What do you do if your family members discourage you often???

frankly speaking my older sister always puts me down. she always calls me stupid since we were kids. she is academically intelligent thats why. of course i feel depress because she should not do that she is my sister. family should encourage not discourage. just show them that discouraging you wont stop you for doing what you want to do. as long as you feel that it is right then do it.

For me, I stay away from them. I am trying to feel better about myself in life and I cannot get anywhere if someone is still dragging me down worse than myself. I do get depressed and would never take on the challenge.

growing up as a child I was reminded daily by my step mother that I was stupid, useless and ugly. and that there was no one that could possibly love me.I was told to keep my long hair clean and shiny as it was the only redeeming feature I had, I had it hacked off to about 2 inches the next day. I was 12 at the time. I grew up believing each and every word that was told to me, I think I was the poster child for a person having low self esteem, I was tested by a doctor and there were 60 questions about how happy you were with your life, The doctor said I had a score of 58, negatives and 2 positives and he refused to tell me what they were as I might turn those areas of my life into a negative, I am pretty sure one of the positives was my children and they would never be a negative as to the other one I have no idea. perhaps a clerical error. That was 18 years ago since then I have learned to value myself and have self esteem, if I were to do that same test I probably would have 58 that is positive and 2 that is negative. and all it took was a few little words of encouragement from one person who actually did not like me, she told me I was a great example of what she never wanted to become. so it was depression for far to many years and no depression for the past 4 years, I am very happy and content now this is probably not the answer you were looking for but it is the only one I have Regards Robin

It definitely does not feel good to be discouraged. If I am really passionate over a matter and my family members discouraged it, I do feel dampened. However, I might take it as a challenge if I am challenged. I look to friends for encouragement. LOL.

I would feel that they wouldn't be supportive, but, if they are reasonable, I would try and understand. But if I think I am right on certain issues, I would surely try my self to prove that I am right. It really depends on if they have given me enough reasoning.

obviously it's not good to discourage someone all the time as people need more encouragement and support. If my family member always discourage me from doing something then I'd feel really sad. Wish that they would support me and wish me well instead of putting me down. if that something is something that i really wanna do or believe in then i'll just go for it :)

It has depressed me before but I have also taken it as a challange to prove to them better. My grandmother was bad about doing this. She passed away last year but at the same time the way she cut me down was just wrong and for thing I can't help.

I think it is bad to always discourage people,especially your family members,the ones that are supposs to be there for you..It does not make me depressed,it makes me angry..I do not like negitive imputs into my life...I think people who are negative all the time have a problem....I don't let anyone discourage me, my husband tries because he is very negative,but when he starts all that negative stuff it gives me a lot of a challenge to do whatever it is to prove to him that i can do it.....

One can't help feeling down or depressed if its my family members who keeps on discouraging me. I had experienced the same while growing up and it resulted in me being so unsure of myself and in my abilities. I was lucky though, to have lots of friends in school and in my community who saw beyond my facade and see the potential that is within me. They helped me a lot in overcoming my insecurities and all those discouragement. They coached me and encouraged me to pursue my interests that would develop myself. It was pretty bad for me because the people (my family) who should have encouraged me were the one who laughed at my face and discouraged me so much in my every endeavor. But on the positive side, maybe I wouldn't have tried so hard also if they haven't discouraged me and become the person that I am today. I now believe that things do happen for a reason.

If I am discouraged by a family member it frustrates me, and just makes me more determined to prove that I can do whatever it is that they think I can't. I only admit defeat if I absolutely have to and then its through gritted teeth. LOL.

Hello Coolgeth, It's a headache when your family keep discouraging you too often. But it is not all bad. It depends on what kind of thing they discourage me from doing. I can be stubborn sometimes. If I want to do or to have something and I know it is my right, I will take it as a challenge. But if I, myself feel unconvinced with my decision, I definitely feel depressed cause I don't know what I should do next.

me my family discourage me always, it hurt so much. but when they done what they say to me i always think that i will prove to them they are wrong..but for me it right to recieve a negative but they say it right to me not they discourage me at the same time they shout at me.

depends on what they discourage, if its applied for a job and they say you might not get itthen thats reality as not everyone gets all jobs but if its a personal attack on looks or who you are or skill etc.. then its out of order. my mum and wole family apart from my nan discouraged me and where horrible to me. as a result i am very low and have many problems and issues from this. because of this i sall never be like that with my family and i always try to encourage people and understand them. colleen xx