Have you ever really been angry or upset with your close friend?

@marciascott (25529)
United States
February 27, 2008 8:52pm CST
Well, I am not angry or mad with my friend, she is upset with me for something really petty. We talk all the time, and all of a sudden she is really upset with me, I haven't did anything to her to be upset with me. she lives in Ca. and I live in Ohio, We keep in touch everyday, she left a message on my voicemail and told me not to call her or don't email her. I can't figure out what I did. What would you do? just let her cool down for a A COUPLE OF DAYS. I tried to call her, she won't even answer her phone. I am kind of hurt, I talk to her everyday. She called me the other day, I was on my way out the door, I told her look I half to go because My friend, and I were going out to lunch. That was the only thing I said to her, she said that I had a nasty attitude, I don't think I did, but maybe it was the tone of my voice. I don't know. I will not worry about it, I am but I feel as though she will get over it. Has that happen to you and a friend? We have been friends for 40 yrs, every since Jr. High. Thanks for letting me share this with you. Maybe one of you can time me something to make me feel better about the situation. Ok, I will come back in a little while. Thanks~~marcie~~
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Wow, I am sorry Marcie. Thats a long time to be friends with someone. Maybe she was having a bad day or something else might be going on. I wouldn't give up, it sounds like something must be going on with her.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
You know Vicky I thought about that. Maybe something could be going on with her? I wish she would'nt act like that we are too close for that. outof all these years, we haven't been angry or upset with each other too often, I guess I will let her cool off a bit, it doesn't make since to me. Maybe she wanted to talk and I wan't there for her/ who knows.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Hi Marcie. I wiil take her place and be your friend. It sounds to me like she is just jealous that you had to get off of the phone because you were going to lunch with another friend. I don't have any friends outside of my marriage because they all get attitudes like that with me and I won't put up with it anymore. I wouldn't try to call her back. I would let her call me and tell me what I did wrong. that isn't nice to you and she shouldn't be so rude. She could email you and tell you also what you have done.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I thought about that too, Steph. I won't call her I will wait for her to call me, It is driving me crazy because I can't talk to her. I Love her very much like a Sister. I don't like it will I can't talk to my close friend.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Thanks yu so much for your support Steph, I will let you know the outcome, we don't get mad to often at eah other, It is about money, but she will get over it. I told here about that link and I told her I was going shopping with with some of my money, I had my coat on, ready to leave, I said I am going to lunch and I am going shopping with my funds, I half to go. Now was I being nasty about it No, I wasn't I told her I had to leave, I think she wanted me to stay on the phone with her, but I was ready to leave, I was already late, picking up my girl-friend, So that was the whole Story, Silly isn't it. She left a very nasty message on my Voicemail. I know I haven't did anything wrong. She will get over it. I am always the first to call, because I hate being angry with my close friends. But I m not going to do it this time, I called her twice. Steph, Have a nice week-end! I want to send you some cassettes that I have new still in the wrapping, just a token of my appreciation. I need you address. you will like these cassettes. There is a variety of Music on it. I am sure you will like it you told me what kind of Music you liked. I remember what you said. I made a $1555.00 in referrals. Thank you again.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I know what you mean and I hope you both can get things worked out. I have been through this alot with my so-called friends and they always wait fo rme to call them. I don't do it anymore because I do nothing worng to them. They just think it is their way or no way.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
28 Feb 08
Sounds to me as if she is having a bad time. I would just give her space and contact her in a few days time you at least deserve a clear explanation. I feel she had something she neede to unload on you and the time was just not convinient blessed be
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Isn't that something, I was just thinking about you? no joke, I just went to your page I was going to send you a P.M. and changed my mind, this was about an 1/2 hour ago. that is so strange isn't it? we must of been thinking about each other at the same time, now that is what you call? its a word for it, I can't think of it? anyway you could be rightthat could be the reason. Have a great Day, and a Great week-end. I tell you strange things happen here on Mylot, it is all good! LOL!
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
29 Feb 08
WOW THAT IS STRANGE, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SEND ME A PM ANYTIME, I AM ALWAYS HAPPY TO RECEIVE them from friends blessed be
@anonymili (3138)
28 Feb 08
friends - Best friends forever? Don't lose her over something petty!
