Why don't women like good men?

If a woman stays in a relationship with a guy that is abusing her. And she keeps doing it well then that is her problem. I would not stand and let any man put there hands on me. (like that) As to what you explained above, I agree that men can help around the house, with the kids. But not to do it all. I am a stay at home but I make money out of my house. (Childcare) my husband works. But yet he still helps out. But if he did all the above that you mentioned I would go insane. These days I do not think that woman really know what they want. And alot of them like the men that are going to treat them like crap..

i think some women like that really dont know at the end of the day what they want they claim they do , and even have like a sort of chart or description of their ideal man , but they always go for the opposite , for one thing i dont care about any woman that gets beats up by a man and stil sits there "loving " him claiming that she still "loves " him thats a bunch of bull , all women arent dogs , some of them really dont have guideance they follow their friends or look at a couple and think thats what they want or some women just experiment and date any type of guy and some of em actually get a kick out of the bad boy relationship ..weird i know but oh well cant save em all , but there are good women out there i know a few , with degrees and staying single with no kids so a women out there like that i highly respect.....

I think that there are lots of women out there who want nothing more than to be loves and respected. However, most women do not like a door mat. They do not want a man that they can boss around and tell what to do. I can only talk for myself and a few of my girlfriends. I am 43 and I have dated the good the bad and the ugly. I am married to a man who is much older than I am. He brings me flowers for no reason. He has worked very hard so that I did not have to. He also lets me be myself. He doesn't try and change me in any way. However, when he needs to he can say no to me. He can take charge and be the man of the family when time calls for him to be hard. When I was young I wanted the bad boys. However, I was very mean myself in my youth and did well holding my own. When you grow up and mature you find that all that fighting and abuse is just that abuse. My cousin is my best friend and we grew up together. She too wanted the so called bad boy when she was younger. Now that she is older she just wants a man to be a man. She wants him to be a good man. She doesn't want a man that she can control or bush around. She would not mind having a man that called her once a day to make sure she was ok or to tell her he loves her, however, calling six or seven times a day is obsesive. I know that what women want from a man can be confusing. We want you to be strong but we want you to be gentle as well. We want you to take control of some situations but not be controling. It is hard for a guy to know what to do. However, when you find someone that you feel something for you can learn. Do not call a woman six or more times a day. With younger women you need to be patient with because they need to grow up before they can commit to anyone. If you are doing all these things for a woman that you care about just be patient the right woman will come along for you. Dating is just trial and error. One day the person you are ment to be with will be there and you may not even know it right away. I will give you the same advise my grandmother gave me. She told me I had to kiss a lot of frogs before my prince charming would come. So keep kissing because not all women want that immiture, abusive man in there life, you just have to take the time to find them.

To classify women in to one category is wrong as it is to classify men in to one category. We are all unique and different. If you are picking women who abuse you, then you have self-esteem issues. Always remember, you should only pick the best for yourself. If you can't find the best, do without!

well, actually, that question could be totally turned around on you. why don't men like good women? My husband and I are both one of the good ones and we had to be crapped on a lot by many people before we found each other. It's not all women and it is not all men. There are just some people out there, unfortunately, that would rather crap on the good people and get the bad ones that crap on them. Why? couldn't tell you, i've never been in that position where i treated someone like crap that was really good to me. so, it's not all women that do it. men have a part in this game they like to play to. God bless

I think people are creatures of habits. We find something we are "comfortable" with and think it's all we have. I wouldn't say women don't know what they want, but sometimes confuse what they have with what they want. People become very weary when looking for someone that they can communicate with and have that loving passion in the bed, so they settle for what they have found. Kind of like hand in hand with jobs...people become comfortable with a job they complain about but are too scared/timid to make that move for something of interest! And for your comment to someone else about how women change when they become the wife, I think it's because they feel they have won the fight to get you off the market...so they feel they have no need to impress. Which is screwed up thinking to me, cause I would fight harder to keep a man then!

Wow, I can totally relate with this. I feel like I'm always the best friend and when things move on to romantic levels its different. I totally invest myself in friends and even more so in a girl I love, but after a fallout and realizing that I expose myself to be trampled on and ignored by investing that much when it seems no one can possibly invest that much in me, I have to reevaluate my relationships.

i do not really know why you find all women not good at all. i think women can also have similar idea about you. don't take it otherwise, but i think you have been hurt badly by them just don't categorize all in the same coin. all things differs.

There are good women who appreciate good men and quite frankly, I'm insulted that you think there aren't. The problem that most "good men" have is that the women who will appreciate you are not the barfly hotties that men are attracted to. It's not the ones you meet as women, it's the ones you meet as just people. The woman behind you in line at the store who comments on a tabloid, the woman you strike up an off-hand conversation with at the book store. Not the one you go, "hey she's hot, let me get at her". I have no crazy stories, I have no crazy exes, hell I don't have any exes at all. I haven't been hit, abused, stabbed, set on fire or humiliated. I avoided bullsh!t and chose carefully. I don't "dog" him, I don't (intentionally) sh!t on him (I do have a temper, I won't deny that). He's an intellectual scholar on his way to becoming a professor, we're moving overseas for his studies next year and he would and does anything for me. I can't work due to health reasons and he take care of me and supports me both physically, emotionally and financially.

I am of the male species! You cannot say all women are dogs. In fact I look at women as beautiful creatures and you need them to be around. Today, we all live in a cruel world and I do not think there are angels or saints living among us. In other words, nobody is really good. Even you. Girls are not looking for goody goody type of men. They could be boring in life. Even men would like girls with action, not the ones that are praying all the time. What is a good guy. One who is stable financially I presume, one who knows how to treat a woman like a woman, one who is exciting, makes women laugh and treats them like a lady at the same time.

Of course that is not true! All women are not dogs! And some women are normal enough to appreciate good men! Really! You just happen to have the unusual circumstance where you haven't met one that is available to you who isn't one! You see it works both ways you know, just as most of the good men are either g@y or taken and therefore unavailable to single "looking" women, most of the good women are also unavailable so it's not easy to find such good women, but like 'sizzle' says, you will find one, eventually, so try to be patient and don't be afraid to show all your loving colors upfront, so that if a good woman happens to be looking, she will see you right away!:) I hope you find someone who can appreciate all your goodness!:)

we are not dogs it just comes with a lack of maturity. when we are younger you get the image that bad boys are hot. when we grow up and mature we realize that bad boys dont make good husbands! who wants to bail their husbands out of jail in the middle of the night, not i. Just stay who you are and one day you will find a woman who is worth your hard work

well, to me your dilemma seems a bit amusing but on the other hand when you are at the recieving end, it might not be all that funny. Women are instinctively attracted to "alpha males"- the ones who reek of testosterone overdose and fight for practically everything. these men are dominating, possessive and protective which attracts a female towards them in the first place as females are conditioned to seek protection and security. however, this is not the guy they would like to spend their lives with. I mean, who wants to be overpowered by a hul when there are so many nicer guys around. now, coming to your description of a "nice guy". a nice guy is not a slave or a doormat. he is a person who treats women as his equal and respects her freedom. he satisfies the long term needs of a woman which go much beyond physicality. he is gentle, soft and kind and makes any woman comfortable around him because he is gentle and caring. however, if you find women treating you badly just because you are "nice", it means you are probably not standing up for yourself. you need to be firm and clear about what hurts you and if the woman really cares enough, she will certainly understand.Good Luck!