is this a double standard or not?

i agree to an extent.. i am a parent of 3 grown children, with the youngest in college. the other 2 are self supporting, with a marriage, and a live in boyfriend situation. none of them stayed very long after schooling, and when they finished school, and saved enough money they were in a big rush to go..! we have made it difficult for them to stay on purpose.. we spent all of our lives bringing these intelligent children up with great work ethics, and ambition. you can and of course should be able to help your kids., but they need to go and live their lives asap. My oldest son went to technical school after high school, and we made him pay rent to us., not much, but it was cheaper than living outside of our home, soon he saved enough and bought a house, our daughter went to beauty school, and could not stand our rules, and she went and lived with her best friend for a couple of years, and probly did some naughty partying, and had fun,, but i didnt have to see it! she now makes a lot of money and lives with her boyfriend,.. and my last son is going to college, and is sure to be in huge debt when he is finished., but having been away from us, already, he is saying that he will most likely stay where he is and make it on his own.. we are extremely happy, and would of course let him come home,, but once they taste that freedom, and realize you don't foot the bills anymore,, they will move on and live their lives! Not to say, that we of course, would help in an emergency event with any of them. Its just important to let them be poor, work hard, and appreciate all that they can achieve on their own!

I think the problem here is there aren't enough places to live with the number of people in this city. I do think every child should move out for a period of time, if possible, to learn how to live on their own. It can be with a group of friends, as I know living alone isn't possible here. My oldest daughter left the state after finding she couldn't survive on minimum wage. The problem our wages are not enough to pay rent and she was tired of room mates not paying their share of the rent. The youngest daughter is now living in two houses while attending college. She is here two days a week and lives some place else the rest of the week. We are trying to help her learn how to live on her own and know in 2009 she will have saved enough to move away from this area. I think many members are lucky living in low cost states where their children can find affordable housing. Right now, my state is laying off large numbers of people making the problem even worse with even more people living in one place. Yesterday on the news they showed a family with 30 other family members all living in one small house everyone sleeping on the floor. It was a very crowded house.