spouse or children: who do you love more?

Definately the children. I went through a life of my parents choosing their partners. It was even each other just different bfs and gfs who in the end just screwed them over or treated them like crap. Ill never do that to my kid(s). They will always come first no matter what. And I dont mean over little things. If she wants me to spend time with her I will. I wont have to ask my bf for permission and none the less have him say no? And then get mad if I do. I would always choose the kids in that case. Of course I go back to personal experiences.

Well I hope I never have to choose. But to tell ya the truth I would choose my kids. My hubby has lived his life and it's only fair that the kids get a chance to do the same. I hope my hubby would make the same choice.

This choice should be crystal clear to anyone with children. The children. Even ignoring the fact that I have an exhusband I would pick my children EVERY TIME even over the man I am with now and he is so close to absolute perfection it is almost scary. We give birth to our children. We raise our children. Our children will eventually grow up and become adults and leave us but they will always be our children.

By the responses I see, it would seem this duscussion was reserverd for women alone.Well, if it is, permit my snooping. I definitely will choose my child or children.They are weaker. Real life situation is that I have often had to warn my boy(20) not to stress my wife. My wife and daughter(15) have a running joke about her(the daughter) learning not to compete with the mother for my attention, but learning to wait till she marries her own husband. Then there is my step daughter; my wife gets sensitive each time she suspects I am pushing for her to choose between us which is really hardly ever the truth. The standard answer is to choose the spouse because ,with him or her you can make new children.Alas, I feel that each child is so unique that I cannot accept that point of view as adequate. I pray I never have to choose.

To me both are equally valuable. Both are my closest family members and giving to one means less priority to the other which is not far indeed. The family make up of the spouse and children.

I sure hope I dont have to choose for real. It is really very hard, the thing is, I am a catholic and I have a belief that when you get married it means the joining of two people becoming one person, one identity. Therefore any decision made will not only affect me or him, but will affect both of us. As for children, they are the child that we have make together, the child that God has entrust to our care, so it is very hard to choose. I would say it has to be viewed cases per cases. Im quite sure for a normal parents though, they would say they choose their children.

I feel that most of the time, people are actually more attached to their own children rather than their spouses. That's why you can see so many broken couples trying to win the custody of their children, when they could have actually used the time to go for marriage counselling to see if ther marriage with their spouse could be salvaged in any way.

Well i think both of them are my two eyes but i will go with spouse as i think for me my love more important than anyone dude

Very difficult question. I love both of them and cannot live without them. If I ever have to make a decision, I would be with my child if he is a minor. If my child is a major and is independent in all the way, I would certainly be with my husband. He is my life partner and I love him and will share my life with him. But, I will always be there for my child whenever he is in need. I am always there for him no matter what. I just pray to God that no mother or wife is faced with such a difficult decision. God bless.

That's easy. I'd choose my children. Though I love my fiance, but when it comes down to it, I'd choose my daughter over him. You can always replace a spouse/fiance/boyfriend, but you can't replace your daughter. She will always be a part of you until the day you die. A child depends on you to grow, learn, live, and they need your love to function. You are their guidance and the reason why they were born in the first place. As for my fiance, he survived without me way before he met me, so I'm pretty sure he can do it again.

Whoa! That's is a tough one. I remember I once asked my husband one of those "what if" questions... which went "If you were in sinking ship and you had your wife at one side and your kid on the opposite side and you had time only to reach just one, who would you choose"? My husband chose me. He said if he chose me, he could still have another kid. Then came the time I was to give birth to our 2nd child and I was considering of trying a VBAC wherein if complications do occur, a life or even both the lives of the mother and child would be put to risk. I told him then that if ever that did happen and he had to choose one, I told him to choose the baby instead of me for I had already lived a life and my baby deserved to live hers. He didn't agree with me on this. Good thing I never went through a VBAC and had a repeat CS instead. Anyway, if I were to choose between the two of them, obviously, my answer would be my kids, but your question was WHO DO I LOVE MORE? I can't really say one outweighs the other. I feel I love them equally.

My child of course, because my child is the extension of myself. Spouses or men in my life will come and go but my child/children will always be a part of me. Children especially if they are still young needs protection and guidance. And as their mother, it is my responsibility to bring them up well so that they'll become productive citizens.

with all honesty... I'd choose my child, he is the one that came out of me, he was a part of me for 9 months, and well i odn't think even a spouse could beat that love.

in the truth, i think most of us meet such questions.for a whole family , spouse and children both are important. in my eye, we should give them love which is just, however the kind of love is different. there is no compare between them in magnitude. i believe every on who hold the both can give them his full love in different fanshions.

First of all, my husband is not related to me by blood, my children are a part of me so there is no question as to who I would choose. In fact, I had to tell my husband once when we were being investigated by family services because of his idiocy, that I would kick him out before I would let anyone take my kids from me. I'm not saying my kids don't do some stupid things sometimes, because they do. They can drive me nuts. But I would be lost without them. I think I would be lost without my husband as well. But if I had to choose.....

Though I love my husband with all my heart. There is not a single person on this Earth I would choose over my 4 children. I love and worry about them with every part of my being. I would hope that my husband would say the same thing.

Both of them. I want to give them Equal attention and love and affection and devotion. For they really mean so much to me.

Well i don't have kids yet but in my opinion theyr both a different kind of love... i guess kids become ur highest priority because ur role as parent is to guide ur kids and protect them till they grow up and they could take their own decisions... if ur husband one day ask u to choose btw them and u , well is just being selfish because you can not choose btw ur own kids and someone else.. if ur kids are asking u to choose well they might have reasons so u better listen to them and see what they have to say and take a decision depending on what they say..