Misery Loves Company!!!!
By bellaofchaos
@bellaofchaos (11538)
United States
March 6, 2008 8:31am CST
Ok we all know the syaing misery loves company! Have you ever experienced that first hand? I use to know a couple that were like that ... Their form of misery was that you can only be friends with them and have no other friends but them and they would literally go around and try and ruin your friendship with other mutual friends that you had.
So what is your experience if any with misery loving company?
I know that we have all had one.
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9 responses
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Gee...that sounds like the situation I went through last summer when I made the big mistake of introducing my two best friends to each other. The one friend that I had known for about a year longer started trying to separate me and my other friend so that she could have each of us to herself, but keeping the other friendship from continuing. Needless to say, that one backfired in her face BIG time. Still, it makes me wonder how many other people she has tried that with. Sad to say, because of her misery, she is a very lonely person most of the time.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Oh the two I know are masters of minipulation. They really are good at twisting every little thing you say. LOL!! I have one friend that is still friends with him and they tried that with him and me and you know what he came to me and I said to him you know me better than that and he was like yep just wanted to let you know.. Guess what he hardly even talks to them know they are good a wanting you around when you are useful but if you're not go away!!LOL!! But I've been done with them for over a year now and my life is so much more peaceful with out them. LOL!!!!
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
6 Mar 08
A friend of mine has parents that fit this to a tee. They are 86 and they are constantly at each other's throats. I have to wonder why they never divorced. His dad was an a*s and left his mom to raise 5 kids while he went out cheated and got drunk all the time. Obviously she never forgave him because she brings it up to this day...she never left because divorce just isn't right..that's what she said. I guess she would rather be miseable and at his throat but it is pretty funny to watch..Have a great one!
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Man if divorce just ain't right then I guess the simple solutions would be a frozen orange. LOL!!!
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
8 Mar 08
OMG- that was funny and so fitting for them..
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Mar 08
i think we all know people like that. I do my best to stay away from people like that. misry is as catchy as the flu, and makes you feel as sick. i think when you allow yourself to be around people like that, you get sucked into that drama of being unhappy and complaining. no thank you
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I honestly so hate the drama. I have five kids that is enough drama in it's self... LOL!!!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I have never ever ever felt better by knowing someone was as miserable as I was. When I am down and out, I need to be around people who are upbeat and possitive to help me pull out of my funk. I tend to downplay my bad mood or sad mood or whatever in order to attract such people. When I'm in a lousy mood, it is my goal to get out of it not stay in it and drag others down as well. I know people like you describe and I just will never understand them. It can't be healthy and must only serve to keep them in whatever negative mood they are in.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
8 Mar 08
When I'm in a bad mood I so try and work it out so that I can get happy again and I hate to drag everyone down with me that is why I have a persona that I do when I'm upset it's the inner happy me. LOL!! I never want my kids to see or know when I'm having a bad day or upset. So I tend to play happy even when I'm not. LOL!!!
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Not me. When I am miserable I just want to be left alone because I know I will project my misery on anyone unfortunate enough to have to be around me.
But I have this friend who refuses to let me be miserable. She is always trying forcing me to go out or talk to her or something to get my misery off of my chest.
I let her. I figure I can never be more miserable then she is considering her SO so I just go with the expert at times like those ;)
@mummymo (23706)
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12 Mar 08
OMG they sound like the friends from he11 - who would need enemies with friends like that! Someone I know used to hurt themselves if you had an argument, I mean they would punch themselves, pull out their own hair, scratch at their skin , bang their head against walls etc - you were forced into constantly agreeing with them. I do realise that they needed help but they refused to get it and I am sorry if I sound cruel or harsh but I just couldn't be around them anymore in the end! xxx
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
13 Mar 08
NO it doesn't sound cruel I have had to stop being friends with these ones because of how they are. LOL!!!!
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
6 Mar 08
I had friends like that. Two in fact, one was always envious of the other and would literally forbid me to hang out with the other person. I had to hang out with ONLY him and it drove me crazy. I lost friends and never regained any because he always wanted to be around me, he felt he was my ONLY true friend. I don't like people like that, because those people are insecure.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
6 Mar 08
AFter my firends that are like that tried that I have cut ties. I don't need to be sucked into the misery with them.
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
7 Mar 08
i know alot of people like this i seem to know tha they're just bitter and have a small amount of friedns cause the majority they had they ran them away , i really cant stand people like that and they use they're sadness for pitty ..ehhh some time i just want to shout GET OVER IT !!
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
8 Mar 08
There are two things that you can do when you're in a situation that your unhappy one is get off your a$$ and change it. 2 the other is to wallow in it till you die. I opt for the 1st one.
