that question has low self esteem. I think I would ask why he was asking and try to get the conversation going a different way so I wouldn't have to answer the question.
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@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
24 Aug 08
honestly i couldn't tell a friend that he or she is ugly. that is one thing that i could not be honest about. i have a friend that is not the best looking and wondering why she hasn't found someone. i just lie and tell her she is beautiful and the one guy for her will come along. you can't be truthful to someone about that.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
24 Aug 08
I think this is a judgement call, and I would tell my friend that too.
People are attracted by other people for several reasons, by looks, character and more. And even within looks there are lots of different tastes.
I would tell my friend that they should allways treasure themselves the way need to have respect of themselves. I would ask them why they are asking this and try to find out what makes them doubt this, because most of the time these questions are asked when people are insecure about their looks.
You could take your friend shopping for some clothing, a new hair-do or whatever if they feel like they don't look good. A make over can be great, if they want to do so. As long as they stay themselves and aren't forced into clothing they don't like at all. Sometimes you just don't think something might look great on you and you didn't even think about that.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I would probably turn the question back to him and ask him whether he thinks he's good looking or not and why so then I avoid answering his question altogether.
@shakeroo (3986)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 08
I would never tell a person how he or she looks like. I think they have to discover that themselves without having others point it up for them...
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
Raymo23.....
If they ARE your friend....then it doesn't matter.
Friendship comes from within.
commanderxo
@chunter (1759)
• Singapore
23 Feb 08
I would told him that different people have different perspective about good looking...Then told him frankly that he's not very good looking in general...
But of course, don't stop there....beauty is not just on the exterior...its about the inside of a person as well...A person can be beautiful on the outside, but what's the point if he/she is ugly on the inside....?
