Am I sending out vibes?
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
March 5, 2008 10:17pm CST
Hi Friends
I had something happen today and then again tonight
That makes me wonder
Ok here's what happened..
This afternoon a guy from the power company came to access the damage to the wire.
We got to talking like I tend to do with just about everybody.
Somehow We hit on age.
He said he was 40 and I said I would remember more because I'm 57.
About this time my son came out and the guy said yes he would be sure a tree trimmer came before night.
He left and I went inside with my son..
My son then says
"Mom he was flirting with you!"
I said " He wasn't..for Gods sake I'm old enough to be his mother"
So Micah says" Mom you are looking pretty good these days and he WAS flirting"
Weird I thought..it never occurred to me that he was flirting.
Just a half hour ago a crew came to cut the limbs.
The boss stood and talked to me while they were trimming and asked how long it was like that.
We got talking about cows..
he used to be a dairy farmer and
I have worked on a dairy before so we were chatting away.
Well as he was leaving he said I should take his number incase more limbs fell so he could come right back..
He left and Micah and Caleb both said "Mom he was flirting with you too!"
The weird thing is I didn't pick up on it...
So here's my question to you all....
Am I sending out " I'm single" vibes?
I am not meaning to if I am but lately I am beginning to feel single.
Like that I like being by myself.
How can I stop whatever is going on.
I used to like to flirt but it was ok because I was happily(I thought) married and
so it was safe to flirt but I feel very uncomfortable about it now.
What do you all think?
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16 responses
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Raydene, it is all how you look at it. You are attractive because you feel good and you like yourself. Of course people enjoy being with you, and talking to you. The other thing is, you have a knack for really listening to them. You probably give eye contact,and when you are talking you do not just keep waiting for a chance to jump in with "your" part, you listen to their part of the conversation. You are making them feel good, and important. Do not change! Do not feel bad! They are just confirming that you are a really nice person.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
Lol, I don't know how old is your son. I think he is kind of suspicious about the true nature of the guys you're talking to. You can line up 10 guys in front of you and I bet...your son will tell you that all of them are flirting with you.
There's really nothing wrong with flirting for as long as we know where we stand. Sometimes, when I'm talking to my best guy friend, he will tell me that I'm flirting with him. I was taken aback since it wasn't my intention to do so.
I think there's some part of each one of us who's giving out those vibes without our knowing. You are now a free woman and have every right to do as you wish.
@ebberts (784)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Hi Raydene:
Nothing wrong with a little flirting. It makes you feel good, to flirt or to be flirted with. And honey your not old. Don't count yourself out. Even if you don't want a lover, there is alot to be said for companionship.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Mar 08
You go girl, its nice to have someone flirting with you, even if you don't know it until your son told you. You must be looking hot for an older gal. Its been so long since someone flirted with me, I probably wouldn't know it neither. hehe.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
6 Mar 08
There is no harm in flirting raydene (even if you are unaware of it), just enjoy the attention! It's good for the soul, lol!
We can give out vibes without even knowing it, and you said yourself that you feel good about yourself now, so it probably shows, and people pick up on it. You are being positive and working with the Universe girl!
@a1intnet (248)
• Mauritius
6 Mar 08
I can understand you feeling a bit uncomfortable with flirting now - it's never easy to get back on the horse. Just remember that you don't need to do anything you aren't 100% sure of - but you are allowed to enjoy the attention!! Go for it!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 08
You have a lot to give ma! You are a very warm, sensitive, sincere young lady, I say young because that's what you are, and flirting makes you feel younger in my eyes, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it whatsoever, it's flattery too, remember YOU are control and you can play it how you like it, I know it will be weird but go with your head, you know when you are ready, there's absolutely NO pressure, hugs, you're special and everyone else sees it too, you give off a lot of positive energy and that attracts xxx
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 08
Do not feel uncomfortable with it Sweet Raydene as it is normal you know
It proves what we have said a few Months ago you are still beautiful
As long as they keep it decent you have no worries Sweetie and take it as a Compliment xxx
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 Mar 08
i think more power to you girlfriend, when you got it your got it, it is a blessing not a curse, don't fight it.
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
I think you are sending out vibes withount the awareness. that vibes only man can understand. Maybe you are really pretty these day that is why even youre old with the one's your talking to they find you attractive. If you don't want to flirt don't flirt. and i know it is not on your vocabulary and too far for your personality.
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@mummymo (23706)
•
13 Mar 08
Why should you feel uncomfortable or worried about the vibes you are sending out? Its not as if you are flashing your boobs at them or anything. You are an attractive woman and the sooner you start flirting properly the better tthat is all I can say! xxx
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@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
8 Mar 08
Hi there... Awsome how conversation can turn out to be positive, especially when either person can relate to whats being said, wether be from experience or what not... But honestly, it didnt sound like they were flirting with you, it sounded more like you were sharing a mutual conversation and that it was all positive, in which your boys assumed was flirting... Good on you for being your friendly self anyway... Have a great day...
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@jitendrasingh05 (17)
• India
6 Mar 08
it depends on how you look at certain situations, if you feel like you are okie with that, you sohuld not change your behaviour becausse others are feelnig other wise, may be there is a good gap of years between you and your sons, that makes them see the world from different angle, if you okie, continue living same way, do not bother yourself about how people will react
@BarBaraPrz (47667)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
6 Mar 08
You are just in such a better state these days that you radiate great appeal. Don't think about it too much. And should someone of interest happen along... well... you won't have to think about that, either! ;o)
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
7 Mar 08
well I read some of your responses to other peoples' comments...I have to say this. Even if you aren't looking for a relationship...it is ok to go to dinner with someone...just be up front with them. call that tree trimmer back and see what happens...just for fun if for no other reason...I see nothing wrong with it if you are single...have a little fun and get some free food out of the deals...LOL
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