Can't have children

I think that has to be a personal decission that each woman has to decide for herself. We lost 4 babies and it was realy hard. I wanted to adopt but hubby did not. We do have two children though

I think she could adopt and also keep trying. I have a friend, her and her husband finally got to the point in their lives when they wanted to start a family. They tried for a very long time then decided to adopt. As soon as the adoption come through she found out she was pregnant and ended up having 2 plus her daughter she adopted. The doctor told them the stress of not being able to have kids left them once they decided to adopt and that helped her to get pregnant. I have heard many stories of this happening to others also.

I don't think i would continue to try and possibly lose my life and the life of another baby. I think i would try to adopt one or have someone else give birth to a child with my husbands sperm or something. If that wasn't possible then I would adopt an infant.

Hi Rose, I had three miscarriages and still wanted to try for more babies. I love children so much. My hubby and I (at the time) didnt have money to adopt. We kept trying and eventually had three wonderful sons. So yes Im glad i didnt give up. I would probably keep trying if I had a chance.

This was sad for the lady. I know a lady that married when she was twenty one years old and she tried to get pregnant for eight years without any success. Then she gave up. A year later she got pregnant with identical twin boys. I know another lady that tried to get pregnant for ten years. Then she got IVF treatment and had triplet boys. For someone that had less than a thirty per cent chance of getting pregnant I think adoption is the answer. I would happily adopt a child that needed a home. However two of my cousins are infertile and both didn't want to adopt. I am a primary school teacher and I know that I love children. But some ladies only want to care for their own child or children. Each to their own hey. I taught in a Catholic school a little girl was adopted to an infertile lady. One boy was adopted with an older brother and younger sister to another infertile lady. The boys were poorly behaved due to years of neglect and mis treatment. I would choose to adopt a child from overseas like a girl from China because I could give her a wonderful life away from an home for unwanted children.

I think that if it were my wife...I would just say to try to adopt because while most people do just want their own children if it could possibly kill my wife and kid or one to the other..I wouldn't want to do that..so I would just try to talk to my wife and tell her that it would still be our kid...and we wouldn't treat it any differently..

If I wanted a child I'd consider adopting even before thinking of becoming pregnant. I'd rather adopt than have "my own" child, because there are many children already born that need good homes. Why not give one of them a good home before creating another one?

I think the first thing I would do is sit down and discuss with my husband since he has a very important part in this decision. I know that she would like to have a child of her own but if it was me I would go ahead and adopt a child there are so many that would appreciate a good home. But even though I would adopt I also would continue to try to get pregnant. From what you said it was not impossible for her to get pregnant but it would be very hard.

I would keep trying until the doctors said I shouldn't try anymore. Miracles do happen and you just never know. I have the one son and have been trying to get pregnant again for 3-4 years now and still no luck. I suggested adoption to my husband and he said he wouldn't love them like his own. What do you say to that?

Yes I would keep trying until I reached the aged where nature said I couldn't have any because that's the kind of person I am. I don't give up easily and if I knew there was even a slight chance I would keep trying.

Base on your story she can't have children any more coz 30% is very risk to continue doing it. All of want to have our own child but there is a situation that we cannot do any thing about it so why keep on try when your own self is in risk. Your friend need someone to talk or even consider go to a doctor/councillor they will explain to her every thing but as I can see they do that already and he keeps on trying it. If I where in her position I will consider adopting a child it does not matter where it came from as long as I got a child. In my point of view I will be the one who take care of the child, I will be the one who raise her/him so I can teach them and treat them as my own. Why is she afraid of adopting 1 as a trial if she will not take care of that child she adopted then how much more in taking care of her own. It's a case to case basis husband and wife have to talk and agree in all there decision it's there life if they insist of not adopting a child then better accept that they will not have even one child to love and taking care off in the future. I know how it feels but that is her destiny and she can't do anything about it but accept the situation

For me chances are ..If i can't have my own kid biologically then I will adopt kids much better. You are helping this poor kids to grow with a family value.. Love them just like your own. Because If you can;t do anything to have kids then You have a lot of options in the world to have kids.

i wouldn't continue to try under this states. the baby is inculpable,at the same time we should treasure our life. we must support the pain by ourselves and don't share it with others.

This is not a nice situation to be in and everyone should have a right to choose if they have a child or not, however in this un perfect world this is not possible for everyone. I have heard that the more treatment you recieve via the likes of IVF the similar your chances become each time of this working for you. Adoption is a great idea however this may not like you have said forfill your friends needs as it will never be here own, however she could try finding someone to carry the child for her this has become popular but again still might not be the right thing for her. There is no easy answer to this situation and as previously said not a choice someone should have to make but sometimes in life there is still that little light at the end of the tunnel so she needs to do what she feels is right for her physically and emitionally

For me there's nothing wrong with trying, they should try without expecting too much, so it isn't dissapointing if its not successful, if it's god's will for them not to conceived a baby they should accept it. this might be a test of god on their relationship, if they love each other they will be happy even without children. they can consider adoption, but if they really don't feel it, they should not pursue it because later on the child or even themselves might suffer.

If she were my wife, I'd keep trying and also slowly encourage her we think about adoption.

I can't understand why people NEEEEEED to have their own child. Even if it is near impossible, will kill them or cost $$$. They still neeeed to have their own flesh and blood. God forbid they adopt and give some kid who needs love and a home a chance! I just see this as another selfish act of the human race.