Our Destiny

I don't believe in fate and a prewritten destiny. I believe we walk through life and each choice we make shapes the way our lives move. The lives and actions of others also effect our lives. It's more like looking at a puddle of water when rain falls. Each drop produces a series of ripples that interact with the ripples from other drops. Refering this to man, each "drop" gets to chose the ripples it makes. God uses the ripples to form the pattern that will make the end design He wants. We get to work with Him by following His directions or we get to walk our own way. Either way, the pattern will be worked out to God's satisfaction but the ripples we make are of our own choosing.

Every choice we make creates a new future. We can't tell beyond our decisions. But we have to make a choice, to decide the future, although we dun know what does it means, nor what it brings.

I believe we can by our own efforts just make ourselves ready to bear what the fate has in store for us. I have my mom's life to vouch for the fact that fate does have a big role to play ion our destinies. My mom's father wanted her to get m,arried as soon as she passed her high school as in sixties women in India rarely ever went to college. High school was considered enough education for most of the parents. My mom cried for whole day and skipped dinner as she wanted to study further. Then her father's brothers all intervened and she was allowed to pursue her bachelore's degreee in Maths.SHe won a gold medal in that and everyone at home was proud of her so she was allowed to continue with her education and she did her Masters in Maths. SHe again topped her college. After the results most of her friends were going to employment exchange so she just went along not even meaning to fill the form as in the conservative home like hers , job was out of question. One of her friend just forged her signatures and filled up a form for her too just for fun. A month later an appointment letter came to a girl staying in the neighbourhood with her and my mom's name for a leave vacancy for teaching in a school nearby. My mom barely even knew her. That girl's parents had told her if my mom also accepts the job then she also may join , so that they can go together and come back together. She requested my Grandpa to allow my mom to work as the job was just for three months and my mom was just sitting at home , while my grandpa was looking for a suitable groom for her, my mom was told okay and she joined the school. Whenthat three months were nearing the end that girl keen on continuing the job took my mom to employment exchange. My mom said she kept sitting outside that girl went in and spoke to the officer in charge. After the three month period my mom got a letter for a permanent job in the school where she had studied and that girl again got a leave vacancy job.Meanwhile the fate has played a twist. My father's parent's were looking for a working girl and somehow the parents met and a marriage was arranged. SO there was no question of my mom ever leaving her job. After sixteen years of marriage my father expired and my mom raised us on the same job's salary her father was so against continuing. Do I believe in fate - Yes and hardwork -most certainly.

I dont think that we could do that. We dont have the right to do that. Whether we like it or not, I believe that our existence here is a continuation of the existence of other people who existed before us... like our parents. So who is to blame? we may not change our root... but we can change our life in the future. And we can change the life of the next generation. It is up to us to feel bitter... or to begin changes. Changes has to begin with ourself... and everything will follow.

i believe that nayone has control of there life if the poor on the street go back to school they can change there lives instead of sitting around begging and wasting time. time is the key factor of life you can wast it or use it wisely it depends on what your willing to do with it that counts.