lovers can never be friends

friends may be lovers but lover will not be friends naymore if they broke up with eachother as lovers, i think you don't need to get pregnant in these days also he is not lucky to live with you any more, but anyhow, god with you in your life for your baby

guys use "friendship" for getting into love with a gal... but a gal uses the same "friendship" to end a love relationship with a guy..

That's unmanly indeed, he should've stood up for you and your child. I hope he realizes the consequences of his actions, maybe a little explanation could make a difference. There are times that I also ended up with losing both a friend and a partner, but each and everyone of them have different reasons why we chose not to continue and maintain the relationship we had. I always believe that some are still bitter for what had happened, as that's what I also feel at times but life has to move on for me..

I am so sorry that happened to you. Lets hope that he does wake up. My daughters dad left me when he first found I was pregnant and I refused an abortion. He surprised me by showing up unexpectedly one nite with a change of heart. He said he was just overwhelmed and scared and needed to think. lets hope that is the case with your boyfriend. Kids need their dads and not just for financial support.

I dont think lovers can never be friends. I and my ex-b we dont have prob since we have our own business. We still contact each other as friends.

Hello! Thats horrible. Im so sorry to happened that with you. I cant understand guys like that. Its a shame!! Thye see this as a responsibility or as a problem but i think its pne of the most beautiful thing of life ever. 2 years ago my girlfrined got pregnant too. I didnt know how to react because she was 17. I always would like to be a father but i know that its really gard a young mothers life. I tried to encourage her i said i will be her and we could solve everything together. She made her decision. She go on an abortion. I was sad but i cant blame her. She has a whole life to wait on her before she give lifefor a baby.

i am sorry to hear whats happened with you my dear friend. but i agree with your opinion. i know some people still able to make up with their ex-boyfriend as their best friend but the total is not too many. most of them could not be best friend each other. i also don't think so that i would be best friend with my ex-boyfriend. he was nice and sincerely when we were best friend but when we were couple, he little bit different. and nowadays i realized that he can't be with me. he doesn't deserve to live with me. i am feeling sad but this matter. however i still loving him no matter how. but to be together in rest my life, i really getting doubt on it :(

hmmm.. its the situation with many. But here I guess that the loss is not only yours, he has lost a good friend and lover.But what can be said to this situation? he was just not able to handle the responsibility. hope in future it never happens with you.

I've had ex-lovers that remained my friends. I even remained friends with a guy who cheated on me, because in the end he had some very good reasons, and I cared more about him as a friend than I did about the relationship his cheating destroyed. I can see how your situation is different, though. There's a difference between just breaking up with someone and breaking up with your pregnant girlfriend. It would be pretty much impossible to be friends after that, at least unless he was willing to take some amount of parental responsibility.

Lovers Can be friends.. sometimes they end up being the best friends. In some relationships that ends because they have some misunderstanding with ones attitude they still become friends.

6 years and end up nothing? He is a real jerk if he doesn't dare to face the reality of life and accept his responsibility. All I can say right now is that he didn't love you or perhaps just puppy love. Don't ever dream of coming back to him even if he beg you. Look for a nice and resposible gentlemen out there. Mr. Right is out there waiting for you.

That's awful! What a jerk! Trust me, years down the line, you are going to look back at this and be glad you didn't wind up with the jerk because you will be with a man who truly is genuine and treats you the way you treat someone when you love them. However, you need to look for signs because there are always signs of this sort of thing. However, sometimes when we care for someone, we wear blinders and so therefor we don't see the bad things. Either that or we tend to just ignore them. Just be careful and look for them. Plus, on another note, sue his butt for child support. It will deserve him right pfff...

If he really loved you and liked you. then he should have stepped up to the plate and said he was thrilled to be a father but evidently something was missing in him. He wanted the fun of creatingwithout the responsiblity that comes with having a family Maybe in a way you were lucky to find out what he was lacking before you had your baby since I doubt if he would have been an a one father thats too bad. I am sorry for you but bet uyou will find Mr right pretty soon.

Lovers can be Friends and Friends can be Lovers. this always depend on both sides. but its a good thing for you that your friend is not your real friend nor a good lover.

hmmm.. maybe, but then, all my ex-BFs are still my friends

One door closes,another door opens shynie,one day you will understand,and I do hope you will be able to laugh about this experience a little.you are correct about being open to lifes trials,this in itself shows maturity. All the best to you.

i treated my ex(s) as enermies in a short period and back to friends again

Some men...or should I say boys, are just to stupid to deal with real life. I am sorry hun *hugs* I know one of thse types too. 6 years of friendship down the bloody drain

most of the lovers i have seen were friends once and some they managed to get into relationship...so why can't a friend be your lover.Most of them want their spouse or lover to be their friend...it helps in understanding a lover more as a friend..

for me lovers can be frends if u break up poperly or talk before u decide not to see each other u can still be friends..me and my ex where still be friends we still chat and txt each other and cre for each other.