I miss them.

OK Dee I hate to keep harping, but has your daughter, and hubby considered adoption. I also has endometreosis and have since had a complete hysterectomy, so I have also been in her position :) Keep us posted on her progress.

My daughter and hubby have talked about adoption,and also about freezin her eggs, they would like one of their own, but I told her maybe her baby is already here she just has not met it yet. It is hard. and a struggle on all the things gong on in her life, the pain for her is aweful, it is hard for her to keep a job. Hard for me to watch her struggle. I can only suggest options, it is her choice as to what she does. I suppose another reason I miss them, when they were young I coud make the choices, now I can't.

Yea, it was those things too, those walks to the park and watching them play, those rides in the car when we would sing and car dance. Those days and weeks we would play games or do a puzzel every nite, just to spend time together. Now I am luciky if I see them all for Christmas. I have no grandchildren yet, my daughter has endomeatriousus(sp)she maynot be able to have kids, she has already lost one ovarie, they are trying to save the one she has left right now. She is the only one married and owning a home. I worry for her, but she has a good husband, who loves her very much. I think he will help her find away. But I do not see granchildren coming anytime soon.

I know. I miss mine too and I really like them besides loving them to pieces.

You know what Whit, I really liked my kids , they were fun. I like most kids well enough, but it is my kids that I truely miss.

Dee I firmly believe women like you and me make the best Foster/Adoptive parents. If after a year you still have empty nest, then you are not through mothering, that is my opinion. I know a lot of women after the kids have left are ready for time to themselves, or spending more alone time with hubby, it wasn't that I didn't want that, but my desire to have children back in my home was greater. Go figure, LOL.

You know what Olive I have thought of doing foster care, several times. Every time I see one of them commercails about it I think, hmmm I could do that.

Oh my , you are very busy, lots going on in your house I am sure. I come from a family of nine. I remember when I was so busy, and I remember thinking, will this ever end lol. You are so right, the time fly's, so enjoy , have fun. Keep making those wonderful memories, you will need them down the road. Before you know it you it will be quiet. Thanks for you input, made me smile.

Glad to make you smile I hope mylot is helping you pass the time. LOL Have a nice one.

With my kids, I will hear from them, every week for awhile, and then I won't for 1 month or more at other times. I suppose,it is just life lol. We do love them so. Thanks.

You know I remeber it well, I had 3, they were 4 and under. I remember thinking will this ever end, and my mom saying don't be in such a hurry, before you know it they will be gone. So, yes do enjoy them, even when they are naughty.

My oldest is the only one of my children to move out and come back. He has done it 2 times now. But he always gets back on his feet and moves on. He was here late last summer, he broke it off with his fiance. So he moved in got a new job and in 2 months moved out. I think he just need a place to lick his wounds, it was a sad break up, and get himself together again.

I have done that to some degreee now, I do have a rather full life. I have friends who visit often, my siblings as well. I am starting to explore the many options I use to dream of doing when my kids were young. Thanks.

Boy you have your hands full, wow. I know how it is when the hugs and kisses get few and far, so soak up all the loving you can get from that youngest one lol.

Myself I have, I think it is 23 neices and nephews now. One more on the way . I am also amazed at how fast they grew up to. My neices and nephews run from age, 32 to 10 months old. Boy a family reunion with my family is huge lol. I have one grandnephew, so far. I use to look at my parents when we were all together and say see what you started. Hehehe...

It is so hard when you move far from them, my youngest boy was 13 when I left his dad. It is too long a story, but at any rate, I was in the city. My son stayed with his dad, about 60 miles away, but it could of been a thousands since I had no way to get there. He would come to visit, we would talk often of him coming to be with me for good, but in the end he just couldnt leave all his friend , his school. Those were the main reasons I let him stay with his dad. They did not get along either, he ended up living with one of his good friends and that family, I thanked that mom, for givng him a safe place to stay. he gradutated and is also the one moving for school to California, I think that may be what has brought this on, I always felt like I somehow never finished my job with him. Like I some how failed him in some way. Even though he is proving other wise, by being so self sufficient, He has done well so far.I am not sure if I made the right choices or not, but in the end he is doing well, so I have to think all that ground work I laid when he was young had paid off. All my children are doing well, thank God. All hard working good, kind people. All I ever wanted was that. So hang in there Katherine, in the end of it all you may find out like I did your children will be ok. I hope your oldest son contacts you soon, if they only new it wares on you when you here nothing for to long. Do you get any sort of visitation with your daughter through out the year.

Oh it will not easy when my youngest moves too California, I will try to visit him once a year I think. Hope I am able to manage that.

They do, and so fast. It is hard to beleive sometimes for me. I liked it when the were in school age, it was the calm before the teens for me. Those were nice easy times then. School, activities, family. We had a nice rutine going in those days. Enjoy!

You made me smile with this post Dragon,it is so true how they like to still get those specail goodies. You are right my heart is full, of many happy memories and I know we will have many more. Thanks!

Well my youngest son is about 1 hour away and so is my daughter. My oldest son is not far at all. They have been on their own all 3 of them for sometime now. Most times I am so busy myself I do not pine after them. But every now and again, I just miss those time so. I know they have busy lifes , and they are all in the 20's. So mom is not always on their mind. It is ok, they are good kids and I am proud of who they are becoming. Just, it is one of those times , I am missing them.. Thanks and enjoy that little 5 year old. That is such a fun age, the world is so new and exciting at 5.

It is amazing really how fast they grew up, they have always known without I am available when ever where ever. We always enjoyed each other company, I amnot saying it was always a bed of roses, but we just like each others company. I just found out this week, my youngest son is coming for Sunday dinner and then a roaring game of dominoes I hope. Oh and my oldest son might join us, it will be fun.

Yep, you know. It is how it should go, I know. I feel good that I raised 3 very independent children. They are doing well, but I know it is also normal for them to not want much to do with me , they are learning to be adults now. I was like that myself, we do talk on the phone almost weeky. so I do speak to them, What I miss is the noise, the activity, the day to day of children.

Oh I am enjoying it. Bob and I had our kids later in life - LOL. I was 35 when my 11 year old was born, so we will be a little older then some of our friends who are empty nesters. Our choice! I am enjoying each day with them. I was in such a horrible funk for so long but thanks to a new doctor who truly cares he has brought me out of the funk and the girls are seeing their good ole goofy mom!!! There is so much MORE laughter in our house now!!!! I can't sing but just two weeks ago my youngest and I were rockin' out to songs from Grease! When the doc asked me if I noticed any changes that is the one that popped into my head! Pretending to be Olivia Newton John. LOL

We have the best times when we do get together now, we sit and laugh at all those fun times. Enjoy, enjoy!

That's great and exactly what I am talknign about, when my kids were little Micheal Jackson Thriller had just came out. Man did we rock that album, they wanted to listen and dance very day, Was so much fun. Keep having fun, I am glad you are feeling better.

Maybe you can volunteer for babysit or help out somewhere that needs someone like you! Both seniors and children often need someone to talk to and you will feel better too!

We do have lots to teach, and once they move out, well it is all that much harder. I can only really help now if they come and ask, which they do. I guess I should be glad of that. So far they are doing well, and yes learning thru experience. Now I know things a never dull at your house, I grew up in a family of 9 children. Always something going on somewhere.

How old are your girls, I remember my daughter, she was funny at sleep overs at 1st, she would want to go so bad, and then once there, just when it was time for bed usually she would all of a sudden get sick,there were a few times I was running off to bring her home. It was ok, she grew out of it.I was usualy glad for the break most times when they went off to grandma's. I would miss them and be happy to have a minut lol.