Sorry to hear about your situation with your friend of so many years. The only thing I can suggest is to write her a letter or even send her a nice friendship card saying you miss her and saying that the only reason you can fathom why she might be upset with you is because you might have been a bit abrupt with her when she called the other day as you were in a hurry and a bit stressed (even if you weren't abrupt to your mind, it might have sounded that way to her?). Tell her you value her friendship of so many years and hope you can discuss things when she's ready to talk. It could have been that when she called you she was in desperate need of your help or had a problem and wasn't able to discuss it with you and felt you let her down. You're not a mind-reader so you couldn't have known what was bothering her but don't say that to her - say you're sorry if you weren't there for her if it was an emergency and that you would be really upset if you guys lost your friendship as you really value her. Leave it at that and give her time to contact you, as you say she's not taking your phone calls... Just my suggestion anyway. Good luck:)
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Thank you dear, It wasn't that serious, guess what! she called me today, well I called her first, and I told her, look Bev, I have called you several times, maybe 3 times, then I said i am not going to call yo anymore, call me when you are ready to talk, so she called, I was happy to hear form her. we laught about it, I told her that I had made a discussion aout us being mad wih each other, she just laughed and I laughed, i told her that i had got a lotof replys about it. she gos, Oh, then you owe me some money, Lol, we both thought it was so funny, so everything is ok now. tThanks anyway for you input. you know we could stay mad for too long look how long we have been friends.
• United States
29 Feb 08
I say let her cool off for a few days, then talk to her. There might be something going on in her life or either somebody has lied about you to your friend. It is just a matter of time. I have not really been upset or angry with my close friend. I do not know why, it just never really happened to me, but my close friend has been known in the past to be frustrated with me. Most of the time, her frustration has nothing to do with me, it is just about something that happened in her life. Maybe she wanted to discuss something important with you and you were not making yourself available. I really do not know! -Feel free to disagree!
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Everything is fine I talked to her today, we laughed about it, I even told her I made a discussion about it on Mylot, she laughed and I laughed about it. I just ask her what was wrong with her she told me it wasn't nothing that serious.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I have been really angry at the only close friend i ever had. her boyfriend at the time, now husband, used to run his dad's tanning salon and they would let me tan for free. well, i went down there one day and she had left and her boyfriend came in my room while i was tanning. I screamed at him and immediately got dressed and never went back again. i told my friend what had happened and when she confronted him he lied and said it wasn't true and she believed him. We are no longer friends because of him, which is sad because we did everything together. In your case, i would let her cool off a couple of days and then try calling or emailing her back. let her know that you didn't mean to offend her in any way and that you didn't know that you did. she needs to understand that you have friends where you live to and can't just sit by the phone waiting on her to call. it's not right and sounds like she's a little jealous about it. i'm sure things will be fine though with time. good luck and keep us posted. God bless
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I had a friend years ago, we were neighbors,and her husband came over to my house with another Women, I thought that was lowdown of him to do that, I told my friend and she went back and told her Husband what I said. She stay mad at me for a log time, so that learned me a lesson, if I see something like that, I will never say anything, because that is a good way for friends to fall out, of couse, they are going to take sides with their Husband or Friend.
• United States
28 Feb 08
I had thought about not telling her, but she wasn't married to him yet and i wanted to let her know that he wouldn't be anymore faithful just because they were married. it saddened me, but i knew that i had to tell her. they are still married and i guess he straightened up...i don't really know. we still don't speak unless i stop to get gas at the station she works at and even then it's kind of akward. i would rather have lost a friend and been honest than to have kept it and had to be around her husband flirting all the time and never feeling like i could say anything. i think she knew deep in her heart that i was telling the truth, but she had just had twins and was really scared about her future. everything works the way it does for a reason. God bless
@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I'm so sorry about your friend's misunderstanding. Maybe she is just going through a hard time right now. If you have tried a couple of times and she won't answer then there isn't much else you can do. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong but if you want to keep the friendship I would avoid blaming anyone. I would send her an email and tell her you care about her and want to remain friends.
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@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
28 Feb 08
To me she sounds like she is being a little too oversensitive! Perhaps she may be having some other problems, and she is using your friendship to be the scapegoat!
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
It could very well be, Musicman? I will give her a few days. thanks for replying have a nie week-end!
• India
28 Feb 08
Hi marciascott, Some times even without knowing to us we will make some comments.This is what exactly called human error.You might have under the impression that what you told is a normal thing. But it can hurt others. I think the same thing would have happened to your friend. Otherwise why your friend who has 40 years friendship should react like that. so, be cool for some time and I am sure that you know time will heal wounds and who knows your friend may turn to you. Or otherwise just look for the ways in which you can convey your feelings to her - I am sure your friend will revert back to you. Good Luck.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I know I will talk to her sooner or later, but it is driving me crazy that i can't talk to her, i called her twice, I am not going to call her no time soon, because I kow I didn't do anything, Thanks for your support.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
Yes very angry ..because she stole my favourite ring. I worked hard for that ring and she stole it from my case so I dont trust her anymore ..But well were still friends but not as close as we usually do.
