Would you do it a second time?
By kbourgerie
@kbourgerie (8780)
United States
March 2, 2008 12:13am CST
I replied to an earlier post and it got me to thinking whether or not I'd relive my life if I had the chance. The question is if you found yourself at heaven's door and they gave you the opportunity to stay or come back and live your life again, EXACTLY, the same way you have lived it this time would you stay in heaven or return to your life?
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@WhatsHerName (2716)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Sure I'd give it another shot, only next time I would refuse a certain member of myLot from joining my friends list.
Oh no, I pray he sent the package before he reads this.
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@WhatsHerName (2716)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I'm thinking about taking him off my friends list once I get that package.
I got the word already dicky, I am worried I won't get it from a relative of Betsy Ross though, I'm thinking it could bring me a pretty penny on ebay.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
LOL. Maybe he won't read it. After all he isn't necessarily on my friends list and might not even know I exist.
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@fallenrain132321 (341)
• United States
3 Mar 08
To be perfectly honest, if I had to redo my life exactly how it has already been done I would not go for it. I would remain in Heaven, however, if I could do it over and make certain changes in my life I would be more than willing to try again. I know that I'm not the only one so I'm not trying to complain or throw myself a pity party but I lived a rough and abusive childhood. I also lost one of my children at the age of 3 in a drowning accident and those are feelings I would not want to experience ever again. The love that I feel for them and from them I would, but not the loss of my daughter as the pain that I felt that day ripped a huge void through my heart. Instead, if I had that choice and had to live exactly as before, I would stay in Heaven with my daughter and other family members lost along the way and wait for the others that I know I will see someday as well.
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@fallenrain132321 (341)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you so much. I appreciate your thoughtful words. It is kind people like yourself that help me realize there is still kindness left in this world. God bless you as well. :-)
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
After reading your history, I understand your answer completely and even though my life has been difficult, I could not begin to understand the pain that you have suffered. Nor can I imagine having to re-live something so traumatic. In my opinion losing a child must be the single most traumatic, painful experience one could suffer in a lifetime and my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry. Given your circumstances, I would not want to return to that hardship either. God bless you.
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
3 Mar 08
That would be a tough choice. My mom is in Heaven and I would love to see her again. I wish you had said that they would give me a chance to change one thing. I think if I could go back and change that one mistake, my life would be different. Not necessarily better, just different. But then, I would have to pick just one mistake to change!
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
It is a tough choice and thank goodness not one we will have to make.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
3 Mar 08
If I could go back to redo it with what I know now I would go back and put my life in Gods hands alot sooner than what I did this time. I wouldve learned to have more patience than what I have had and there is alot of mistakes I would definately undo. But if I had to relive it all the exact same way I would pass on it. This life isnt forever and sooner or later we have to move on to the next whatever it might be. SO while I would want to try and undo my wrongs I sure wouldnt go through all the same things again for the world.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I understand and many people feel that way. It is a difficult choice given the love we feel for our families.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I'd stay in heaven for sure. I have no regrets here or anything like that but face it...life is tough. It is also fun and exciting but it is tough and painful as well. I have learned too much along the way and overcome so many obsticles. Just thinking of going back and reliving it all the same, well, I get tired at the thought. That would be like climbing up a steep,snow-covered hill and getting almost to the top, losing your footing and sliding all the way back down to the bottom. I love my life but no thanks.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Your perspective was very well put. Thanks.
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@plainhousewife (332)
• Philippines
3 Mar 08
Hmm... I think I'd have to pass on that one. Once I'm at heaven's door, I'd rather stay there than go back to earth and relive my whole life exactly the way I lived it. I think once is enough as I've already learned a lot from it. If I were given a chance to go back and live another life, then maybe I would reconsider. :)
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think many of us would like the opportunity to do it over again in a new way.
@KKKBsmom (1092)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Relive my life the way I did the first time??? I don't think so... There are many things I would do differently.
Stay in Heaven or return to my life??? well If heaven is what everyone says. I will stay there and watch my kids grow and have wonderful familys!
This world is cruel... I want a happy place!
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Admittedly, yes sometimes our lives can be a tough place to be. I'd still like to relive a few of my magical moments though.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I don't believe in Heaven (or Hell for htat matter) but even if I did I wouldnt choose to relive it..mainly because there'd be no point to it...If I've done it once then things went as they were suppose to and there would be no point to doing it a second time since there wouldnt be opportunity to learn more etc...
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
4 Mar 08
"but perhaps the opportunity to learn things differently"
Ah but you said "exactly" the same so I figured it would just be a repeat...there wouldnt be an opportunity to learn things differently...not to mention the fact that even if there were that chance, I've learned things exactly as I was meant to this time around ya know....doing a rerun would be pointless
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Perhaps there wouldn't be an opportunity to learn more, but perhaps the opportunity to learn things differently.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Life is hard and filled with many hardships, but at the same time it is filled with much joy. When I remember those small moments of joy, it makes me feel sometimes that our heaven is right here on earth.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I would definitely go back and do it all over again- the good, bad, and the ugly. All those experiences would once again lead me to this point in my life which I cherish. I wouldn't trade this happiness and content- my zest for life for anything and I would happily love to have another round at it.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Good for you. The good, the bad and the ugly is just about right.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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2 Mar 08
I wrote this reply once and them my internet connection dropped. aaagh, modern technology.
