Attention women of myLot...I have a question for you.

Just being yourself. That is all you can be. Me I stay single because I have no idea what I like. I can tell you that while smelling good is nice, it is not what attracts you to another. There has to be friendship, honesty, communication, loyalty and respect. That is the key to any relationship. Whether it be romantic or just friends. If your looking for a "trophy" partner then be careful. You get all the drama that goes with it. If you are looking for a partner that you can laugh with for no reason, just enjoy being around then really look to one of the people you may already know. There could be the love of your life under your nose.

This is an interesting question. Theres a bunch of different things that attract me to different types of guys. Usually I like guys with a great personality, hot, with a great body. Ive realized that usually these 3 things dont go together. However I hate when a white guys acts black, It does annoy me using certain phrases. My sisters husband when he gets off the phone with you he will say "one" at the end instead of bye. LOL its just completed fake! I think looks are truly important to women no matter how much they say they arnt. Me personally I have to be attracted to the person. Some people ive been with others thought were attractive and others ive been with others didnt think were so attractive, however as long as I think they are it dont matter. The question about shyness in a guy is hard. Sometimes you want your guy to be quiet and nice. But then again that way they can be to nice. About the tag, axe and bod spray, I wouldnt say they are the best items on the market. They smell ok but its nothing like the comercial says. For me anyways. I hate when men are cocky and think they are gods gift to women. Anyways I know my answer is kinda all over the place but Im just trying to write as im thinking cause im in a hurry to get to an appt. :)

Hi Marcola well I have been married for several years now but I still like to look at men. I mean come on Im a woman!LOL I love a sense of humor in a guy. Smelling good is another attraction for me. I dont like when a guy doesnt listen when Im trying to talk to him. Thats definetly a turn off.

What draws me to a man? First looks, then intelligence, then personality, then his attentiveness towards me. Turn offs would be arrogance, muscles, "ballin"(aka throwing money around), sports, cars, military. As for shyness, it depends. If a guy is so shy that I've never seen, noticed or talked to him, then of course I'm not attracted because I have no idea he exists. As for Tag, Axe, and Bod, they make me gag. I absolutely hate cheap cologne. I figure, if you're gonna even bother, then shell out the money and buy good cologne. I got Black by Kenneth Cole for my fiance. As for "friends first", I think that's pretty stupid. Women have ways of classifying people they know that tend to be absolute. If you go into talking to a woman as "just a friend", then odds are that you will only ever be "just a friend" in her mind. If you go into talking to a woman as a potential relationship, then she'll probably interact differently. You should definitely go on "hang-out" dates before you actually start "dating" to get to know each other better first, but trying to be a friend for a year first won't work.

The thing that mainly drew me to my husband was his kindness and his caring way about him. He has a great sense of humor, although sometimes he uses it just a tad bit to much, and he is nice looking. Looks aren't everything, but i do believe that there has to be some kind of physical attraction before you can build on the other stuff. My husband has a gorgeous smile and i love his eyes. it wasn't his muscles or anything like that that got my attention. I look at the eyes and the smile before i look at anything else. I think that to really and truly love someone, looks are far from what matters, but the way they treat you and care about you that is really important. thanks for posting and God bless

There are a few things I do like a about some guys that would attract me to them. Yes their personality is one of course but I also like a guy who looks after himself and his health. That is quite appealing I think. I do like to laugh and be myself around someone who is patient and understanding. It all depends on the girl really everyone wants different things but that is like many guys too who want different things also. It is easy to say but hard to find that special someone who has most of what you want and need. Men are a little more simple then women I think in the whole approach to finding their right person. Women are more generally complicated but they just want to be respected also. It is nice when a guy is able to look after a girl but there are many girls who already can look after them selves and are not looking for too much financial freedom from a guy. I think you should not put too much pressure on yourself because it is sometimes who we are that is attractive enough to the other person. Plus it grows from there sometimes with other aspects that get found out about you. I think as long as a guy tries to be thoughtful and considerate, it would make it alot more easier for him but it is a two way thing and girls need to pull their weight too and make an effort where effort needs to be made. We are not too far apart that we can not come to a compromise and work together and be happy together.

What drew me later in life after being burnt a few times was the kind of guy that was attentive and caring! Someone who treated his mother and sisters with goodness! Finally for me I got it right and boy has it paid off. How great it is to share my life with someone who is with me mind body and soul! I am glad second time around for me is better but I hope for my daughters and sons to get it right first time around. I think the nice guy wins out in the end, he might just have to hang in their a bit longer or better yet focus more on finding a nice girl that has her ducks in a row. I know I didn't and I have friends that just don't see clearly when it comes to the right kind of a man. Yet everything a women wants and needs is in the arms of a nice man! Do you agree?

First off you have to keep in mind that every woman is gone to very. That no response is gone to be the same. For me though it's the personality, I love a guy that can make me laugh. Looks are not a huge deal for me but there does have to be that initial attraction. And you must be careful with that friends before dating rate. Stay friends foe too long than you will never get out of that friend zone. A major turn off is cockiness, and the egotistical jerk. I do not want a guy that his more hung up on his looks than I am. If he takes longer to get ready than I do than there is a problem.

Haha... girls are seemed complicated to you huh? for many reason, girls usually attracted to good looking guy! if you dont have good looking, the wearing something good and not weird, neat and clean is also attract girls. Hmmm... you can read many books for man how to attract girls, be smart, be confident and be communicate with them in the correct way. A good looking guy usually will become boring if he doesnt know how to bring the good joke at correct time, and he should know how to talk with girl. Anyway, girls also like surprise (but make sure, your surprise is not corny for them!). Hmmm... for me, until now i really attract to a smart guy with good way of dress (correct clothes for correct situation), neat and clean shirt is really good. I do like also guy who can talk with women so relax and know how to make the conversation be enjoyable, you know... I like guy with good smell and good hairstyle - not weird! Dont be too confident when you're asking a girl date, if she looks not attract to you.

well the main thing i look 4 is personality... n then looks... i mean i'm not gonna go wit a ugly person, but it's who they are n da inside dat counts to me. that's cuz when your old n gray n he doesn't look da same... he's stil the same person i feel n love wit years ago. i like a man dat can make me laugh too, cuz if he's boring then it's not gonna work 4 me becuase i like to joke around. he doesn't have to have all the money n the world, but he can't be a slacker... he needs a job.

First thing that drews me to my fiancee is that he is a good guy, he cares about me, he is a nice guy in overall, he can make me laugh and happy, he is a great person to hang out with. As time goes on, I started to see that he is also a handsome guy (dunno why I didnt see it at first), he is compassionate, he loves me, he listen when I have something to say (girls to have lots lots lots things to say), he cares about things that I like. I gotta admit, previously I was always attracted to a guy because of their look, but this time around look is not why I became his girlfriend. He is someone that I can trust, someone that can trust me back. He is someone that has hurt me and someone that has been hurt by me, but through that we do stick together. He is someone that will always be there for me and he is someone that I know I can always be there for. That is what makes me choose him.