Life With And Without

When I was young, I had decided that I wasn't going to get married and I was not going to have kids either. Well, both happened and I just can't imagine what life would be without them. Yes, you give so much to your kids and you give up so much for them, as well, and they never know it. But the love they show to me melts my heart.

Financially, I may have been better off had I not had kids. Probably not tho. I was young and doing dumb stuff. Having children kind of grounded me. raising them on my own, I had to for their sake, grow up and get more responsible. I can't even imagine my life without them in it. Hang in there. It is tough raising a child on your own but it can be done. Good luck.

I can't imagine life without my son. I was 23 when I had him, and I was ready. I wasn't into partying and things like that anyway. My husband and I had just gotten married, when we found out we were pregnant (We got married on May 14, and the estimated date we conceived was May 14-16!). In some ways, it would have been nice to spend more time with my husband before we had our son, but in other ways, he came along at the perfect time. I feel like I had my son at a great age. I was in a stable relationship, with financial stability as well, but I wasn't set in certain ways that would be hard to break out of, like happens so often in people who wait a long time to have kids.

It's hard to say if it would have been better or worse...different definitely! I probably would have finished college even though I had no direction on what I really wanted to be, which would mean I'd have a decent but unsatisfying job right now. I probably would have a lot of the material things I don't have right now but I think I'd be lacking in more important areas. I'd probably have lived more adventurously though and that could be a good thing. I've missed out on a lot by being a mom to small children for the past 12 years...but I've gained a lot of other things because of that too!

I see your point here... in my case... i gave up a job abroad just to have a baby... my life would have been very very different if i have chosen that career... but upon seen my baby everyday... and watch her grow bigger and bigger... nothing can be better than that... and i would exchange that for anything in this world... We all make our choices... but when there is a little one involve... chosing that baby is always the best...

i've always thought about this, not for me, but for my mother. she had me when she was only 18 and i think about all the things she could have done with her life if she didn't have me. it makes me feel so bad, yet im glad she diecided to keep me.

I don't think life would have been better or worse, just different. Possibly, I would have been financially better off but what is money when you have wonderful children?! I also had my first child at 19. His father was around though (and still is although we split up when he was only 2). I had been doing A-levels at college when I discovered I was pregnant. I finished them (but didn't do very well) and chose to be a full time parent to my son. It is difficult to say whether life would be better or worse. I guess now that I have my kids it's difficult to think of life without them. I wouldn't be without them but I suppose if I never had them, my life would certainly be different but I don't think it would be better.

I am also a 19 year old mother. It is very hard i know but nothing in life could be better than my son. I wouldnt change it for the world. He is a gift from GOD... you should feel really blessed...I do...