I Vow To Love You as Long as You OBEY Me

We stuck with the traditional scrript the justice of the priest uses, however, we got married after they changed the obey part ;)

I like this one, Cyn. We wrote our own vows, and they were so lovely, and we also had the traditional vows read. Stu's dad married us in the church where he was the pastor for many years. It's a gorgeous church, and it actually remained standing when I walked into it. Whew, what a relief. It was really the most beautiful wedding. Very untraditional. Oh, and obey didn't come anywhere near. That's one thing that I can give him major credit for. He puts no restraints (no, not that kind) on me at all. In fact, I went out last night to a jazz club by myself to hear some music and I had such a good time, and I'm going out again tonight, probably by myself, and he's fine with it. No probs. And it really has to be that way. I couldn't deal with someone telling me that I can't do something. We'd do some serious head-butting. My hubby is a gem in that area. Bless his heart. So, I'll let you know how that went. I'll probably do a discussion of some sort about the experience. See ya later, darlin.

when i got married its traditional one..and respected every words of it during the ceremony...its how the couples understand it that makes the differences..if you love someone and vice versa i guess its going to be alright....writing our own vows is nice and good but i prefer the original one...

I don't remember what I did for my wedding vows. He never kept them anyways, so they obviously meant nothing to him. lol. I'm almost certain we took out the "obey" in the traditional vows as well. It would be in the program we made up for our guests. They're all packed up in a box somewhere in the basement. I am not going to go searching for it either. It's there for the boys sometime, if they even care about it when they're older. Come to think of it.. maybe things would have been different if we kept the word "obey" in the vows. Hmmmm.... :P Nah.. I was more than happy to divorce his sorry butt. LOL!

Ughhh marriage, I should have written my own vows when I got married..at the very least made this vow to myself- don't do it..LOL. I didn't write my own but obey wasn't in there- had it been I probably would have thrown up my kumquat right there..

Funnily enough, my wife opted to leave obeying me in. Hasn't made a blind bit of difference. She orders, I obey.

My husband and I eloped, and the vows the JP read did not include obey. If they did, I would have stopped him right there. We are going to have a religious cerimony, where we will write our own vows. We eloped so we could sign some papers and get our visas in order (I'm Canadian, he's American), but we still want a religious cerimony.

My husband and I wrote our own vows, for a variety of reasons. Or rather, we worked on them together with the UU minister who married us (who is a dear friend of mine). Part of the reason we wrote our own vows is that we were actually involved in a polyamorous relationship at the time we got married, so some of the stuff that sounds more "exclusive" didn't really apply to us at the time. Also, I had a pretty bad opinion of marriage for a long time because of various historical problems with marriage, so by writing our own vows, we made our marriage a personal bond between the two of us more so than part of the "institution of marriage". Sorry to answer your discussion so late, but I just ran into it and found it interesting, so eh.

I think I will write my own wedding vows when the time will come...