To a woman who used to be a girl.

When they are younger they depend on us for alot of things. They depend more on themselves when they get older. Well they should. I have a 5 year old and 12 year old. My 5 year old goes everywhere I go. But the 12 year old is more into alot of her things. She is growing and she needs that space to grow. Now she still hugs and kisses me. We still have a strong relationship, but don't really get down on this. They are little stages they go through.

I was like that when I was a kid. I was very close to my father, closer than my mother. Until I reached high school when he started preventing me to stop hanging out with my friends even by just going to my neighbors house which is just 2 houses away from mine. He doesn't even want me go out with my cousins. My curfew is until 7:00pm and I don't really like that. I am a teenager and I thought that they would understand that I deserve to experience things as a normal teenager is doing. This went on until I reached college. And that's when it became an unacceptable in my part. That's when I started to lie to them just for me to hang out with my friends. That is so true when your daughter become older she really wanted to spend most of their time with their friends having fun. I really can't help it and it is very unacceptable. Usually, when you are very attached with your father they tend to hold you to be by their side all the time until you get older. That will be very much difficult in the part of your daughter. When you tend to hold them to tight in their neck, the only possible thing that will happen is that they will do everything to break away.

I have a little girl of 4 and at the moment she could not give me enough love and time, she always says that she wants to do everything with me and I love it, however I do dread the day that this is not what she wants anymore. However I look back at what I was like with my mum when I was younger and I can remember going through a stage where I wanted to do my own thing and not be with her all the time, but now I am older I have gone back to always spending time with my mum and I would be lost without her. I think all children go through there stage of wanting to be indapendant and being with mum is not cool but this always come back when you get older so I am sure with time your daughter will be the same but at the moment you just have to let her do her own thing and just let her know that you are always there when she wants you, she will thankyou for it and realise that your the best friend she has always wanted.

If your daughter doesn't hug or kiss you anymore, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you or care for you. If you show too much affection and expect same from her, its not possible. She is 10 now so its her growing age and may be she needs to spend time with friends more than parents so instead of trying things to grab her attention, be her friend. If you are feeling you are losing parents-daughter bond, then spend weekends with her by taking her to her favorite place (games, ice-cream parlors or wherever she likes) & spend some time with her like a friend and don't expect much because she is only 10.