IVF verses Adoption.

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ok, i don't mean for this discussion to be overly controversial, but i do understand that some people may have very strong views about this, so i hope we can all have a good clean discussion on this topic :). We all know that sometimes in life, we don't always get what we want, this can be especially evident when people deperately want children, only to find that they can't through one reason or another. Some people decide that they with get medical help in the form of IVF treatments, and spend alot of time and money doing so, often finding that the first few attempts don't work and just keep trying til they either get pregnant or have no more money to throw at the problem. Others go to the adoption route, they go through the tireless paperwork, endless checks and months (possible years) of waiting to get a child that they so desire. My personal view is that adoption is much better than going for IVF, i also believe that adoption of an older child is an amazing thing to do, so many older children in the care system don't manage to be placed with a permanent family and are usually shipped from one foster carer to another purely because they aren't babies. I don't think that IVF should ever be an option (please remember that these are my views, and i don't expect everyone to agree with them), yes there may have been many parents that were blessed with a child they may not have gotten if it weren't for IVF, but why had they not considered adopting a child that is already in the world, one that doesn't have the love of a good family? Why did they NEED to have their own baby that they would not have fallen pregnant with without medical advances? what is so wrong about taking on someone elses child to love as your own? Then, to my mind comes the cost of IVF, if a person considering taking on IVF chose to save the money to get it done, then why not save the finances of it (and possible chance of it not working) and adopt instead and use the money on bringing up a child? If anyone would like to share their thoughts and feeling of IVF verses Adoption, then please feel free, but please remember, what i have written is how i feel about it, you do not have to agree with me.