why do people post and then get mad at your answers
By asgtswife04
@asgtswife04 (2475)
United States
February 26, 2008 2:37pm CST
I mean, maybe I just need to vent a minute, but isn't the whole reason to post discussions is to get responses about how other people feel about things or how they would do things. Why post something if your just gonna get mad and lash out at someone. I understand debates and those are fine...actually, those get very interesting and i know alot of anger comes out in them...but they are debates. I'm talking about the "my husband walked out me, my dog got ran over, and i've got a rash on my leg...what do i do" discussions. Even if you don't like the answer you get, you can still be respectful on how you answer the person. It's so aggravating at times some of the "help me, woes" discussions become arguements over stupid stuff. You asked, they told and now your mad. What the crap? Why did you even post? Drives me crazy. Sorry but i had to rant for a second. I had responded to a discussion earlier today and this person was really upset about some things and then all of a sudden this person was mad about what i was saying and all of a sudden the post that was written wasn't even true anymore. Which one is it, are they upset about what happened or where they just bored and didn't have anything else to write about so they thought they would get people to feel for them and then get angry with them for writing what they felt. ugggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh! okay, i'm done ranting now. thanks to those who actually read this. LOL! God bless
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11 responses
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I've seen a lot of posts where they seem to be looking for people to just pat them on the back or support their delusion. If you do anything but that they snap. I think they have emotional issues.
"It's my way or I'll lash out & cry" seems to be getting more & more common. Thanks Parris Hilton, Britney & all the rest of those great role models!
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
No doubt. Some people need to find better role models, especially if they are looking to Paris and Britney. Some people are just like that though and thrive on drama and stuff they can start. I will just move on and go to another discussion. I'm not wasting my time arguing with someone that obviously didn't read their post after they wrote it. thanks for responding and God bless
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@histechnoangel (356)
• United States
26 Feb 08
What makes me upset is this- I posted a discussion asking for advice on a problem with my cat and people instantly told me my problem wasn't a big deal, and that I need to get over it. Why did *they* bother to answer? There was no need for it! I had a few people give me some good advice but those posters that were rude just upset me so much.
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Well, i definitely think that they could have handled it a little better than get over it. if you were concerned with your cat, then definitely you should have asked. some people don't understand having concerns for animals when they aren't close to an animal theirselves. Like everyone else said, just move on to the next person. Not all of us are like that. thanks for responding and God bless
@killahclaire (3665)
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26 Feb 08
Do you know I actually responded to a discussion earlier to this but I dont think the person has been back online yet cos I havent heard naything.
Back when I was on mylot day and night I used to have certain friends that I could call upon to come in and view the discussions and post their thoughts on it as well so the person would have a wee think about what they are saying.
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
That is definitely a good idea. I might have to start doing that to. LOL! I appreciate you responding and have a great evening. God bless
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@ellie333 (21016)
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26 Feb 08
I had an experience of this recently, it was actually from someone having a go at me who was on my friends list for not responding to any of their discussions. I politely responded back that I didn't know anything about the particular the subjects they had been posting at that time and they deleted me???? Ok, Didn;t realise I had to answer them all, but had another response where the person had totally misinterpretated what I had said, but like you say even if they didn't like response they should respect your difference of opinion on a subject, but as we all know it takes all types to make the world and we have our own world of different types on here. Hope you feel better now thats all out, if it were me posting this one I certainly would. God bless. Ellie :D
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I don't respond to a lot of my friends discussions on here...it's not that I don't want to, I just don't see them on here or I miss them or something. Or like you said, I can't relate to that discussion so why would i post on there. I don't wanna sound stupid or answer a discussion I have no clue about. I write where i feel I need to and I move from the ones I don't feel I need to respond to. If i had enough hours in the day, i would respond to every one that i could, but a lot of times i don't have a lot of time. I have a two year old, so I cant sit here all day long and post and respond. thanks for responding and God bless
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Geeze! It sounds like people have a lot of pent up anger, and it's just waiting to burst out! I guess the internet is just a good place for people to let out their frustrations. People have a sense of anonymity over the internet and behave differently than they would in real life. If someone says something in real life that makes you angry, chances are more likely that you'll let it go because you don't want to blow it up and make a big scene in front of everyone and embarrass yourself. However, on the internet you're just a screen name and an avatar. People don't know who you really are, so you're more likely to get angry and blow up at others. Additionally, the internet is also a great source for misunderstandings. It is very easy to misread what someone else types. It's also very difficult to portray things like sarcasm using text. These misunderstandings often lead to more angry arguments online. So the best way to deal with angry people that respond to discussions, is to just ignore them and let it go.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I'm not angry, I was just curious as to why people did that. I have to much to do and to worry about then to sit and wonder why someone was angry at me. I was just ranting a bit and wanted people's opinions on the situation. I'm absolutely fine though. Sometimes I just need to get some things off my chest so that I can clear my head and not let things bother me. Honestly, though, I wasn't really angry it just got to me that someone asked for help on a situation and then turned it into something totally different than the orignal discussion. Just makes me realize that some people aren't here for fun, but to start stuff is all. Not that big of a deal. thanks for responding though and God bless
@Guardian208 (1095)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Man what a stupid post. It really MAKES ME MAD!
