What question should you ask before you get married?
By kbourgerie
@kbourgerie (8780)
United States
March 4, 2008 10:20am CST
Whether you are married or not, looking back or looking to the future what question would you ask your significant other prior to marrying them? What do you think is the single most important thing you personally would like to know before saying "I Do"?
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12 responses
@p1kef1sh (45681)
•
4 Mar 08
Do you truly love me and will you always stand by me no matter what happens? As for what I would ask a prospective wife.... Sorry, I am in a very silly mood today. But it would be along those lines. Nothing to do with money, former lovers (although it's as well too make sure that they are not still married if that is applicable). Now, have you got something to tell us? Do I need to by a new hat?
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
4 Mar 08
LOL. No I don't have anything to tell you. Its just a question. I think your answer is very admirable, but don't run out for a new hat.
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
4 Mar 08
I would not ask anything... because people only tell you what you want to hear... which is not necessarily the truth.
Before asking someone to marry me... I would make sure that I have been living long enough with that person to know everything about her.
Yes... I said "living".
Because you can only know a person by living with her or him. And it has to be longer than a couple of months... otherwise... they will still manage to fool you.
If you really want to find out fast... go and live with her/him... rather than him/her coming and live with you.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I think you have a darn good point. I wouldn't marry anyone without having lived with them first. I've been married twice, both short lived and I'm in no hurry to ever do it again. You find out so much about a person by being in their environment.
@daniraius (98)
• Romania
4 Mar 08
I am perfectlly agree with you, you are so much right in all what you said.I wouldn't ask something, but i'll try to establish only one thing: to say always the truth, not to lye anytime, no matter what.Thank you.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
5 Mar 08
I am not sure if that question is for significant other.
I would like to ask myself is I am sure who I want to spend the rest of my life with him...
I wish to marry my best friend, so I would ask myself if he is my best friend or not.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Sounds like you have had a bad experience. I'm sorry about that. You never know though in the future someone better might come along.
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
16 May 08
are you already married or your up to with someone.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
19 May 08
LOL. Yes, I suppose those are pretty important questions.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 08
Interesting question my friend, I would ask my significant other if she wanted children because that would be very important to me, if I was that way inclined, but that would be a big issue, if my wife to be refused to have children then it would make me change my mind. I think children are important in a marriage and I would have loved to have a son, sadly not to be.
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
5 Mar 08
knowing all,like if we are really ready to enter this situation,planning all in the right time to have children.
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@youless (112621)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Oh, in fact we talked about many before I got married to my husband. Such as we would talk about the housework. It sounds childish but I thought we should make it clear. And then it's the finance. And I shall be the one who handle it.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 May 08
do you love me and do you know how to cook? my first
question then what is your view on children? and
thirdly I think maybe whats your religion but anyone
can work around that I am sure. But the issue
with children really should be brought up. Asfor
cookingI am partly joking as my husband was an
excellent cook and I was just moderately good.
but we did discuss having children and we were
agreed on that. Ihave had some friends who did
not discuss that and then found out the other mate
did not want to havekids at all.Their marriage ended
in a year.
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
Of course I wanted to marry a good man and luckily my husband is. But if I were single and someone courts me I would like to ask if he is a Christian. It's a broad question and many men tend to say yes even they don't mean it neither they slightly fall under it. The rest is for me to observe. Just because he answers yes does not leave me just believing it. I will see first if what he says about himself is manifested in his actions.
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@XnatenE (38)
• United States
18 Apr 08
anything that bothers you or something that you want to hear from the persons mouth..
even if you would assume that you know the answer i think its still better to ask it...
it will give you peace of mind..
i think most questions will stem from the past of that person.
getting an answer will provide you assurance..