mind your own business!!!!

If you know the owners of the bar, you could go and talk to them and tell them that one of their employee's is giving you a hard time and that you would like it if they talked to her for you. Maybe that would help, but not very vengefull which is what i think you are looking for huh ? lol Sorry i couldnt be of more help skinny ;)

I know exactly how you feel, and its not a good feeling, but you can rest assured that you are innocent. You have done nothing to hurt anyone and your conscience is clear.Its very possible that this person is jealous of your age and beauty. She may not be trying to hurt you, she's just venting. You are thinking she's still acting like a High school kid, while you are an adult. Remember this, and think like an adult. She can only hurt you if you allow it to happen. You have every advantage if you care to use it. Stay strong in the knowledge that you are innocent and young and beautiful. Life is what you make it!

Sounds like someone is jelious, im not good at ignoring someone whom has something to say about me but like was said before i would approach her and tell her that as an employe she should keep her opinions to herself and if she had anything to say about me to say it to my face. but i wouldnt let it bother me to much.

Oh yes...the smile to my face stab me in the back scenario. Been there...more than once. My approach is either to ignore them...and send them a lot of energetic light intermingled with a request for spiritual harmony to resolve it...or I take them aside and call them on it. I live with the idea that if we are not truthful and do not give people a chance to handle their own 'stuff' it is dishonoring to them..and us. Having said that I think we have to be discerning enough to know whether it is worth the effort and what our expectations about outcomes are before calling them on their actions. I tried that with one friend because I thought we'd created enough emotional safety to do so. Was I shocked to learn she wasn't interested in accountability, truth, honor or anything else even though she said she was. She wanted to live in deluded 'don't worry--be happy' space and my honesty was very threatening to her. When I saw that our relationship moved to back to a very superficial one and I rarely see her anymore. My other suggestion is this: How comfortable would be be if you spoke to her..one to one in non-accusatory messages. It could run along these lines...."I value who you are enough to talk to you directly about this rather than going behind your back as I have been hearing that you've been doing with me. I find your comments to others very hurtful and would like to clear the air and put a stop to any further misunderstandings that may otherwise arise. We have know each other long enough that I would prefer that you take to me directly about what is going on rather than gossiping behind my back. Are you willing to do that so we can end this or move on...or you going to continue.?" Now you'd have to put this in your own words...but when whenever we are able to speak the truth and own what is going on rather than adding to the mix by not 'dealing' things often resolve themselves more quickly. Within your Buddhist studies you know that suffering comes from what we attach ourselves to. I try to clear situations like this up as quickly and with as much spiritual clarity as possible. Otherwise they just create a quagmire of negativity. You are swimming in different energies these days...you could also choose to forgive her pettiness and enjoy your JOY! I'll be back for an update...May the Light of Truth guide whatever decision you make. Hugs from a Cyber friend... Raia

I would go up to her and poke her in the eye with a kumquat :) It probably wouldn't give her the clue to keep her mouth shut but it would sure as heck be funny. Well only to you and me it would be funny. Everyone else would wonder why you are assaulting a waitress with a piece of fruit. So I guess I would just have to tell her that I would appreciate if she kept her opinions of me and my relationships to herself. I would tell her that we are "all adults" and if there is something she wants to know she should come out and ask and not go on a fishing exhibition with her friends. Even if she doesn't start asking you a million questions it will at least make her realize that her behavior has gotten back to you so she might just think twice before she opens her big mouth again.

I have never been one to just let laying dogs lie. Never mind that it is a small town, she is acting like a child. I think you need to confront her about it in a nice way. But wth hidden jabs in it to let her know you know what she has been saying at that she needs to mind her own business. If that doesn't work you go girl, poke her in the eye.