I saw my bestfriend's boyfriend with someone else.
By shynie
@shynie (556)
Philippines
February 25, 2008 2:12am CST
Just this morning as I was on my way in of a shopping mall, I saw my bestfriend's boyfriend out of the mall with another girl, holding hands and they were so sweet. They didnt see me. I feel so bad. My bestfriend was crying to me last night because she had a big fight with his guy. What do you think should I do? I wanted to tell her but I know she will be in great pain if she knows this.
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5 responses
@gerald_lian (2188)
• Australia
25 Feb 08
I think you should tell her because she has the right to know and make a decision. Besides, would you want to see your friend continue to be with a guy who cheats on her? Yeah, she will be in great pain, but I think the pain will be even greater if she manages to find it out on her own or if she finds out at a later time, when their relationship is just beginning to build up. As a friend, it's important to tell the truth; leave the rest to your friend to decide. Don't forget to lend a shoulder to your friend if she cries!
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I agree with Gerald. you should tell her now. Since you are a trusted friend, she will better appraciate it more to find it out from you than hearing it from somebody else and she might get angry at you if you wont tell her and knowing you already know and did not tell her.
It will only just show that you care for your friend when you tell her.
Yes she will be in pain and you will be there to ease that pain and help her get through it. So it is the right time and your friend needs you badly. If you were in her shoes would you rather know it from a friend or from other people?
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
14 Mar 08
Let sleeping dogs lie-let her discover her cheating boy friend herself, what if you broke the news and she quickly in rage either kills the cheating boy friend or the new girlfriend or kills herself, wont that blood mess your hands, the source of the dangerous news? Please, let sleeping dogs lie!
@pogoaddict (72)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I think you should tell her. If she's already upset and fighting with him, now would be the time to tell her. If you don't and they get back together and you decide to tell her later on down the line, she'll be upset all over again. Kinda like let her grieve once, not twice. Aside from that, wouldn't you expect her to tell you? I would, myself.
@etavasi (749)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 08
Hello shynie, you is just a friends of your best friends. Enter your friends problem will make a bigger disaster. What you can do is just forget about her boyfriend. Bring your friends to some place that she like. Make her laugh, eat together and always be a good friends. Her boyfriends have another girl already then just forget it. If she think more about the problem it will create more pain. Other thinks you can do is pray. Pray to God hope her boyfriends someday will realise and change his attitude and also to your best friends hope she can keep on going and succes in her live.
