Do you think lover become spouse will be nice?

well "suitable for marriage" means something like this: a couple love each other , but not maybe in the bottom of their hearts they don't think they love the other one most. but for marriage maybe they are the most suitable one for each other,as they both take the responsiblity, willing to face the reality and the somewhat boring daily rountine life,etc. ,while their "dream lovers" may not be able to fit so much for the marriage. "Dream lovers" live in romantic, not in reality, maybe not so willingly to bear the society and family responsiblity, they just love,only love, very simple and do not ask for anything more than love itself. so these kind of lovers may be not "suitable for the marriage". Do you understand?

Honestly, no I don't because I don't think any of what you said is actually true.

ok, and i hope you could combine both as one.that's really perfect.:)

nanayangel,thinks for comment.well you make thing to the extrem.in fact i agree that people won't marry someone he/her don't love "at all". i just refer to those cases that you may love more than 2 people but you have to choose, maybe someone you do not love him most but you still love him less than the most one, and he is responsbile, the most one is not responsible,who you would choose? maybe you would do the same but i guess maybe the others may think it over.

thanks for your reply,ayou82. i wish you sucess.

nice hatley i am sure you may have a very happy family.you know you are a little special as you insist when your parents object, but in some cases some people are very hard to make a decision when their parents do not approve their husband/wife to be,especially when he/she think that their parents are for sure do the for his.her sake. i agree people should marry the one they love most but in the reality it is not always so, that's why such a question exist.

My fiance and I both went against our parents. My mom was just a little apprehensive and eventually cam around. His family completely disowned us. I don't think it's really that uncommon. I don't think that having to choose between "love" and "responsibility" all that common, either.

well for people against their parents' idea maybe common is some cases but maybe you still can't deny that people find hard to choose between parents' love and lover's love, they just need both. if run against parent may brake their hearts maybe it is also not what people want. so there is some conflict in their mind.