what would you choose, friends or lover?

I would definitely choose my lover, is really hard to find a person you love and get the love back but is really easy to find people to go out with and have fun. If my lover doesn't like my friends she/he would have a reason for it so why i am gonna ruin my life if then those friends find their love and they just leave beside so what s the whole point of doing something that the other person won't do for u .

I actually made this choice very recently, my man came between me and my friends and I chose my friends. They are the ones that have been there for me for life whereas men in my life have come and gone. Funnily enough we have made a really good transition into being friends so perhaps that what I relationship was supposed to be but we got confused somehow at the beginning. I feel it is important for your friends and lover to get on as they are both very important parts of your life. The question I would ask is how long have these people been friends and are they true friends or just aquaintances, look deep into to your heart and imagine your life with this person only or a life with your frineds without this person, whatever feels right go with. It is a very personal decision and one only you can make. Ellie :D

i would choose my friends, i would never trade my friends for a boy, if i will meet one. My friends will always be there for me, whatever happen. My friends knows more about me, and accepts me for who am i. A girl / boy who makes a person choose between her or the friends, is only thinking about his / her seLF. tHAT kind of person is selfish. I would not risk my friends by choosing a person like that. if ever someone will let me choose between my friends and a cute boy. I would choose my friends, there is alot of boys/ girls that i could meet in the world.

I believe I would have to choose my love over my friends, especially in a marriage. My husband is my best friend and I do not have time to do much outside of my marriage. I have tried and it just didn't work out. Friends want to much from me.

Hello dear ngf. First of all, I will try to find out for what reason she does not like my friends, which is very important. I need to know that reasonable excuse about this before I can make any choice between her and my friends. I will never make a decision so easily without making an analysis and judgement before making the final decision. It is better to take up some time than to haste. I am sure that a good result will be reached only after the analysis to the special case as to whom to choose. Thanks.

i'm a girl,if i love my boyfriend,i will not let him feel in a quandary.

I think it's very difficult. I will try my best to let my lover has a good relationship with my friends. If my lover still dislike them, perhaps I have to give up my friends. Perhaps lover is still the most important for me.

I think if she really loves you, she should not make you choose between the two. Not unless, your friends are a bad influence to you. However, if you need her in your life, you may want to choose her because of the following reasons: 1. She will be committed to you and you will always have the support you may need, friends cannot be there for you always. 2. Friends will not satisfy your emotional need for love or romance. Besides, you can get another set of friends if you are that sociable, which I guess you are. 3. Your friends will understand you if you choose to be with your girlfriend. You can keep distance from them but you can still socialize with them when the need arises.

Well, hello my friend, A god topic, but friends are more important than lovers. If she really loves you she would respect you and your chose of friends. Change the question to her self, If you did not like her friends, would she let them go....I for one do not think so. There are two sides and you should discuss it in a god manner, turn the questions around....see what you/her feel about it. It´s also a great way to get to know each other well.

Before decide, ask her what is the reason behind of this. You cannot move forward before notice if the value contains the egotistic or any other reason inside, then you will need make further investigation of hearing from your friends. Egotistic is every one right, but only if is in acceptable terms. Do you want to choose blindly and lately the blade flies back to you? Of course not.. I assume what her feeling right now is, she felt insecure with the presence of your friend or a condition around you this time. She does not hate them, just be annoyed with the situation where you have get used to it when in single life. You think it's normal to you, but not the same to her, briefly, she will need time to accept, and waiting for your explanation part. If the both parties, either your friend and your spouse, are in gray area. Which means we find clueless to bring up this topic to the surface. You will need to convince your spouse, why? Because she is the newer adapter to your life, not your friend who had known you better than her. Give her some times and take your time to explain to her, the most important part is to Convince her. Without convincing, woman is rather hard to make a decision based on your words that without action. "Repair the bridge before building another one"

If you love that the girl, you should explain to her that it was alright to make a lot of friends and make one lover. If she don't accept, mean that she is selfish. If I'm given a choice, I'll choose my friends as long as they dont betray me.

If I were you I would choose my friends .because ,the friendship is more treasure . you girlfriend is just one ,but you friends is more .you will met another good girl ,and she will accept your friends .

If I'm that person I will ask the girl first. Is there something wrong with my friends? If there's nothing wrong then why should I choose between them...

In this case, I will choose my girl friend. True love is more precious than friendship,I think. I can try my best to make her and my friends get well. And I can find new friend maybe she will like .But if I choose my friend, I will lose my true love for ever. Then what do you think?

never choose. i mean why will she let you leave your friends? if she loves you, she will out up with your friends...

I would refuse to choose. I would merely tell her, the choice was hers. If she cared for me, she would need to acknowledge my friends too. It sounds as though she's a jealous person, and you'd be better off with your friends. So... give her the ultimatum. Either she takes you as you are, friends and all, or she doesn't take either! I think that might change her mind, if she really cares for you. There's no point hanging onto somebody for their looks, when they have no beauty inside. Brightest Blessings.

I was in a situation similar to that.. I started seeing a guy in October that my friends didn't like. They finally gave me the choice to either leave him or they leave me. Unfortunately I lost friends because they didn't like him for stupid reasons that I won't get in to. And I think they didn't want to see me happy, which I was. I'm still with him now and they learned to accept it and they're talking to me again. But I think if it was the other way around and my boyfriend didn't like my friends, he would have to have a really good reason not to like them.. But it also depends on how long I've been with him. My boyfriend now is like my bestfriend, we've been together three months but even still, if he absolutely hated my friends he would need a damn good reason to make me choose between him or them.. Though I think if we were together longer and were at that point where wanted to get married, I would definitely choose him over my friends. I can make new friends, but finding a guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with...Its not that easy.

Hello,nongufong! if your friend turned lover start dictating you before marriage, think what he/she would do in future to cherish self motives.and in that situation the married life would be just hell.so in my opinion friends should not be sacrificed for the friend turned lover.thank you.

I don't have a single doubt in my mind, choose your friends.

i think i choose my friends because i can't be happy with somebody that doesn't like my friends. They are like a second family, and if you sacrifice your friends for a chick,it has to be the correct one; because when you choose wrong, you lose your girl and your friends.