Are kids meant to be spoiled?

my dear friend, china has those restricted about one family one child in order to control human groth ppopulation on those country. what i knowing, lots of people in china live on unwelfare condition so by having many children would not make them able to pay their daily basic life however, the size area of china is limited. if the government doesn't do this kind thing, their country would not able to be their residents place. but in my opinion, by having one kid in a family, i don't think that the kid should be arised with spoiled manner. as like you my dear friend, i am lso not yet being a parents but i totally understand that parents always want to give everything for their child. so without realizing that they giving spoiled parenting to their only one child. its all about the parents in my opinion. in fact, i have so many relatives and friend which only having one child in their marriage but able to raise their child not too spoiling and the child also become unspoiled child.

I think it depends on the parents. Me I was the only child of my parents but It never happened that they spoiled me a lot. Even in material things or in my attitudes they never spoiled me. That was I'm thanking with them coz I grew old in my own. I never saw anything that they spoiled me.

Children should be spoiled, not with material things but with attention and love. I was asked by a Health Visitor how I was able to spoil three children. They didn't have a lot of material goods but we were always there for them. They didn't become tyrants and two of them are very good, loving mothers. Their children are also spoilt with love and attention but don't have everything materially.

i dont think kids can be spoilt. The only ones who think so are others who disapprove of A) the child getting what it wants or B) The parents giving their attention to the child. I will continue to do the best for my kids, irrespective of if someone else approves blessed be

my neice is an only child and as a youngster a spoiled rotten brat. Honestly, the only thing that saved her from being a total monster is the fact that if she didn't try to be nice, she didn't have any friends and she did want friends. I'm glad I didn't have to live with her, I'd've probably had to kill her a few times, but... she's grown up pretty good.

umm, I don't think that one kid only in the family would always make the parents spoil the kid. I would rather agree that when the parents get their own preference towards any of their children, that child would be spoiled so much more than the others. anyway, the China policy perhaps just makes people (the parents) get scared of losing their only child, because they can only have one child (and of course, nobody wants to lose their only child) and just thinking about the only successor of the family, the child spoiling very possibly happens to these population. however, there are also those families with many children, but one of the children just got the favor of the father / mother or even both of the parents. and they spoil this one more than the other children of the same parents. this very possibly happen too. some patrilineal community still favor a son more than any daughter. so, when they only have one son, and the rests are daughters, a spoiled son might have been raised in this family too. like the situation of a family I know. and I just feel this isn't right. no matter how the parents love / like the children / kids, the kids still have to learn that there are rules and consequences for everything, and they just won't get everything they want in the society, so the parents should have never made the children become used to 'do whatever they want or get whatever they ask'. if the parents do that, they would only harm their kids' future in society. the kids wouldn't grow up properly and aware of the harsh situation when they enter the real world life. so I won't recommend the parents to spoil their kids, no matter how their children become the apple of the eye. because they won't live forever for their children, right? one day these children will have to enter their own phase of life, and they must be prepared to anticipate any situation especially when their parents are not by their side any longer, and spoiling them is not the answer for their future.

No kids are not meant to be spoiled. They are put here for us as parents to teach them how to be responsible, compassionate and loving individuals. I for one would not want a child of mine to be spoilt. I have on son and he is not spoilt at all.

Lol...I would love to have you as my daddy if that FengShui master you consulted was genuine. F2 Kids are meant to be spoiled by their grandparents and not the parents, lol. I tried to stray away from spoiling my bunnies too much but I tend to slip from time to time. It is not wrong to spoil our kids if they are deserving of it. If my little nuts did something like helping with the chores, setting up the table, giving me a full back massage, of course...I will treat them with a little sweets occasionally. My own niece is an only child and I observed she have a jealousy streak in her nature. Everything she likes, she gets. I am forever nagging her mommy to stop spoiling her but its no use. Spoiling our kids to the extreme means courting future disaster.

No they are not meant o be spoiled i guess because kids in their growing stage it is good timing to teah them well expand their knowledge of whats this and whats that and this is dangerous and this is not.. they have to explore world beyond reach and never spoil them on things that they want. Coz when they grow up they will be BasT**ds and that is not good.