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@joyangz32 (322)
• Netherlands
28 Feb 08
I'm sorry for you. You don't deserved it. I had a close friend before for five years. We we're angry at each other. That's why we become strangers now. I was hurt and don't want to talk with her anymore vice-versa. Our friendship ended as that. I move on with my life without a close friend. Well, I can take it. In your case, it's a different story. You we're both close friends for long years. Your friendship is unbreakable. You need to talk with her. Sometimes we offend people unintentionally. And we don't know about it. Ask her what went wrong. I hope everything will back to normal between you and her. Please don't let your long wonderful friendship ended with reasons you're not aware of.
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• United States
28 Feb 08
I would tell her.."I'm sorry if you feel upset, and as your friend for many years it hurts me too, that you are angry. But, I have done nothing to hurt you or offend you. It is O.K. if you have bad days...we all do, but it is not O.K. to take it out on me, I deserve better, and you deserve better. So next time you are upset, please call me and share with me, as one adult to another, your feelings. Venting on me s unacceptable and childish."
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Thanks for you support, i feel like she is being Childesh too. I will give her a couple of days, or maybe a week. have a good Night.
• Nigeria
28 Feb 08
well, its very common for such situations to take place or happen. friends falling out with best friends. it happens all the time. but what really matters is what you do to get back to each other. i have had problems with my friends many times over but we later get over it and move on. what really matters is what you do to get back to each other as you were earlier. well, just relax, she will soon get over it. she might just be transferring her aggression.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Yes, I know it is Common. But it is bothering me very much. because I can't talk to her right now.
@Mr_Kite (48)
28 Feb 08
I'm in a similar situation. Me and a friend had a petty argument jsut before Christmas and she' still refusing to talk to me. I didn't do anything so bad and I think she's being unreasonable. I care about her and I think about her every day. She's a girl too. I don't think I could get into such a daft situation with another guy. I'm still trying to get through to her but with little success. She's probably not worth it, but I miss her terribly. I know that didn't help in any way. Sorry.
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• United States
28 Feb 08
I have friends that are really different, and can be very petty. I don't trust a lot of people. Women as a whole can be very very petty unfortunately. I would just let it go. Sounds like she has some of her own issues, that may or may not involve you. Move on, you have other things in your life, and if she's really your friend, she'll call. If not, maybe it's time to part ways. Carole
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@justinus (1104)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
28 Feb 08
Yes of course. Even now I think I don't have a really close friend ! It's all right perhaps it's me the mistake maker. No body is perfect
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• Australia
2 Mar 08
I used to have a friend who was a really lovely person and great fun to be around, but she had one major problem. She had to flirt with guys, my dad included, and any time she saw me with a male friend or a boy friend, she would be all over them, even if her own boyfriend was there! We haven't been in contact much for the last few years, so I don't know if she has changed, but I do know that she is married. Just hope he can tame her. I never made a big deal of it, just prefered to see the better things in her. I think maybe your friend is a little put out that it wasn't her you were going to lunch with. Maybe a nice email would help.
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I have been mad at my friend before but not for anything serious or anything like that..because the true friend that i had was named kylan and he wouldn't ever do anything to hurt anyone and he was always really easy to get along with with almost everyone...so we never had any kinds of problems and dont think we ever will either..
• China
28 Feb 08
Emn,,,,If i were you,i would let her alone for couples of days.Maybe after somedays she could cool down.If not,then insist talking to her patiently.At least you have to find out what had happen to you two,right? If she really cares you,she'll finally come to you.
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@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
yes.. there was a time i got upset with a co-worker of mine who is one of my closest friend. we dont really get to have same schedule at work so we dont get to bond with each other that much. one time, we had a same schedule that i got so excited because id get to bond with her again. during our shift i felt something is wrong. she tries to avoid me as much as she can so i decided to start giving her space. i left the hospital without even saying goodbye to her which i used to do.. on my way home, she sent me a message thru my cellphone and she apologized for the way she acted towards me. i asked her why, i even told have i done you anything wrong? she just told me that she got offended with me one time. i asked her how i offended her and told her about incidents of the time i talked to her on the phone and she just said no.. it's okay. everythings fine. im sorry.. ill be better next time. but i couldnt really accept the fact that she started ignoring me when i really didnt know what was her reason for doing that.. but then we were able to fix and patch things up between us.. now we are the same as we used to be before.
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