how do i tell her to back off........
By Shelley121
@Shelley121 (217)
February 29, 2008 8:57am CST
I have the most over powering sister in the world and she cares about no-ones feelings, recently when my mum was trying a dress on she told my mum that it would not fit because she was to fat and then went out the next day and bought my mum a pair of knickers that suck your tummy in. My mum was very hurt but knows that it is not worth saying anything.
I dont see my sister very often as I live 200 miles away from the family but I will be visiting them this weekend, can anyone help me in how to handle her as I know I need to say something about how she has hurt mums feelings but I dont want it to turn into world war 3?
Does anyne else have a sister like this I would love to know what yours are like, as they cant get much worse than mine?
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4 responses
@abby0210 (95)
• United States
1 Mar 08
If you feel the need to say something to her about hurting your mom's feeling then just say it to her. She can dish it out so she better be able to take. If she is offended by what you say then just call her out on her own behavior and how offensive she is to other people. Even if she was being truthful there is a more tactful way of going about expressing you feelings or opinions, and sometimes you just need to learn when to keep your mouth shut and reralize your opinions are not being solicited. In the long run she should be thanking you for pointing out this flaw of hers.
@Shelley121 (217)
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1 Mar 08
I think you are right, i have feared my sister for to long now and I need to put her in her place otherwise she will continue to treat me and the rest of the family like this.
Thanks
@GourdBreaker (490)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
your sister is so mean! ]
but anyway, try to talk to her in private and tell her that she try to be more careful with her words and tell her that your mother was hurt on what she previously said. i assume she would laugh at u but tell her that you're serious about it and she should be sensitive about other people's feelings.
@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
29 Feb 08
i do have a sister like that and i am one of five siblings and just happen to be the baby of the family. well i guess i got all the nerve of the family because i was the one that had to tell her to back off ... she always critisized our mom no matter what she did said wore it didnt matter.. i was the one who stood up to her and told her if your not happy with mom the way she is then dont bother being around her, there is no need to hurt her feeling and you seem to go out of your way to do that.. well there was a huge argument about it away from my mom but she soon saw the error of her ways after my siblings came out and backed me up on itand now that our mom is gone i wish i would have had the fight with her sooner and made my moms last few years happier... dont be afraid to argue with her about it because you will arguebut ask her how she would feel if she went shopping with someone and the next day they brought her a girdle and told her wear this the next time you go clothes might fit better.. she might see what she looks like .. hope all goes well and give your mom extra hugs and kisses for putting up with your sister...lol