First, I never knew that China had a restriction as to how many children a person can have. I personally, don't think that is fair or up to the government to say. I wouldn't want to be told how many children I was allowed to have. Secondly, I don't think it is right for anyone to spoil their children. These children that are spoiled grow up and become self centered adults. Then they can have a lot of other problems if they don't get what they want when they are adults, and in a lot of cases they just take what they want. I'm not saying that this happens to all of the spoiled kids, but it does seem to happen to a lot of them. This is just my opinion so don't berate me for it. I know of a few really spoiled adults that were spoiled when they were kids, and they have a hard time living now because they are used to getting everything they want, and life just doesn't work that way.

It is a person decision nhow you want your children raised and i think people are very differed on opinion and feel very strongly about their beliefs. For me, I cant help it. I want to do it. I think life is full of hardships and i want to give my boy everything i can. I think it is hard not to poil your children. I make sure i have what we need, then i always get a few extra special things so that i feel like i am spoiling him. Giving is a good feeling.

Maybe a bit but not to much other wise if they get spoiled to the max when they are young it does not teach them as they are growing up and that is when you could cause a problem when they get to adulthood when they have got all they have wished for a there life then as an adult they will also want it for the rest of there life

Hmm, i also heard about this policy a few years ago, my maths teacher told me when i was in 12th,,, and he explains exactly like you did,,, And by that means you just controlling the child growth and also the burden on parents also become less...

No, I don't think parents should spoil their child, they should be taught to respect everyone and gain acceptance into the social structure like most of us did (a good hiding on the butt didn't do any of us any harm!) China may have a graying population but at the last count it was almost the quickest expanding country in the world, I can't remember how many millions of millions..... In fact they got rid of so many of their daughters over the last 20 - 40 years (they being the lesser of the two sexes, I'm not in agreement here but that was their thoughts) that now their sons who are of an age to get married have found out that there are not enough females to go round!!!! Sounds like sci-fi doesn't it!? And if both your parents are not from China then you are considered to be an outsider even though both your parents are of pure Chinese lineage. Oh dear, racism all over again....

No, I don't think kids are meant to be spoilt. Yes, they are meant to be shielded at least for a time, as they learn the most basic skills that are needed for survival, if you can call it that, but after a certain age, maybe 4 or 5, kids should be let to make their own mistakes, and learn from them. Adults around them just need to be there to pick them up and give them advice and support them, but never to pamper and spoil them.

it mainly depends on the mentality of there friends and also mainly deoends on there parents and friends with whome they wander

I do not think children should be spoiled except when they are babies, and then we parents gradually unspoil then and get them used to life. We do it in such a way that the child feels safe and then wants to do things on their own. They learn that mummy and daddy cannot buy them a toy computer and that nice outfit and they grow up. That one-child policy in China is wrong because it leads to spoiled brats. However I believe that if it is wrong in China, then the one-child policy should be wrong everywhere else even in Europe, because right now Europeans are being persuaded to have one or no children and that is racial discrimination.

I think there is a difference between loving and spoiling. Loving our kids means we give our kids the best of what we can afford, within reason. For example, spending for quality education, nutritious food, good medical care, not to mention spending quality time with our kids are part of loving them. So is giving in to their whims once in a while, within reason. It is teaching them what is right and what is wrong. Spoiling, however, is different. It means that we give in to our kid's whims, whether or not such whims are reasonable or even affordable for us. It is not being able to tell our kid: "Son, we cannot afford it. If you want it, you may have to save up for it." It is defending our child's actions even if they are wrong, and not being able to discipline our kid because we cannot bear to punish them, so they get away with wrongdoings. It is certainly within our rights to give our best for our kids, but spoiling them will not make them strong characters and would be doing them a great disservice in the future. Children should learn that some things don't come easy. Children should learn that we can't always have everything we want, that some things need effort to obtain. Just my 2 cents...

No, I do not think kids should be spoiled. Parents should, of course, love their children and try to give them a good life but spoiling them is not the answer. Give your children things your parents couldn't afford when you were growing up by all means, if you can afford to, but spoil them and it'll only be their downfall. Children should be brought up to respect others and treat them as they would wish to be treated themselves. That's how I would advise people to bring up their kids. I don't have any, nor do I intend to but I've seen the end result of people who spoilt their kids too much and it aint pleasant! x

I dont think kids should be spoiled to where they are stuck up little brats. I think you should give them what they need and as much as you can but not to over due it. If they want something I think if you think they deserve to have it then get it if not then dont. I think there has to be boundries due to the fact of growing up to be spoiled brats. I know a few people like that and wouldnt want that for my daughter at all.