This is a tough one. I would love to come back and be with my family again but I have never (that I can recall) been in to Heaven either. I think that I would probably go on through the Pearly Gates. However, perhaps they could send us back in different conditions. Change our countries, have us born into richer or poorer families. Give us new life experiences, change our genders. It might be fun. How about you? What would you do.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I'm sorry your internet connection dropped your reply. That has happened to me several times too, or I thought I posted an answer just to come back later and find out it wasn't posted at all. It was actually one of your posts that made me think of this question, so thanks for the inspiration. As for me no matter how tough my life has been, there have been those few redeeming moments, so I'd come back. I think our heaven is right here on Earth. We are just too small to recognize it.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Its those small moments like that that you just described that makes all our pain and sorrow worth it.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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2 Mar 08
This is a toughie! I love to live and I love life, but I am not sure I would want to come back and live that same life ALL over again without being able to change anything. I mean especially if you came back and could remember it before, it would just be a bit boring I think. No I would choose to go through the door.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
2 Mar 08
What about all those moments that you would have a new appreciation for?
@gemini_rose (16264)
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3 Mar 08
There have a few things that maybe on the whole I would like to see and live again, but at the same time a lot more things that I wouldnt like to see and do again!
@lolalolacherrycola (899)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think that if I made it to heaven's gate; I would stay there. Perhaps be a guardian angel to others.
Knowing I could come back only to live the same life and not make any different choices that would allow different outcomes, I would pass on the rerun and stay in heaven.
Don't get me wrong, I like my life now but would not want to repeat all the hell I have gone through that got me here.
Especially, if I could not change anything.
Heaven would be my choice.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
As a nurse I can see why you would want to be a guardian angel.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
For me it is my children that would make me want to stay.
@Deea48 (1166)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Nope I still don't think so, no matter how hard, we try they grow up and I really would not want to do some of things we did, there were some very trumatic events in our family I would never want to repeat,Not for my children and not for me. They will just continue to move forward hopefully the wonderful way they have been, despite it all. I will look forward to meeting them again, when their time comes.
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
3 Mar 08
This is a tricky question.
Up until recently... I would have say "No".
If you insist on me living it exactly the same way... and make all the same mistakes... I would still say "NO".
But if I could comeback with a clean slate (even without knowing what I know today)... I think I might say "YES".
Would you comeback and do it all over the same way?
In any case... because of the advance in technology... you could not do it exactly the same way... not unless you go back in time.
And before answering the question... can I check Heaven out to see what they got for me to play with?
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I loved your last line. And of course this is all based on a hypothetical situation so in this instance technology wouldn't have changed. I would come back, because no matter how difficult my life has been there have been those few moments that have made it all worthwhile.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Mar 08
I will return to my life although I will have many things to worry, such as health, work, life etc. And I have to work hard again when I am back to real life. I know it'll be nice to stay in the heaven, but I can't be so selfish. If it's not the time for me to go there, I will still prefer to live in our planet. As I have the most important thing there -- my family. My son is still very little, and I hope to see him grow up and has his own life. It will be nice to see he will have his family one day. And then perhaps I will go with a smile.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thats exactly what would keep me here is my children. I would love to see them grow up. I had my children late in life and so I fear not being around to see what their lives have become.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
3 Mar 08
so far no. I'd take heaven over any day, no matter how great my life gets.
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@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
3 Mar 08
If I would live my life the same as it was, I would just stay and rest in heaven.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Many people feel the same as you do. Thanks for taking the time to answer to my discussion.
@koalatbs (2229)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Gee Katherine, you are right... that is an extremely difficult choice to make! I guess I'd do it all over again, eventhough I had some very hard times, but I also had some very wonderful times. Like, I would just love to repeat the evening I had Saturday night & slow dance with my husband again & again & again with he looking absolutely marvelous in his tux. It was such a perfect evening which we don't get that often in life. I just wish that if I was able to repeat my life all over again that I would also have the opportunity to do some things a little differently & make some better choices. Of course, eventhough I am divorced & on my second marriage, I would never change my decision to marry my first husband because then I wouldn't have my son who is the most important person in my life! Who else would wish that they could return to their same life again but come back having all the knowledge that you learned the first time around???
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Awww, sounds like you had a wonderful moment with your husband. I'm glad for you. Sounds like it was very romantic. I was just sitting here thinking about how it felt to fall in love for the first time and how I would love to be able to relive that moment and then I read your comment. Funny.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think many of us wish we had a second chance to come back and change the way that we have lived our lives so far.