Getting your child`s attention

I whisper to get their attention. Most of the time the reason they are acting up is because they are really trying to get your attention. So I whisper and they will be quiet so they can hear what I'm saying. Another thing I do is go to them and get down on their level, grab their little chin and tell them if they don't knock it off I'm going to give them away to strangers. Just kidding, I do get down on their level, gently grab their chins and tell them that this is their warning, that if they do whatever again they are going on the naughty chair. They get one minute for their age. Then if they do it again, they get placed in the chair, no matter how many times you have to put them there you have to be persistent. They will learn trust me, I have been through it with 3 children and am now going through it with my grandchildren.

You know, unfortunately, spanking them is a must at that age. I know, there have been many people that claim that to be child abuse and that doctors say don't spank, but honestly you have to or as they get older they will neither respect you nor listen to you. Some even become quite aggressive thinking they can get away with anything and everything and when you try and scold them they will lash back out. There is nothing wrong at all with spanking, i spank all three of my children. i don't beat them of course, but two or three licks for the older ones and one for my 2 year old...does a lot more good than time outs and groundings. those things don't hurt and while you shouldn't go to an extreme, a little sting is not gonna kill them. when they associate discomfort with something they've done wrong, usually they think twice before doing it again. God bless

I am by nature a very quiet and soft-spoken person. One thing my girls (now grown) told me always got their attention was when I raised my voice and swore. I am not one to swear either unless pushed. They said I got a look in my eyes that made them realize that I wasn't messing around. At age 3, I'd intervene and end whatever he was doing until he could do it right. For a tantrum...time out until he can calm down. If you are in a public place...remove him and bring him to the car or home. I know, it is really tough. I raised 4 on my own and sometimes it seemed that absolutely nothing worked.

When my daughter was at you kid's age, I usually put her on the bed and get down on my knees to talk with her with eyes looking into her eyes. She is a lovely girl. When I did that, she gether her intention and listen to me carefully.

I have a 2 and a half year old daughter and there are also times that i have this "dilema" of getting her attention. It kept me wide awake at times thinking of what have i done for Stella not to listen to me anymore ? How come she pretends not to hear things and i have to say it twice or sometimes trice for me to get her attention? According to the article that i read somewhere (sorry i cant remember exactly which article) Once the kids reach the age of 2-5, they tend to TRY their best to be independent, doing things on thier own and on this stage too...they will try as to HOW FAR they can GO and DO something without being reprimanded. It is also the time when their concentration or focus is less interrupted. Meaning, our kids have the ability to focus on the things that they do and in effect difficult for us to get their attention. After i read the article, i made some adjustments and changes on how i would like to get Stella´s attention at times. for example, before i prepare her food, i will tell her ahead of time that mommy will be in the kitchen and i will let her play lego until such time food is ready. Once everything is set on the table, instead of just asking her to come over , i go to her instead and tell her that it´s time for us to eat and she needs to place all the lego back in the box. While doing so, i tried to start another topic with her just to get her attention off the lego. this trick worked wonderfully on her. I dont just call her name if i want her to come to me,instead i go to her and do some physical contact while i tell her what i want her or us to do next. I also tried to have a routine of things that we do and set some time for everything , sometimes i allow her to extand some activities a few minutes longer but i would have to explain to her patiently that we cant do that all the time otherwise we might miss some other stuff for the day. I am not a great mother, but i am trying my best to do and behave like one. We should be in control of them , but i am pretty sure that even the small oney like out children wouldnt want to be feel obliged or controlled . all of us should learn and remember the things that would be of interest for our kids, like fave book, fave jacket or teddy and use these stuff to get their attention and let them do the things you want them to. There is always a better way of doing things , likewise, there is always a calmer way to deal with kids....i guess it is NOT ONLY our child that needs to adjust on us , but as adult, we should understand and adjust MORE ...and try to refill your bucket of patience..it will do you a hell of a lot

Awwww... children are like that, you just have to keep calling them and when they go to you, just scold them a little and tell them that whenever you call their attention, they should listen to you and if they don't, tell them they can't eat ice cream.. ^_^ hahaha.. ^_^

If I want to get the attentions of my kids I always call their real name.then they know Im angry already