I don't know if this is appropriate.

I think it would be great to send her a "I am thinking of you card or I miss you here at work card." I think telling someone that you will miss them when they are gone by a card is so cold because you do not know how they will accept it. Now if you decide to go and see her just for a few minutes and she brings up the subject of dying then you can tell her how much you are going to miss her. I think if you have time it would be nice for you to take over dinner for the husband and wife. I bet the husband is tired of doing everything all by himself. You might call him and ask him if he needs time off away from the home and see if you can come and spend time with your friend so he can have some time to rest of do something other then take care of his wife. All's he can do is say no. Reaching out to them is not a bad thing.

I think you may not send her farewell card.Sick people afraid that people treat them as somebody can't do anything,or different from others.You may show your love to her.Talking to her more often and sailing about with her,do more execise to let her feel better.maybe she will feel better not only mentally but also physically. You can send her something to show you missing,as meeting her with flower with a card.Dno't let her feel pathetic.

My sister was ill off and on for over twelve years with various cancers that started off as skin cancer, then at the end was in her bones. She cherished the cards and notes she received from her friends and co workers. They would call and talk to her and keep her posted on what was going on. One friend custom embroidered special pillowcases that were not so hard on her hair, did not cause static. She enjoyed beautiful things around her, and plants, and fragrances, light body spritzes. She was very afraid of smelling offensive. I think you should send her at least one "thinking of you" card. When my grandfather was ill, I sent a picture postcard a week or more as something to lift his and grandma's hearts. Sometimes humorous, sometimes pretty, but it never took more than five or ten minutes to write, and did let them know I was with them in spirit.

i would not advise a farewell card, that is in poor taste. Send her a thinking of you card in your time of need.

Hi dear, After reading all the replies here, I realize that you did not mean farewell. You actually meant to say that you are her friend and you miss her. Since she wont be coming to office, you might have put the word farewell like we normally do just in any other case if somebody is leaving the office. Just send a friendship card also give her a call and talk to her. May be, that will give her some kind of happiness that you called. Take care.

A card, sure. Kind words, a few warm memories to share. Funny stories about co-workers (better yet, the boss!) Prayer. But farewell? No, I don't think so. That particular phrase would be extremely tacky (and possibly hurtful).

Sometimes our words don't come out the way we meant them to and I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It is very appropriate to send her a card letting her know how much she has meant to you. If you shared memory making incidents, bring them up so she will smile. If you have any chance at all to visit her; please make an effort to do so. There are way too many people that are too afraid to go to a hospice to visit friends. You will be surprised at what you will find there. It is not a morose and "feel sorry for me" place. If she is not in a hospice building, but hospice caretakers are coming into her own home; then please go and visit her. Her family needs to see her having as many visitors as possible. They also would love to sit down and have coffee with you and talk some "normal" talk. They would like to hear stories of memories you have had with her. When there is grief, sadness, and sorrow the only wrong thing a person can do is to ignore it. Whatever you say or do from your heart is going to be right. ~Donna

If this situation happened to me I would want this lady to know someone cares for her. Don't send her a farewell card that wouldn't be nice since she is already sick...Send her a get well soon card just to lift her spirit up a bit and send her flowers.Women love flowers..And visit her.. In our country we care for family members and don't just put them to nursing homes or hospice for others to take care of them. We take care of them ourselves and we make our prescensce felt by the sick person just by being there beside him or her.

I think it would be really nice to send her a "Thinking of You" card. Just to let her know that your thinking of her and haven't forgotten her. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I think that a friendship card would be the best thing to send her. Personally I would not like to receive a "goodbye card" when I was terminally ill. Thats what I would see it as. I would appreciate receiving a note from a dear co worker letting me know how much of an impact I have been in their life, and thanking me for being a friend. Your friend is in my thoughts and prayers and I wish the best for her.

I think it is very appropriate to send a card with your sentiments on it - provided it is without the word farewell or any such closure indicating finality. Since you put farewell in quotations I am thinking that you were not going to use the word!

Like others have said, send a card of encouragement or support. You don't have to pussyfoot around, either, she knows she's fading. I've dealt with this before, unfortunately. It would help her a lot if you sent her something that expresses how much she's meant to you--whether you mention an act of kindness on her part or how she made you laugh when you were in a bad mood or helped you with your work or a problem...let her know that she mattered to you, she made an impact on someone's life. That's what people care about when they're about to move on, whether anyone will remember them or whether they've mattered to people. Please do this as soon as you can? My brother left us two days after entering hospice and I thank God I did all this before, when he could appreciate it. I'm so sorry you're losing your friend. It's a cruel way to go but she'll truly be in a better place, and all the better for knowing how you feel.

thinking of you card would be your best bet. That way nobody would get offended or hurt. Just to let her know that you are thinking of her and have her in your thoughts. I wouldnt recomend saying something about going to miss her. If you havent visited her since shes been off work then I'd stay away from missing her now or later on when she passes.

NO!!! don't send a farewel card to her. if she is not stressed out enough about what is going on geting a "farewell" card would add to it. i redently have lost a few friends to cancer.(im a cancer survivor) and it's hard to watch some one who know's they are going to die just lay there and die. but honestly i think instead of a card or instead of getting anything you should just go visit her. honestly it ment a lot more to my friends that i came to see them. even if they were tired and just kinda slept. i would talk t there family that was there and chat with my friends as they dozed in and out of sleep. if you can't go to see them and you feel you absolutely have to send something. send a friendship card. or something to make them smile and laugh.

I am so sorry to hear that news about your friend. Its going to be a very sad time for her family and friends. I dont know if anyone will agree with me or not but I dont think that type of card would be appropriate. What about a 'thinking of you' card?? I think that would send a nicer message than a farewell card. I just think that if you are saying farewell then it sounds too final.

I think your idea to send her something is really nice as a friend and co-worker .... but I'd suggest you send a "Get Well Soon" or "We're Thinking of You" card. This server the same goal and will be less threatening given her current mental state. I'm sure she's realized what lies ahead, or more to the point what doesn't ... so driving the point home more will only deflate her will to fight to see another day ! Only an opinion ! pat...