Who should be the most important person in your partners life?
By rashmigs
@rashmigs (400)
Singapore
March 6, 2008 12:48am CST
I have heard/seen many people saying that their parents are the most important people in their life.
Do u think its right for a committed/married person to tell this?
His/Her life partner must be his/her most important person right?
Even after the marriage, if the guy continues giving preference to his parents instead of his wife, do u think he is doing it right?
Or is it a common thing that exists? Do you accept him the way he is?
How are you like? Or how would you react if u feel that ur partner gives preference to someone else other that you?
5 responses
@ajitsh (5)
• India
6 Mar 08
Yes, it is not right. It shows his/her immature behavior. For your qs: Is it a common thing? and Do u accept him the way he is? I am not sure if this is a common thng, but where ever it is, the girl usually accepts him the way he is, while a guy doesn't tolerate it and also shows his intolerance in not so subtle a manner. Why is it so?
I've usually seen that a married (for a while) guy loves his parents and his wife equally (at least), while the girl does the same too: She loves her husband and his parents equally. I don't know if the girl has left any room for her own parents?! I could be wrong in what I've seen and undestood. I am not even sure if this is right or wrong fr the girl. Has this thought come across to u any time?
@rashmigs (400)
• Singapore
6 Mar 08
Yes you are very true! Even i feel the same.
I get a feeling that the guy is really immature!
But i still want to know if this is a common thing or is it really stupid for a guy to act this way...like "Mommy's Pet"... Haha.
I feel that the girl, once married, tends to give importance to her husband than to her parents. However, the guy may not do the same. He will still continue giving preference to his parents and then comes his wife.
Im not sure abt this observation of mine. It may not be true in all cases.
@steffyhoney (706)
• United States
6 Mar 08
I think that there is a time that you have to move on from your parents and be an adult. I mean still love your parents yes, but not to make them the most important people in your life. I think if you have a wife/husband and kids they should be the most important people. I have realized from my own experiences that your parents move on with a whole new life as should you. I know my daughter is definately more important then my parents, even my bf is to a certain extent.
@rashmigs (400)
• Singapore
6 Mar 08
Ya i understand steffy. For a girl, once she gets married, life is certainly going to change a lot. But i have seen a few married men, still being "Mommy's Pet"!
That is not a good sign though! I pity their partners for that. They need to realize that its time to change.
Thanks for your post buddy!
@babykeka80 (2084)
• United States
6 Mar 08
I think your spouse/children should be your number one. You have made a choice to spend the rest of your life with that person and they should be the most important one in your life. Marriage is the point where you leave your parents wing and start a life/family of your own. Your new family should be your number one. It definitley is for my spouse and I.
@rashmigs (400)
• Singapore
8 Mar 08
Yes, exactly. I agree with u!
Its for sure that he is still going to love his parents... but should give first preference to his wife and family.
People out here in India, have very diverse opinion about this topic. :)
Anyways, thanks for your post. God bless.
@priyankps2005 (535)
• India
6 Mar 08
I am concentrated on my partner....But i'll be angry if she is giving prefrance to other guyz....I'll surely scold on her on her behaviour...She has to loyal with me....
@rashmigs (400)
• Singapore
6 Mar 08
Ok. Ya i understand. That is very obvious that u dont want your wife to hang out with other guys.
But if she loves her parents more than you, then it would be wrong of you to stop her. But at the same time, you will be restless about the fact that she loves someone else(in this case, her parents) more than u.
How would u react then?
