Love Conquers All?

I always hoped to be loved by my friends, family, partner for who I am on the inside, no matter what, yet in reality, in 1994, at the age of 40, I was injured at work and it changed my life forever and has never been the same. I was paralyzed on my upper left side for 1 1/2 years. The curve of my cervical spine was reversed. A disk at c5-6 was bulging out, compressing my spinal cord. I was diagnosed with traumatic (from trauma of the accident at work) vascular thoracic outlet syndrome. This was 12 years ago, and doctors were contemptuous of the diagnosis. Now TOS (thoracic outlet syndrome) is a recognized diagnosis with developed treatments. I was fortunate, last year, to find one that works--after a flare up that was blinding me (I'm legally blind at 20/200 vision) -- cutting off blood flow to my eyes and brain (I would get dizzy and almost black out). TOS causes me to have muscle contractions harder than cement. In a flare up, my chest wall won't expand for me to breathe. This is a stress on my heart. On and on...that's enough of the tip of the iceburg. To answer you, YES, I would stay with someone no matter what, and through my experiences I learned its a good thing when false friends fall away...even when it hurts.

Nothing could change that way I feel for my husband. We married for better for worse, in sickness and in health. Nothing will ever change that, including his appearance. I knew a woman who left her husband because he lost his leg due to complications of diabetes. He was unable to provide for the family she explained and needed someone who could. It made me very mad to say the least. (Notice I said I knew a woman who, instead of I had a friend who?)

I agree with your take on things. I've always believed that if your significant other quit loving you because of physical reasons -- weight gain, disability, etc. -- that that person didn't really love you in the first place. People who get involved with someone based on looks is never going to have a lasting relationship. We all change in negative ways as we age. That's just part of nature.

it wouldn't stop me from loving a person for something like that....most women I thinkwould stay with their man not sure if the reverse would be so....

this is a good question..and of corse i would if not then there was no love in the first place

not many people today think tht way

I agree with you 100%. I totally love and adore my husband. If he ended up in wheelchair or had a terrible accident and lost a leg, it wouldn't make me love him even less.