i. stories of the past
By Popsiecles
@skbh12 (2946)
Philippines
February 25, 2008 9:25pm CST
i had a boyfriend whom i just met with the use of technologic gadget and that is the cellphone. we started out as textmates and as months passed by we decided to meet up.. then the story goes on. one day he asked me, "what if you found out i already have child, what will you do?"
i immediately answered back "i will leave you if thats the case.. it simply means you have a family and i can be considered as a mistress of yours. i never intended to break someone elses family. why ask me that. do you have a child???". then he answered me no.
after him asking me that question, things started playing on my mind. why would a person ask me these things out of the blue if it weren't true.
well we didnt broke up because of this issue. i just got tired of him because of some matters that i really dont want to talk about and decided to break up with him. at first he didnt approved to it but i insisted that we should break up and there is nothing else to be talked about..
years later, a girl sent me a message reporting to me things my ex-boyfriend told her things about me which were not true. then she confessed to me that he had a family back in the province . i got so pissed with my ex for lying to me that he was single and available when the truth is that he is already married to a girl having 3 kids (as far as i can remember). i never knew he'd do this thing to me. good thing i have decided earlier to finally end things up between me and that jerk but the sad part here is that i heard from the girl who reported to me these things that he left his wife for me which is not good at all..
now i have learned a lot from that experience when choosing your man, know who he really is. take time to know what is his past and his background..
now i am proud to say that i am inlove and i have never stopped loving present boyfriend. he is single and available when we started entering the relatioship that we are in..
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5 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
The most important thing in life is learning from your past experiences. And this one is an example that you've learned and never gave up on love. There are other people upon realizing the pain they encountered in love the immediately lose hope in loving again. And for you there are many things to learn and I hope you should not stop and give up to easily. Congratulations to your new found love.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
yes.. people who encounter serious love problems should not give up. there are some people who are not just meant for you.
thanks! i wont give up on the new love that i have found.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
thank you.. well i never gave up on looking for my love and now that i have found him, i will never let him go away again.
there are people who come to our lives to teach us lessons in life to learn. some people come, some people go and that is just how it is.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
yeah. thats a BBBIIIGGGG question.. who among the two are loving more and loving less?? well sometimes ive been thinking about that.. am i loving my boyfriend too much, vice versa or we are both loving each other too much equally?? because i was the more loving person with my past relationships well selected of them haha rather than being loved more than i love them.. whew!!!
@cooldude_no1 (883)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 08
for you to talk about your past relationships, especially your ex out of the sudden, simply means you thought of him and misses him. Is that true?
Perhaps too you were thinking how lucky you are in your current relationship. Congrats for that.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
nah!!! he was even the WORST NIGHTMARE ive ever had mr cooldude!! haha..if you only knew.. well.. i just thought of sharing stories like these of how some men could be jerk with their girlfriends. who knows, someone might tell us a story same as mine right? and how they were able to cope up with it..
yes i am very happy with the relationship im in. ive felt that i have opened my doors for another man again.. and that is MAC my one and only love.. it shows naman eh. haha!
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
26 Feb 08
It really isn't good when someone does this to someone who really does care about them..I mean you shouldn't lie to someone in the first place and you surely shouldnt cheat on your girlfriend or wife..which sounds like what he did..so he just did wrong from the very beginning...its good that you got out of that relationship..when you did!
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
he is a very selfish man who only thought of his happiness. i really didnt regret anything as i ended our relationship... i never wanted to be called a mistress because i never intended to break a family as what has happened to my family. i know how it feels and hurting it is to have parents who live their lives separately.
@LorgenShadoufang (153)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
My Gawd! He's a really - very - serious - liar! ='o Didn't really realize that men can be so d@mn straightforward liars! :'o
But I had a love... She told me that she's a jealous girl. I don't think now that she was honest about that. And she told me that she didn't want me to get old fast (or something like that. We were about 7 years apart in age). BUT! she left me for a married man -- with kids -- who is about 20 years older than me. Now, that doesn't make sense, does it? Well, it doesn't make sense only if we assume that she were telling the truth. Now let's assume she lied. Now that makes sense.
What truth was there in her? What truth is there in any of THEM? :'o The horror! LOL!
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Now, that's excellent -- you being in a loving relationship again. Just don't be afraid of figuring things out ;') She was afraid of a lot of things, and that's why I realized how powerful fear was.
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By the way, there is such a thing as a pathological* liar. Researchers in... some place :'p have found that pathological liars have more white matter in their brains than "non-liars".
If it's biological, it's genetic. And then if it's genetic, then you could consider this thing that somebody** said that our brains/mind can alter our genes.
Just something to think about ;')
(sorry for making statements with vague bases ;'p)
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*if something is pathological, it's a disease, i.e., it's basis is more biological rather than psychological.
**actually it was said by Dr. Mehmet Oz, co-author of "You: Staying Young: The Owner's Manuel for Extending Your Warranty", when he guested on Oprah ;') Although I've read an excerpt from the book which said that we CAN'T change our genes. I guess he CHANGED his mind on that :'p
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Enjoy! ='DD
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
really? left you for a married man with kids?? damn! that aint good.. what is it with married men and women still looking for another companion? shouldnt they be happy with the person they got married to? it is so unfair that they only think about their own happiness! well, i didnt regretted anything after breaking it off with my stupid ex. it just simply means i have learned and have grown maturely.. another thing, i am very happy with the relationship i am into right now.. he completes me everyday although there are times that we experience petty quarrels but hey they are just petty ones and can be easily ignored.. im just happy and contented of who i am with now..
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
yes and everytime i remember the things that happened, i still get pissed off with this jerk...
this too happened to one co-worker of my boyfriend. i dont know if she has moved on little by little. what happened was this. they were on for a year already when one day she saw a womans' clothes hanged outside his ex's house for she knew that the guy lives alone in it and from then on she found out that her ex is married too with kids. but the guys story is he didnt leave his family for her what now we can call a mistress. she was at her work when she found these things out as told to me by my boyfriend.
