are you willing to forgive a friend who has betrayed you?
By Popsiecles
@skbh12 (2946)
Philippines
February 25, 2008 6:53pm CST
remember i had this blog saying "have you ever been betrayed?"
now another question follows.. would you be willing to accept the apologie? what if that person asks you if you two could be good ol friends just as you were before? how would you respond to that person?
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15 responses
@meiling2610 (27)
• Singapore
3 Mar 08
i hav being betrayed b4...i noe how hurt it is especially when u trusted her so much.....if she ever ask 4 my forgiveness, i will juz turn my head off....it take a lot of courage to reaccept someone.....i am a coward when it come to friendship u can say but i really hav no courage to face e risk of being betrayed....i put in so much in tis friengship yet it turned out as being betrayed...when tis happen how can we still be gd friends again?
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
i guess she has really betrayed you badly that you became traumatized to befriend her again.. well, trust is not being given with just one snap of a finger. it is to be earned from a person..
@genius101 (1)
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25 Apr 10
It's hard to forgive friends especially those that were close to your heart that you feel you did a lot for. I desperately trying to forgive an old friend that viciously attacked me in the street, put that aside i'm trying to forgive her so i can move on with my life. Being angry with her has kept me hostage and held me bitter for so long. This happened almost a year ago, she's not been part of my life for eight months. She called and asked for forgiveness whilst in the process trying to justify her actions. When she saw i wasn't willing to forgive she started crying and sobbing and begging my family to put me back on the phone. But her last action, of violence and humiliation, due to her own jealousy and inferiority was the straw that broke the camels back. I've decided to forgive her everyday, because sometimes actually a lot of the times the anger comes back. She was someone who mostly got her own way. But with me she'll remember that you can't always get your own way, and everybody has their limitations,when they say goodbye no matter how much you cry, and you make yourself seem like the victim, their gone. She had abandonment issues in the first place, but after the drama that followed her physically assaulting me, she will think twice before she ever does that to someone again. I had to forgive myself for being manipulated by her sob stories for so long, and start forgiving her so i can open up again. Forgiveness is a tough act to do.
@hug14me (123)
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6 Aug 08
I think it depends on the act of betrayal. What was done. Is there real remorse? Trust is not just granted, it is earned. There are alot of things to consider. It would be very hard to regain what was lost. There could still be friendship but not at the level it once was. That would take effort on both sides. Just to ask the question "would you" is a question that you are considering. If it didn't matter to you, you wouldn't even ask. Good luck!
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
well i just thought of asking people's opinion here. with choosing friends, i am very picky. i make friends but i choose the people whom i think deserves my trust. so i don't really worry at all..
@harsh_choudhary (68)
• India
26 Feb 08
I can forgive people but the person in question should personal come to me and say sorry. But trusting that person in future would not be possible. Trust is like a mirror once broken can never be repaired and even if repaired the marks are still visible.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
yes thats right.. for me a person has to be true and sincere when asking for forgiveness. it is not just saying sorry then everythings okay..
@goldwin65 (935)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 08
To forgive is easy but to forget is another thing. To forgive a friend that has betrayed me, that depend on the seriousness of his or her mistake or betrayal. I maybe able to accept him or her as a friend back however the friendship may not be as close as before.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
thats nice to hear because you are still opening doors for that friend. it is just really up to that person on how she will earn the trust from you..
@ryan8kristin (37)
• United States
26 Feb 08
ok first of all i friend should never betray you ok so honstly i wouldnt forgive them.but thats my opioin
@relundad (2310)
• United States
31 Jul 08
It would be vital to me to get to a point where I could forgive, for my own well being. However I probally would have no desire in being friends as before. How would I? It isn't as it was before. That person betrayed me and my trust that was a part of our relationship. I could be cordial but I don't think that I could trust that person again. I would never knowingly betray a friend or family and expect the same. But sh!t happens. So I would live and let live. But there are some things in life, that once done stick around forever!
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
yeah befriending the person may be an easy thing to do but putting trust back is another issue. it is not easy to trust someone who has betrayed you just like that.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I don't think I would be able to forgive someone that was a friend of mine and be able to pretend everything is good again. If that person does something I feel trully hurt me, I can't see myself being friends with them again..
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
you were honest with your answer. well not all will feel comfortable being friends again with someone who has caused you so much pain. betrayal is a very big issue which is something you can just ignore.
@rinaaus (1201)
• Australia
26 Feb 08
why not? I might get angry for a period of time but I will forgive to make me release, and it will be my friend's problem. I don't put too much effort to change them when they don't want to change, so I change myself by taking more careful in the future with this friend.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
i guess you are a very forgiving person because you dont keep the pain he/she has cost you and that you managed to forget what has been done. one great friend. hope no one will ever betray you again.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
Betrayal comes in many forms. The ones that i can think of at the moment are being backstabbed, being lied to, 'stealing' your crush or bf behind your back, and not paying back borrowed money or returning borrowed stuff. I've experienced all of that, but being backstabbed and being betrayed by your friend when it comes to love are the ones that will cause the end of the once happy friendship. Especially the love aspect? Gosh, it even crossed my mind that somehow, the Lord would already take that persons life. Forgive? It really depends if the wound has been healed and if the erring friend is sincere. But one thing is for sure. I will NEVER, EVER trust that person again.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
Forgiving a friend who has betrayed me can really be very difficult. This would really take a lot of effort especially if I trusted this person so much. It would take some time before I could gather enough strength to forgive that person. Personally, I have forgiven only some of those who betrayed me and these are the people who have, with all humility and sincerity, have asked for forgiveness. As for those who have remained proud and arrogant despite what they have done, well, I don't know when will I ever forgive them. It's really difficult to forgive but forgetting is a lot more difficult...
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
well at least you have given sincere people second chances to prove themselves that they have changed...
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
forgive i can. but to bring back things the way it was before would be absolutely hard. fight between friends is ok, just a clash of differences -- but betrayal is something else. there's trust involve. friendship is founded in 2 of the most fragile things in the world. and it's love and trust.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
TRUST and LOVE is something to be earned. it is not easy to give those to a person you only met for just a second.
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Well I think that you could probably forgive them...but you would never forget what they did to you...and if they ask me if we could be good ole friends like we were before I would say maybe in time but I really dont think i could ever fully trust them again because if they did it one time they could do it again and again..so I would say yes but mean no
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
your right. forgiving is easy but forgetting is something very hard to do. all the hurts theyve cost you will heal at the right time.
@gcbarretto89 (44)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Yes, Forgive your friend. Tell your friend to explain the roots of the betrayal. If the friend is serious in asking the forgiveness,forgive. We all commit mistake. No one is perfect.
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
6 May 10
I always listen to the apologies of people but that does not mean I belive them and forgive them everything.It is just a chance for them to tell me their personal point of view but as somebody had given me up he/she can never be the close he/she was in the past.I will always have something on my mind for these people.
