Long-distance relationships

As cliche as it may seem, there is no way around a long-distance relationship but to have trust. It's best that you have built a good foundation for your relationship before the distance happens. Keep communication lines open and keep each other posted with the important things that happen in your individual lives. Do not entertain doubts unless there's a strong basis for it. Good luck!

I had a few, they never worked, it takes two very mature people to have a long distance relationship. It is always very hard, because you are not with the one you love, you have to stay in communication as much as you can, by visiting, by phone, by internet.

I was in a distance relationship for more than 4 years and it worked for me. It worked because we communicated everyday and not just once but sometimes up to 5 times a day. It was just too expensive but it was also very flaterring. Long distance relationship nowdays is very workable because of internet and advancement in communication. One could even chat with ones loved ones for hours and at a very minimal cost. Constant communication is the key to make it work and a lot of trust on each other.

Hi Berry... I'm currently in a long distance relationship.. and believe me when I say it's not easy AT ALL.. and lots of giving and sacrifices should be done for it to work out... Sometimes misunderstandings can create problems.. plus when you miss your partner -if you can call him that- and can't meet him you start becoming demanding and moody; which affect the relationship... You two have to be open and talk about everything you go through so he understands your feelings and you understand his... If you didn't start the relationship yet my advice to you is DON'T... I'm sorry but it is a fact, you are going to suffer from it and may hate it with time.. Thanks for the topic...

well, all relationships goes through work and both parties should get involved or else, it will never work. i am in an LDR relationship right now and i guess i could say that trust will always be an issue and communication is very important. =) but once you have reassured each other that there's nothing to worry about and if there's something you need to discuss with, you should discuss it to avoid misunderstnadings.

havent been in that kind opf relationship yet.i think it would be so hard for a relationship without the presence of your love one beside you.i think the only thing that would bond you together is trust in each other.i dont think it would last long enough because of the boredom factor...

Yes, for almost 5 years my - now = husband was here in Canada and I was back in Portugal. Since we've been married for over 20 years, I guess I can say that this kind of relationship can work:) I'm not sure about what tips to give to make it work but I find very important that there aren't too many expectations and that we understand that anything can happen. I am not a pessimist but I like to have a realistic view of the situations. Actually when he came here, we kind of put our relationship a bit on hold because we didn't know what was going to happen and we felt it was better not to make promises that could be broken. The important think was that we kept in touch and were always honest with each other about what was happening. There was no internet then, so snail mail it had to be. There would be times where we were sending and receiving two letters a week, times where it would go a month where there would be no special news. Phone calls were expensive, but not that much that we wouldn't talk over the phone regularly. Like the letters, sometimes several times a week, sometimes with more space in between. Little surprises here and there. An unexpected package coming in the mail. A special delivery as a surprise. A ticket to go visit him the summer after he left. A week's vacation in Brazil for his birthday. Those were things that we were able to afford at the time and allowed us to be able to be together every once in a while. But I think the most important thing was that we were able to be honest to each other. I'm not going to lie. Both of us kind of dated a few times while we were apart. We had actually talked about it and felt that we didn't know what would happen with us. WHo knows maybe we would find someone else. IN any case it didn't work for either of us and we ended up together even though we were apart for over 4 years.

Yes I have. Well, we went to college together but in the summer when we went to our respective homes-he was 7 hours away. It SUCKED. It was very hard to maintain and I believe it was the downfall of our relationship. it's hard to go from seeing someone almost every day to...never. When I first started dating my current boyfriend he lived about an hour and a half away. It wasn't easy. I missed him so much, and i lived for the weekends when we could be together. But we made it and about 6 months ago, he moved here to my city and moved in. I can't imagine being long distance again, I love coming home to my man every night :)

I have and it was one of the most difficult things I ever did in my life, and I wasn't even putting in as much effort as him! He used to drive down to see me every weekend (he lived about 2 hours away) and stay with his parents. I lived with my folks, too, so we got no privacy and he spent a fortune on gas to come see me. I don't know that I have any advice for you except to weigh the pros and cons very carefully to decide if it's worthwhile because it is NOT EASY. I loved him dearly, but in hindsight it was a horrible situation for both of us and put huge strains on the relationship, our personal and social lives and our family relationships.

Hi not yet i dont think its long term it must be temporaroly phase when u r alone and when u find some one physical to date u forget about Long distance one are u looking for long distance relationship LOL

Before, I don't believe that long-distance relationship will work but i think since my hubby will leave soon in the US for a vacation or good, I'm not sure, I think I need to make it work this time. Lolz, sounds pretty easy to do huh? I'm not sure. :( Help! What should I do?

Yes, long distance relationships can and do work. if the two of you really love and trust one another than it can actually bring you alot closer. my husband and i are currently doing the long distance relationship. he's been overseas for almost a year now and we have grown so much closer because our voices and the things we say are all we have right now. It can be a wonderful experience as long as both of you are devoted to one another and are committed to each other. Good luck to you and God bless

the secret of long distance relationship is always stay sweet, trust each other and stay open communication, never say ok if your not.