A friend in need…!

This is so difficult, Kamran, quite a dicey one, difficult to strike the right balance. But I think that I might tell my friend of my concerns, and use the terms 'I feel' and 'I believe' and not things like 'he always' or 'he never', do you know what I mean? Like, don't say, "he always does this, or he never does that. That just gets a persons defenses up immediately, and closes their mind to further words from you. I think you need to assure them that you care about them, and will be there for them, no matter what they decide. And you'll support them even if they choose to be with that person, although it goes against everything for you to do that. What they need the most here, I think, is to know that you are their true friend and will support their choices, wrong or right, and be there to catch them when they inevitably fall, although you shouldn't tell them that particular thing, you know? That way, you can voice your concerns and they can feel like you're not damning them or dropping them, and you will probably be able to maintain and even perhaps strengthen your friendship. Good luck,Kamran. I know this is important to you and I so hope that it all works out for you and your friend.

Good discussion, damn this is trouble in a freakin bolted up nutshell made of bulletproff titanium. Just letting it go could result in the friend getting hurt by the dishonest piece of a**. Rushing into the situation will probably not do any good, it maj even backfire on you resulting as the loss of your friend and the previous thing. I think the best thing is to sit down and talk about this, to say that you are saying this because you care for the person and you dont want to se them end up getting hurt by the dishonest person. Friends take care of eachother, and stop eachother from getting hurt, even if it means being inconvenient.

If it my good friend, then i will tell her, listen, this is your life, and you are free to do what you choose, i will support you and stick by you whatever you decide, and please dont be angry with me i'm just tryign to be honest. and then i'd lay it on her and tell her the truth. ;)

If you know that this girlfriend/boy friend isn't honest, you must tell your friend. I would take them for a walk and then I would say that I love them and you want your friendship to continue and then hell her/him.Don't over bad mouth this person your friend likes.

I don't really believe that I would loose our friendship if I tell my friend about the boy's wrong deeds. I have experienced just the same thing years ago wherein I told my friend that her boyfriend has been unfaithful to her. However, I would not tell my friend what to do. All I would tell is the truth as I see it and let her decide without telling her what to do. I would let her know that I am with her no matter what and whatever her decisions may be. As friends, we should not dictate the actions of the other, rather, our role should be to lend support at all times. If our friend fall and get broken hearted in the process, we should be there for them to help them pick up the broken pieces.

In such kind of situation, I shall not worry about losing the friendship. The most important for me to do is to tell my friend the truth. I hate being cheated. So I don't allow my friend to be cheated, too. Especially it's so hurtful to be cheated in love. If he/she doesn't listen to me, it's not my fault. One day time will prove I am right. If I don't tell him/her the truth, then it's my fault.

Hey there Sugar, You know it might not be my position or business, but I feel that if you really love a person, you are going to be honest with them. Even if that jeopardizes the friendship. I could not be a real friend if I did not do something to protect that friend from harm. I would lay it out on the table for him/her say my peace then shut up about it unless my friend wanted to talk further. I would not badger or make accusations. There is always the possibility that I do not have the full story myself. Tact is the key here along with sincere reassurance of your best intentions and love for that friend.

This is really tough! I think I will likely not worry too much about our friendship and go tell my friend that his/her GF/BF isn't really the honest person they believe him/her to be. I understand that this might affect our friendship - but in the long run, my friend will realise the truth and come back to me. I will try to inform this matter softly, delicately, with emotions attached and in a lonely place where there is not much disturbance. I feel how and where you convey the truth also plays an equally important role. If you put your point across right away like "Your girl is insincere, she has lied to you all her life, just forget her and move on, she is not worth your love" - then your friend might consider your words to be coming out of jealousy or some other ulterior motive. I'm pretty sure that if you and your friend understand and listen to each other very well - this method will be successful.

Let experience teach him/her about it. just be there when your needed. thats what friends are for ^_^.

It is a rather difficult position to be in, but as friends are always there after any boy or girlfriend, it would always be the right thing to do and warn them of the person in question. Like previously said always use the term i feel and i beleive. Also stress that you will be there to help pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong. There will come a time when they will be grateful u gave them the advice that the person they are in love with is going to harm them. Tell ur friend that u know its not ur place to tell them what to do or who to se but hat u are concerned that the person they love does not have their best intentions at heart. Tell them that they only reason you are sayiung anything is that you car for them and dont want them to get hurt