Does anyone else feel they "lost there childhood ?
By missbdoll
@missbdoll (1165)
Australia
March 2, 2008 12:26am CST
This may seem like a really strange topic, I feel I went from a little kid to an adult, wasn't really a propper teenager.I think I was an adult by 11.Don;t get me wrong I loved my mother, but as I grew older I relised she had no idea of how to be a mother, I know she really wanted kids, but only managed to have me.But I think it ended up the the child caring for the mother.I became resonsible for so much.I donn't even mean physicaly, more emonionaly.
I was always made fel responsiable for the fightd between her and the jerk she married when I was about 10 years old, craziy even at that age I begged her not to.Cause he was just a creep, hse found out later.I guess at the age of 15 I relised it wasn't me it was them.That was after all kinds of abuse from my stepfather and step brother.Which my mother could not really know about or handle.
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@aminion (129)
• Canada
3 Mar 08
I lost my childhood. I had a mother that didn't want to have children. She thought that is what she was suppost to do, get married and have kids. She had 3 the family split and I ended up the one taking care of my younger siblings. I spent my teenage years with depression. Then I had children and fell right back into what I was used to doing. I don't remember alot of my childhood which is probably the best. But I am determined to not let my children grow up to fast. I guess it was a lesson I had to learn so that I could be better for my children.
@maz323 (29)
• Australia
2 Mar 08
i never really had much of a childhood.. my father left my mother when i was about 9 and not long after that my mother lost one of the legs.. she had carers but they never seemed to worry about her and i was the one that helped her out a lot.. when i was about 11 she lost her other leg and that made it harder.. she was always in and out of hospital so i was takin in by one relitive or another when she was in there.. when i was 14 she pasted away and i was sent to live with my father and at that time i had a lot of hate for him and he en up kicking me out of home at 15 so thats when i had to grow up even more.. my father and i talk good now but i will never forgive him for the amount of stress he put on my mother
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
2 Mar 08
OH absolutely! I had to grow up very quickly and starting at a very young age (5yrs old) then by the time I was 13 I was on my own so of course I had to grow up even more at that point...HOWEVER for the past several yrs I've been lucky enough to somewhat be able to recapture my childhood in many ways..Granted its not exactly the same since I'm in my late 30s and a mom myself now but its great substitute
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I feel very sorry for the circumstances, with you and your steparent! It's hard to imagine what you go through, when you haven't been there!
For me it was different! I am the oldest of nine, and it came upon me early in life, that it was my duty to be a secondary parent to my siblings! So I went from a small child to a parent very quickly! But it didn't bother me, I just accepted it as a responsibility to help my parents!
I raised two stepchildren myself, and knowing how sensitive these relationships were, I did my best to buffer any friction between me, my stepchildren, and their mother! And rewardingly, my stepkids are grown now, and we have the best relationship any parent would be proud of!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Wow I can relate to you in a lot of ways missbdoll! No I didn't have the exact same problems or upbringing you did..but I too think I missed out on a proper childhood as well, and it took me many years to realize why. Like you, it was a case of my being a parent to my mother. She never took on resposibilities. My folks were divorced when I was only a year and a half old...Up until I was five years old we all lived together, meaning my great-grandmother, grandmother, mother and me at my great-grandmother's house...then my grandmother, mother and I moved out...during my very early years my mother stayed home to take care of me, but by the time I was about ten she went back to work and I was a latch-key kid...I "grew" up very fast never really enjoying my kid years I too am an only child as well