lol, just a little joke... I know, I know, a VERY little joke
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
LOL! Okay, now that was funny. thanks for posting. I needed a good laugh today. God bless. And yes, it was a VERY little joke. LOL! thanks again
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Thank you so much! That is very sweet. It is my husband that is deployed. he'll be home soon though, thank goodness. I am doing my best to hold the fort down at home while he holds it down over there. That was very kind of you and is greatly appreciated. God bless and have a wonderful day
@Guardian208 (1095)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I'm glad I gave you a chuckle.
I just wanted to thank you for your service and sacrifice. Even though it is your husband that is deployed (I gather from your screen name and other posts I have read), you are both serving your country and making sacrifices. Thank you.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I couldn't agree more...like i said when i responded to someone else, i really do believe it's a reassurance thing. they already have something set in their heads and they want to hear that everything is gonna be fine, when truth is...it's probably not. oh well, i just move on to the next. it's rare i get someone like that on here, but when i do it kind of irritates me a little bit. thanks for responding and God bless
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
27 Feb 08
I believe it is that some people want to justify their feelings and or beliefs so they want people to agree with them , or have like minded souls answer, As for me I have answered a few of these people and will not do again as there were personal attacks and negative ratings from her friends. I have on my profile I am writing my opinion, and you are free to accept and or delete and or disagree. It is only an opinion, and not a rule or requirement.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
very true. they don't have to like what i say as long as what i'm saying is respectful and not rude or judgemental, but they can be respectful as well or just not respond to what i wrote. very good saying on your profile. thanks for responding and God bless
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Don't be sorry, I've come across similar posts myself and I don't get it. They as for advice and opinions but what they want is reinforcement of what they've already decided. Which is fine, but if they're going to get mad why ask? Oh, well, what do I know...
Annie
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I know! Sometimes it's absolutely ridiculous and i want to yell, "why did you post this". LOL! I really feel that the person had their mind set and only wanted to hear answers of reassurance and when people spoke truth to them, they didn't like it one bit. Oh well! Truth hurts sometimes. And I was nice about it. Anyways, thanks for posting and God bless
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I totally understand what you're saying. A debate is right cool as long as everyone keeps their cool. No one is the same as another and are going to have different opinions, isn't that how we learn new things? lol It's ok to agree to disagree but doing it in a respectful manner or don't respond at all. Cheers my friend!
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
well said. you can definitely disagree with someone, not everyone agrees on the same things, but it's always good to be respectful of that person whether they agree or not. thanks for responding and God bless
@mrsjbelle (1640)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Like seriously I did a lil "research" lol & found the post you were referring to lol. You handled it graciously though so a pat on the back to ya. But yes why put your business out there and then get mad at the responses. Ummm hello we are all differant. And yes if I found a phone bill with those kind of calls on it that would be behind my back. Cheating starts out small & innocent. I dont have to know everyone my man talks to but if he was having these long conversations with a particular woman I would be suspicious.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
LOL! wow, you definitely did some research. I would be the same way. I was trying my best to be as kind as possible. I finally just said my peace and didn't write anything else. I just don't get that though. Why would you ask someone for advice about being worried about that and then tell them pretty much to shut up because they didn't give the answer you wanted to hear. Sorry, but that's just the way it is. LOL! I would be furious over the matter. My husband and I don't hide things from one another and if i ever found out that he was hiding something, especially something like that, it would be oh so bad for him. It's a trust issue. you don't do anything that would make the other person distrust you...but they obviously have it under control, so who am I? LOL! thanks for doing your research and responding. God bless
